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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23-34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:51pm
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Catholicism and laughing about it
Might want kids
My self-summary
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Let me get this out of the way... I am kinky and poly. If you are not alright with this, I wish you luck in your search. :)

[10/10/14 - I keep seeing people "like" me on the Quickmatch thing. I would love to hear people's reasons for clicking.]

I am currently dating the wonderful JMVirginia. Please feel free to say "hi!" to her, she's awesome. I'm mainly on here looking for a primary partner of my own, but I won't rule out anything. There is a possibility that you arrived here from my FetLife profile. If so, (waves). I can be found around town semi-frequently, occasionally over at the Crucible or up at Glen Echo for dancing.

I'm living in the Southwest which is quite a hoot at times. My street looks a bit run-down compared with anything even a block or two over, but the rent is cheap and I can hear when the Nats score a run or when Bruce Springsteen plays "Born to Run". I will say, I would do awful things to get a Wawa within a few blocks of my apartment.

I consider myself a bit of a geek and a borderline dork at times. Apparently, some people find it cute.

What am I looking for?
I would like to find someone who is a bit silly, yet can carry on a conversation about passionate topics. I like talking about beer, but I would like to talk about more than just beer. Tell me your thoughts on the current Supreme Court docket or on the apparent disconnect between feminism and submissive BDSM roles or the amazing new sci-fi/fantasy/noir novel you just finished. I love finding new music, introduce me to a band you love. Favorites I have found this way include Nina Simone, Neutral Milk Hotel and Robin Bullock.

As mentioned above, yes, I currently have a partner. I love her dearly and I hope we have many many years together. However, the more time goes on, the more I feel the need to find a person I can call my own. I know this cuts down the pool of available partners by something like 99.73%, but polyamory is an essential part of me. I hate the cliche, but when my partners are happy, I'm happy. When my girlfriend tells me about the lovely dinner she made for her husband and how he spoils her rotten, I get all warm and fuzzy inside. I appear to do compersion well. At the same time, I would like to find a primary of my own. I don't generally like the primary/secondary dynamic, but the terms are good for dealing with things like time allocation. Polyamory: the only relationship type that requires Excel mastery. I actually have met people who use spreadsheets to keep track of all of their partners and connections. No, I do not want to have nearly that many commitments. There does come a certain point where poly can get silly.

Okay, if I haven't scared you off yet, send me a message. :)
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working at a new organization dedicated to consumer financial rights. Yay for working at start-ups!

Somehow I can't shake
the feeling I might make
a difference to the human race.

I would describe my job a bit more, but I'm fairly certain it is boring enough that doing so would be considered a war crime under the Geneva Convention.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm somewhat handy, given the right tools and some time (and usually a guide) I can fix quite a bit if stuff. Oh, also something about being incredibly loyal to my friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Glasses, graying hair. Seriously, I really am 30. I just look like I'm about to have a mid-life crisis.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Band of Brothers, Lord of the Rings, Slaughter House Five, Gay New York, American Gods

The Godfather, Children of Men, Raiders of the Lost Ark, The Aristocrats, Moonrise Kingdom, Brave, Avengers

Warehouse 13, Top Gear UK, Venture Bros., It's Always Sunny

Pink Floyd, Nina Simone, Dave Van Ronk, Pearl Jam, Moxy Fruvous, Rush, Robin Bullock (Yes, I am a geek)

Currently listening to: Pearl Jam - Release

Currently binge reading: Jim Butcher's Dresden Files

Favorite Comedians:
Dead: George Carlin, Richard Pryor, Patrice O'Neil
Alive: Louis C.K., Jim Norton, Amy Schumer, Patton Oswalt

The best movie line of all time is: "Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1: My music
2: Food
3: The occasional moment of silence
4: Internet Access, I know, I'm an addict.
5: A comfy chair
6: Good beer. For example, I am a fan of Monk's Cafe in Philly. Local Option's Blood ov the Kings is amazing on draft.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"If (coworker/contractor) doesn't get back to me about (his or her project), I'm going to beat someone with a rubber hose."

The inevitable technological singularity.

If I'm going to walk the 3.5 miles home in the 95 degree weather or take the disease ridden Metro.

What wacky shit my character is going to get into next gaming session.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Fridays are generally my night to chill out and hang around home. That being said, the rest of my weekend is usually fairly busy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am a kinkster. You can find me on FetLife under PermanentStudent.
Dang, I do have a pretty low number on there.

Actually, the really private thing is that I've just started playing pen and paper RPGs and boardgames. I'm 30 and still finding new nerdy things to do.
You should message me if
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You are a fellow geeky/poly/kinky person.