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33 F Ventura, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
A little extra
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Be the Spock to my Kirk.

New News: Spent the day at the beach... odd to write that. Trying to figure out how to live with my couch now... as odd as that sounds.

KS>NY (Westchester)>DC (DMV)> Southern California (Ventura County)

Testing out the waters of the Pacific and doing a very un-scientific study to see which area of the country I like best! Bring on the West Coast!

I am very friendly and can be seen as 'out going' but at heart I'm an introvert, in that I need my solitude and quite time in order to recharge and regroup.
I love a good conversation about almost anything.
Increasingly feeling like I'm to weird for the normal dudes (fluffy, fashion style is more I like this than anything else, not really being socially aware in that.. so I shouldn't have said that.. shit) and to normal for the weirdos (I have a stable job and get scared when my budget goes out of whack and surprises scare me, not thrill me)... umm.
I like my job and will nerd out on you about old documents and information.
I don't like to run, I don't get marathons and I'm not quite sure how all of this became popular while I was working two jobs... I think I missed a memo some place.
I love creating things, in any form really, from cooking to painting to writing and random little craft projects.
My parents used to make my sister and I go camping as kids so they wouldn't have to pay for hotels on vacations (it works, a tent and a 10x10 piece of grass are cheaper than a hotel room) so I don't have the fascination with 'camping and hiking' that a lot of Okcupiders seem to have.
I enjoy cooking and drinking cheap wine.
I long to be a coffee snob but my wallet tells me to put down that European wanna be coffee and get what ever is on sale.
What I’m doing with my life
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"I became an archivist because I am nosy." - quote from a former boss and a kick-ass lady. This is why I do what I do. I am endlessly curious about everything. Seriously, you could be a worm gardener and I would ask you a thousand questions about it.

Attempting to do more creative writing. I mostly do poems but am trying to nail the art of short story or novel. *sigh*
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can read situations pretty decently though I have a bitch of a time figuring out how to make them go my way.

“ Don’t settle. Don’t finish crappy books. If you don’t like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you’re not on the right path, get off it. ”
Chris Brogan
Trying my hardest to live this way.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am fluffy and friendly :)

Or at least that's what I presume most people are looking at, hi... you are not thin, ohh and you also speak in a loud voice. I don't mind if you tell me to be a bit more quiet, I blame theater in high school for that, or simply yelling tends to be a form of communication in my family. I also tend not to be 'office politics' with my friends, if I like you then I like you, I'm not looking to advance my career or social status by knowing you, I just want good friends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A) I have a ton of favorite books but here are just a few of them that I reallllllly like: Glory for Me, I was Amelia Earhart, The Sex Book, The Blind Assassin (I adore M. Atwood, anything by her is good in my book), Columbine, Stiff, Valley of the Dolls, Still Missing, The Hunger Games, and fan fiction... I have no shame, some of it is really great stuff!

B)Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Bridget Jones's Diary, Sliding Doors, Italian for Beginners, Kissing Jessica Stine, The Best Years of Our Lives, Notorious, Match Point - I tend to like Woody Allen as long as he isn't in the movies.... he freaks me out in that... dude you are wayyyy to into teen chicks to be anything other than creepy.

C) I'm pretty much open to anything and listen to most things. I listen to lyrics and find the poetry in them, then listen to the actual music.

D) Im a foodie, Ill try anything once!! Oddly enough for a midwest white girl Mexican is a comfort food as well as a good cheeseburger and a nice steak. I love Indian and Mediterranean food, (goat and lamb yes please) and as a coastal transplant (currently going from East to West) have a healthy love for fish, crab and everything in between :) I realize this is meat heavy.... eekk love the veggies too just ... I learned how to cook heavy mid-west/minor south style and the things I tend to do off the top of my head are steaks and fish and chicken... but I do love to cook veggies and such! I just need a recipe or something.

E) T.V. -Got cable back and am watching my sports again! A few of my favorite shows though are Star Trek - Grew up on TNG but have a love of TOS and Spock... accidentally fangirled when I found a geek store in Belfast and scared off some of the locals when I found Spock ears... not my best moment, Mad Men

F) Art! Loveeee Frida Kahlo, Edward Hopper and Picaso are a few of my favorites, but I love going to art museums and finding out what strikes me. :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Thoughts peppering about lately: How am I going to afford my new life style and shit... am I acting like an East Coast person on the West Coast or is it just me!!?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends, watching TV, playing on the net, pissing off the cat... you know, typical people things. Actually I really love just going to dinner and talking with a few close friends, I like going out but at the end of it all I tend to be a bit of a home body and think a great night is a bottle of wine and a wonderful friend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I would eat cat or dog if cooked properly... and lets face it, when they are cooking Guinea Pig in Peru on the Discovery channel, that stuff looks like all sorts of tasty.
You should message me if
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I'm 33 ... have your shit well on the way to being figured out... I do.

In addition I'm going to be a newbie in the area so any tips and thoughts on where to go and what to do! Friendship welcome too!!

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