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Pennylanewdstk

51 F Woodstock, NY

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, French, Bengali, Frisian, Latvian

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My self-summary
I was born in Tokyo to American parents, grew up in Geneva, moved to this country as a young teen....., and that's my big opening line. Btw, this profile page is waaaaaay too long, and needs editing. Anyone wanna help, let me know. So anyway....most of my teenage years were spent in Woodstock, where my family moved to after Switzerland. I was very very lucky to have been able to experience that town when I did. So many artists and bands, from the Stones ( who did Exile On Main Street here) to The Psychedelic Furs, The B - 52's...all showed up in town to record albums at Todd Rundgren's Utopia Studios ( Todd lived here....on Mink Hollow road, of course?) The Stones played an impromptu gig at a local place, which is the kind of thing that happened alot back then. Btw, Mick Jagger seduced, and spent the weekend with my (18 year old) friend, who said he was "really nice and great in bed" and has a good story to tell ( along with thousands of other women)....hah! All kinds of people came through.... Bo Diddly, The Band, of course. Dylan and Levon Helm lived here, Dave Brubeck, Donald Fagan (who still does)..... there were so many. It was a time when great music and musicians were everywhere.

I want to go 'off topic' for a moment. The age ranges that I put down for me are really ball park figures. Age really is so damn relative, and there are young people who seem 'old' and 'old' people who are young. That being said, originally, I had a somewhat higher 'age range' here, and I was getting alot of messages from much older guys who really were, well, older......in appearance and attitude. To be totally honest, I also started to get annoyed by all the men my age who had 25-40 as their 'range', so I decided to put 30 at the lower end. That was also influenced by some 'lovely messages' (to quote OKC) I have received from some younger fellows, which got me thinking.....why not? Ok. Glad we had this talk

I love language, words.......riffing on life. Lived in France when I was in my 20s, married a French guy, and learned to speak French. Not necessarily in that order, though. This describing one's self thing is super uncomfortable. Well, ok, I'm starting to warm up, but really, i'm better at showing off in person? So many "I " sentences......goodgrief. Maybe that's a healthy reaction to it. OK, moving on. At my age, you're supposed to know yourself, a little, anyway, although I sort of don't really like any sentence that begins with 'at my age'. Having said that, I do know a few things about myself, especially what I'm not. I'm not boring or insipid or, in the very least, try not to be (and now you already know I'm not dumb, due to clever word usage?)

I like to be self mocking, because I suppose there is plenty about 'the self' to mock. I dislike anything that smells of self importance ( making this entire profile seem like utter hypocrisy, but, you know, hey) I often laugh loud and hard if I think somethings funny. On occasion , friends have been known to move a seat or two down the aisle in a movie theater, if Im getting too sort of loud....but I really do try and keep a handle on it.

Somehow, I've raised a bright and lovely daughter, who is smarter, wiser and cooler than me, ( ....if that's even possible?) so I suppose it's fair to say "the student has surpassed the master". She is a young woman out in the world now, and while I am always her mom, we are friends, and I don't just love her, I really respect and like her, too.

