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  • Ages 30-35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Yesterday – 5:52am
5' 0" (1.52m)
Body Type
Full figured
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
My self-summary
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Laughing is my absolute favorite thing to do -- especially when it is in the library or during a meeting. You know that moment when everyone in the room is incredibly serious and focused, and someone says something that can be interpreted as a sexual innuendo? Or inadvertently uses a phrase from a popular rap song? I immediately scan the room to see if I am the only person one who caught the joke and inevitably I find someone else who is doing the same thing. After we acknowledge one another, we begin the arduous task of maintaining our composure. I often lose the battle, and I love it.

I love being a Black woman and I am passionate about my pursuit of freedom, justice, healing, truth, empowerment, love, and (r)evolution.

I have an insatiable curiosity to "know," and be known, epistemologically and interpersonally. I enjoy intellectual conversations as much as I like talking about popular (Black) culture, sex, queerness, drag, fashion, and fabulosity. I love creating new knowledge by sharing respective "truths" -- and using that knowledge to empower myself and others relegated to the margins. I would like to connect with women who actively participate in this struggle, and who can help me become a better agent in my transformative efforts.

I am a hopeless romantic. In a radical, revolutionary, Black lesbian feminist kinda way. That being said, I guess I am a "hopeless" romantic in the context of a very real battle against the self-hatred and nihilism resulting from hegemony, racism, sexism, heterosexism, sizism, and the prison industrial complex. I wanna hold hands while we fight to "stay woke" and love ourselves.

At the risk of sounding anti-feminist, "I like big butts and I cannot lie!" Strong, intelligent, driven, and beautifully thick femmes make me lose my breath. I also tend to enjoy a good booty-clap...just saying.
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently, I am working to finish up my Ph.D. a joint Psychology and Women's Studies program. My work examines cultural constructions and expressions of sexuality among Black women, and the political and social factors that influence sexual attitudes and behaviors. I research sex and relationships and how women of color navigate them in the context of their intersectional, culturally centered selves. I also think about the ways that hip hop and Black popular culture shape our sexualities.

Mostly I read and write boring papers about very interesting and important things, and then I go home and stress out about whether or not I will secure an academic job this year. Very boring stuff!
I’m really good at
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Paying attention, working hard, perspective taking, thinking critically, communicating, sleeping in, being a gold star lesbian, dancing, being my authentic self, questioning everything, making people laugh, speaking my mind, and "hating on" popular trends. I'm also pretty good at giving myself fabulous manicures and keeping my eyebrows on fleek.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair, smile, fantastic eye make-up, confidence, race, height, my deliciously chunky body, and color coordinated outfits (not necessarily in that order).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A few of my favorite books: Black Sexual Politics by Patricia Hill Collins, Race Matters by Cornell West, No Disrespect by Sista Soulja, The Mis-Education of the Negro by Carter G. Woodson, and several books by Franz Fanon. I also love reading Beverly Guy Sheftall, Dorothy Roberts, Melissa Harris-Perry, Angela Davis, Audre Lorde, bell hooks...ya know, all the Black Feminist greats.

Movies: Crash, For Colored Girls, Malcolm X, The Five Heartbeats, What's Love Got to Do with It, A League of Their Own, Kill Bill (I and II), nearly all Wes Anderson, Quentin Tarantino, and Baz Luhrmann films!, Mean Girls, Magnolia and Boogie Nights, The Science of Sleep, The Squid and the Whale, Precious: Based on the Novel "Push" by Sapphire...and a million independent films.

Shows: Old stuff like A Different World, Martin, Living, and newer things like Single Six Feet Under, LHHATL, RHOA, Bob's Burgers, everything HGTV, Project Runway, RuPaul's Drag Race, and Girls. Admittedly, I LOVE television.

Music: This could take forever, so I will list a few favorites. Beyoncé, Lil Wayne, Tegan and Sara, Rihanna, LeTigre, Rilo Kiley, Broken Social Scene, Foreign Exchange, Feist, Sia, Jill Scott, Modest Mouse, Yeah Yeah Yeah's, Erykah Badu, and Metric. Generally, just lots of R&B, Rap, Indie, and country music. I am very passionate about music.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The ability to think critically, laughter, music, lotion, lip gloss, and gum.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
All of my intersecting identities, fabulous music, sex and sexuality, fashion, interior design, emotional growth, my research, building community, non-violent communication, oppression, racism, love, success, California, and brilliant, smart, "boss" women with big booties, thick thighs, and beautiful lips and smiles. Sigh.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dining/drinking with friends or at home practicing self-love/self-care. They say self-care is a revolutionary act -- I'm still trying to get it right.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I hate idioms. Also, I have a very low tolerance for individuals with a great sense of entitlement and an even greater level of ignorance. People who say terribly classist and racist things aloud with absolutely no cognizance of the diverse (and disparate) realities of others supremely annoy me. Also, I can't stand when people don't know the difference between your and you're.
You should message me if
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You are socially, racially and politically conscious.
You are funny.
You are sweet and charming.
You have fantastic music to share with me.
You are smart!
You enjoy intellectual challenge.
You celebrate sexuality but ONLY date and fuck women.
You can call me out on my shit.
You are attracted to me.