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32 Sai Kung, Hong Kong Man


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  • Ages 24–42
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Last online
Mar 21, 2013
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university

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My self-summary
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English Lit & Philosophy graduate seeking to further studies in Modern Literature, preferably in Edinburgh, when I can scramble the sufficient pennies together. Current status: Scrambling those same pennies and trying to not live too miserably in the process.
What I’m doing with my life
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I came to Hong Kong on a whim to teach kindergartens English and my dealings with the bureaucratic end of things could send Franz Kafka into a black hole of despair. Still, five year olds are great. After a struggle of a beginning, I'm attempting to gain better control of my life here and if not quite soar, at least to amble along without too much grief. I read, mostly fiction, and I write in my spare time.
At the weekends, I'm trying to do more hiking and involve myself in more outgoing homosocial activities such as bowls in Causeway Bay.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I enjoy writing and critiqueing things. The nicest thing anyone said about me was that I was "erudite and eccentric". Which was nice. Thank you Alan. I play guitar and enjoy hammering away at knotty, angular shapes. In reality, I make noise. I can sing, though only in the shower. Also, my memory of lyrics is limited, so I often cram snatches of songs together trying hard not to confuse myself in the process. Am I good at anything? I teach five years old English and I haven't been sacked yet, but am I any good at it? I run like the wind on a sheet of air, though I'm pretty sure anyone could accomplish this given enough commitment.
The first things people usually notice about me
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How much of a nerd I am. Sometimes the first thing people notice is how impertinent I am. Sometimes the first thing people notice is how shy or subdued I am. It really depends on my mood and the circumstances! Am I feeling goofy, or am I being serious? Am I nostalgic for people I've never known and countries I've never been to; am I "foolishly melancholic" as John Cheever once wrote?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I seem to read a lot of American fiction. I'm trying to read more European fiction but I'm not sure if a lot isn't lost in translation. I am an aesthetic freak, and I tend to judge writers on expressive ability over content. However, I am not completely oblivious to context. Current and all-time writers I have enjoyed: Leonard Michaels, Nicholson Baker, John Cheever, Raymond Carver, John Updike, James Salter, James Tate, Robert Walser. All men; it must mean something. And Saul Bellow, 'cause I'm bilious like Bellow! 'The Lime Twig' by John Hawkes was the last novel which left me staggering around in a murky haze of wonderment.

Le film:
In terms of films, I am a fan of the 1970s New Hollywood: Jack Nicholson between 1970 and '76; McCabe & Mrs Miller; Shampoo. Very creative period wherein the influence of a more abstract, ambiguous European arthouse seemed to inform and intoxicate an ailing Hollywood structure leading to many wonderful, aesthetically ballsy films. That and the psychologically realist and supremely indulgent plot-free films of John Cassavetes. Hitchcock's Vertigo. Harmony Korine, Whit Stillman, Hal Hartley, Guy Maddin - plenty of quirky indie auteur stuff from the last twenty years of American cinema. The more austere Gus Van Sant stuff (Elephant). Mike Leigh for a more worthwhile take on British life. Peter Greenaway for his wit and visual acumen.
Todd Solondz's Dark Horse was the last film that blew me away; a timely riposte to all those pro-schlub male fantasy-land films that have been doing the rounds for way too long.

Twin Peaks; I enjoy giving confused waitresses in Hong Kong the Dale Cooper thumbs-up.
I find it stressful trying to committ to a tv series; so many series...
Seinfeld, anything Larry David-related. Nihilistic honest situation comedy which turns bullshit, cliched sitcom tropes on their worn heads!

Quite far ranging. Thanks to youtube I expose myself to new music everyday. I have a predilection for angular, discordant stuff (Fugazi, Slint, etc) though I could be just as happy listening to Steely Dan. I can find value in most things musically (Country, electronic, you name it) - barring maybe the vocals on reggae songs. Sometimes I pay attention to lyrics. I like risks taken, candidness and uneven tones.

Ah, lists. We could be here all day.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Clean socks.
My eye-glasses.
Some sort of reading material, even the side of a cereal box.
Some sort of music listening apparatus even if my mp3 player is like listening to a chorus of gnats re-arrange and perform my favourite music.
A spare shirt.
My hands. I'm like a neurotic film-maker waving them around me at all times.
My New Balance runners.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Distractions. And then grading those distractions. How much time I waste being parsimonial. Money vs time. The worthiness of anxiety. Making a solid album of abstract guitar music.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Preparing my surly persona to direct my Saturday morning productions with unenthusiastic secondary school students.
You should message me if
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You've read all the above and are not suitably put off. You have a daft sense of humour. You can enjoy activities which do not purely involve alcohol consumption. You can handle the presence of an awkward, nerdy male without wanting to slip into a nearby gutter and drown yourself. You like artsy-fartsy stuff, but don't take things too seriously. Actually that last bit is a goddamn lie - you can be wildly indifferent to artsy stuff.