One more thing. I must comment on the questions and results of same. The "OK Cupid" graph says I'm ' less mannered', 'more aggressive', 'kinkier', ' less romantic' and more 'indie' than other women. The thing is, I did answer the questions as honestly as I could, given the fact that some.of the choices were very constraining. And btw, I still can't believe I even answered most of those sex questions, mygod. But then I think, well, what's the big deal. Having said that, I would like to say that I'm a serious person, and I am not here to find casual sex. That is easy enough to get, if one so desires it. I would hope for something more meaningful than that. And many of the 'conclusions' aren't really all that true. The 'indie' thing, i'm ok with, but not so much the rest of it. First of all, I believe in manners, which I think are pretty damn important, as far as human behavior goes, and I am polite and really have a strong aversion to selfishness and rudeness( for example, I don't like to hurt peoples' feelings, I mean, I avoid even hurting my dogs' feelings, which is pretty much every time I leave my house without them, so thats really tough, and I think its more than rude to not give a crap about treating our planet kindly and gently ). As for the kinky reference, I am not here for anything shallow? I grew up with pretty hip liberal parents who didn't put a lot of shame or guilt around the whole subject of sexuality, but I am not a casual person. That doesn't mean something needs to be a big huge deal? I am romantic, but not so much in the western sense ( well, OK, I realize the word itself is derived from Western sensibilities ) that implies all the things our culture has made it into, and reduced it to. I hope this helps to offset some of the 'staff robot's' conclusions, even a little bit, for God's sake. Thankyouverymuch
What I’m doing with my life
Besides fumbling and stumbing in the dark, and doin the best I can? In the American sense,meaning career....that would be human services, social work, which is something i'm good at and I like. That being said, I really love how you can be talking to , say, anybody from Europe, really, or most people who are NOT American, and more often than not, they don't ask you what you do for work, but are usually more interested in a sort of 'broader' sense of the word. So, as in what am I doing doing, I love walking around in the woods with my dogs, reading books on all manner of subjects ( currently a bio of Winston Churchill, and you really should be a little impressed, in the very the least), seeing live music and theater, and movies. I'll be checking out some of the films ( those are called 'FILMS') at the Woodstock Film Festival. I like to write,I like to travel ( I mean , doesn't everyone? ) , although haven't done nearly enough of that in a while. I like to go to NYC, and check out the old neighborhood and talk about how 'soft' it's become, and how much it's changed, with all the nice stoops chained off, the 'GAP' on St.Mark's. Not to mention all the upscale.kids living in the old tenement buildings, with tiny fifth floor walk ups on ave. A and 2nd street, going for a quarter mill now......the same ones that used to have bathtubs in the kitchen and cockroaches the size of gerbils.....
I’m really good at
Sounding like I know more than I do, which can be quite helpful in, say, a job interview. I'm a great audience, if somethings good, but a bit tough if somethings kind of weak ( hey, it ain't easy to have high standards). Making a home warm, and beautiful and livable, is something I like to do. I love to take my doggies to the river, and throw in sticks for them. By the way, I put Woodstock down for where I live, because I am right near there now,.and alot of people don't know/haven't heard about Saugerties. I am a Woodstock kid at heart, but I like the proximity to the river in Saugerties, actually two converging rivers, which I think gives this town a nice feel, and I used to be good at chess, but in case you play, and you're really good,.I don't want to set myself up to be slammed.......
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically? Describing myself , how I look? I do want to say I dislike the OKC choices for body type. I put "curvy" because it was the only close option. However, my daughter said that "curvy" is often an 'e-dating' euphamism for sort of large, and I am not large or even close to 'sort of'. Sometimes I get comments on my green eyes. But who knows? This part of the profile makes me really queasy. People often say that I'm friendly? But since this is asking what 'people' notice, and therefor, although I am a 'person', I don't feel qualified to answer......
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like classic literature as well as a good biography/non-fiction. Goodlord, this is a long, and self important sounding list. Sorry. Listen, I was an English. Lit. major, who btw, cannot spell, so cut me some slack, ok? Im not trying to show off. Well, at least, not trying any harder than you are? But, SO, I have a special love for passionate, life affirming authors, being a passionate, life affirming, well, person ( I do like reading about the dark and macabre side of life as well. It's all part of the spectrum, and what I like/ respond to has more to do with the quality of the writing than anything else). Two favorite writers in the ' life affirming/passionate' catagory being D.H.Lawrence and Leo Tolstoy. It has been years since. I' ve read the classics...from Homer to Joyce, Melville....and theres Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson, Allan Ginsburg, William Burroughs, and I'll segway on to Henry Miller,who' s stuff I read as a teenager, and re- read again this year. I love me some great Russian writers .....Solzhenitsin, Chekov, Pushkin, Dostoyevski and NO, okc, I do not think Lolita/ Nabakov is over rated, goodGOD...the man didn't just write lyrically and beautifully...that novel seeped into modern thought, and became shorthand for a certain kind of man and young girl/woman ( that filthy Russian perv sure was great, boy)... Virginia Woolfe, Hermann Hess's Siddhartha was one of my first favorite 'adult' books, as was The Autobiography of Malcom X, Oscar Wilde, Mark Twain, George Orwell, Kurt Vonnegut, Hunter Thompson, Davis Sedaris, just read Rachel Maddows book, Drift. Then there's Hemingway,Capote, and for non fiction, I love to read about history and pretty much anything, because so much is so damn interesting. I have trouble sleeping sometimes, so I read a lot in the middle of the night. I always have a few on rotation. Lately I've been reading a lot of stuff by Micheal Pollan, who my daughter turned me on to ( The Omnivore's Dilemma is great, but they all are) as well as John Krakauer, he is wonderful (" Into The Wild", "Where Men Win Glory" to name a couple) and Bill Bryson, he's funny and brilliant. For films, I like many directors. Even if some of them have made more bad films than good ones, just making one great film is quite a feat. Scorsese, Kubrick, Herzog, Mira Nair, Baz Luhrmann, Ingmar Bergman, Lynch, Mel Brooks, Goddard, Malle, Fellini, The Big Lebowski, The King's Speech (saw it many times. Could watch it again) , Stranger Than Paradise, Cabaret, Doctor Zhivago, La Strada, A Dangerous Method, 1900, Fannie and Alexander, High Noon,.Shane, Apocolypse Now, Annie Hall, The Godfather....my god, the list goes on forever? I love Colbert, Mahr, and of course John Stewart, who kinda started that TV format of great political commentary/parody/comedy. I do netflix rather than TV quite alot: Breaking Bad ( still not sure about that one)House of Cards, Mad Men, Orange Is The New Black....I have an affection for Pawn Stars which is oddly addicting. Music 'likes' are all over the map and Im running out of room and likely losing my audience here with my endlessrambling ( goodgrief I hope I don't sound too self important...yikes. Unless self important is your thing?).....I love 'punk' fom the good old days of Television, Velvet Underground, The Ramones,.NY Dolls, Iggy Pop......Elvis Costello, The Kinks, ohboy, how do you talk about music without going on and on. And on. There's jazz , Charlie Parker, Coltrane, Miles Davis, did I mention Charlie Parker? I'm not sure I can think many things as beautiful as him playing "Lover man"......and then Billie Holiday, Dinah Washington.....where to stop....the list is endless.....classical, soul, rock and roll, reggae, anything thats done with feeling and style....Hank Williams, Patsy Cline....there's so many, so many,its amazing I have time to try and meet someone. Food? I love lots of types and cultures and flavors......and I think dessert can be its own brand of heaven......
The six things I could never do without
The six things I could never do without.
The longer I'm around, and the more things I've lost or had to let go of, I guess I don't think there's too much that I would put on the 'can't live without' list. I think it's pretty fair to say love is hard to live without. All and any, not just romantic . I love being outside somewhere beautiful. I like avocados. I am an avid collector of great quotes, like : " The greatest thing in life is to donate anonymously and be discovered accidentaly" - O. Wilde. And " Everything in life is our fault. But that' s not our fault " - Quentin Crisp. I do love seeing the great things that people can do, big and small. Most everyone likes to laugh, and it' s pretty much essential for surviving life...and as the picture above shows, I love puppies......yeah, I know, pretty cliché, but, I mean, who doesn't love a puppy I ask?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where are my #%$& keys, who really did win the ' War of the Roses'? Why I even bother to write so much in this profile...because really, who tf cares? And is anyone really reading this work of profound yet funny\ ironic self description? I know I do. Read the profiles
that is....if they sound interesting and veer off from the usual drivel about how " smart /funny" someone says they are, and that they' re a really "sincere, nice guy" who is looking for his " soulmate", " works hard and plays hard " and "hates drama" . Not for nothing, if a man thinks flexing his biceps and alluding to ( wink wink) " size" is gonna excite a gal, he might well be right....but i' m not that gal. I think a certain amount of subtlety is much sexier and more confident. There needs to be some substance along with 'style' for me, anyway. I also think about why do so many men on OKC pose with their pick up trucks, or other vehicles? And the ' selfies' taken in their bathrooms, without a shirt.....I wonder...why do they not at least tidy up the mess by their sink, before taking the pic? And why....do they take it...in the first place? Sometimes I think....although not obsessively....why did I do some of the stuff that I did in my life, and damn if I wouldn't sometimes like to go back and tell my younger self a thing or two, forGODsake. How many more hours I have until I need to get up. My mom and dad, who are getting so very frail, and except for being there for them as much as I can, I am fairly and completely powerless to change that fact. I think about thinking, and how it does seem to have lost it's popularity sometimes,.although, not with ME, naturally.....no, never? Golly, does this makes me sound.....a bit crazy maybe? The thing is, I'm really not. Crazy, that is. Except ina good, fun kinda gal kinda way. Oh, and I'm now thinking, why do I use so many 'dotdotdots'..........?
On a typical Friday night I am
Either home, telling myself.I'm totally cool with that, or out with friends, listening to live music and maybe sometimes wishing I was either home, or in France. Yes...I love France and the French, almost as much as they love themselves, and I speak it( c'est la verité, and this probably does.not impress anyone except me, although it should, you know, impress you) which I learned as a kid in Switzerland.....except I must add that I recently attempted a conversation with a French friend, and was reminded of how alarmingly 'rusty' I've becomedue to lack of practce.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Most of the sex questions would qualify, goodgrief........that stuff is pretty $%&$ private....but hey, it's just sex, right? And how else do you get to see what you think about it all? Oh, and maybe this isn't so private, but I have a thing for men with a little facial hair.....neat, short.....if it looks good, I think that can be...nice.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
This one stumps me. The abstract answer would be "if.....your my kinda guy"....and of course, If i'm your kinda girl. Having said that, Im more sure of what I don't go for, than what I do. I don't go for right wing conservative men. If your looking for a nice pliable young thing, I assume you wouldn't have bothered to read this much, but to be clear, I'm nice...but I'm not pliable, and the young thing part? I have a young daughter, and although she's not single, it would feel strange, in a boundry sort of way, if a guy wanted to date people younger than, say, 29. I don't much go for superficial guys who think a fancy car and some money is some kind of turn on. Im not looking for anything too heavy, but casual isn't my thing either, if that makes sense. I like smart. I like really really smart. I like a warped and ironic take on things, but also someone who doesn't take themselves to damn seriously. I like tall and goodlooking. But tall can also be an attitude. I've never had a type. Chemistry is an interesting thing......