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39 Caldwell, NJ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:34pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Dutch-a-Rican man trying to make it in this world. Work by day, musician by night. Love to work out and play hockey. Reading and chocolate are essential or I suffer. : )

I'm rusty at this Western World dating thing. Hoping to meet and greet, have drinks and potential long term company solutions are also welcomed. If I travel, maybe tour guides. Just kidding. Not kidding, I can never fold maps properly.

Looking for just enough similarities to be compatible with enough differences to keep it fun. Must be into healthy living and being active but flexible enough to break the rules when trying something new or traveling.

I like giving high ratings to profiles that I like without a care for where you are in the world. If I think you're a good looking woman with a great profile, why not give you 4-5 stars? If you're far, it means, "thumbs up lady and go get them!" If you're near it means, "thumbs up lady and come get me!"

I'm a language snob. Anything below conversational or fluent level should not be listed as an able language.

Remember: the "Hannibal" in Hannibal Lecter is spelled with two Ns. There will be a test later.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Education consulting, playing music and trying to stave off boredom.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking and picking out wine. Life is not Merlots and Chards. But I'm at my best at picking which lane is going to move first during rush hour traffic. It's a gift really.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile and my arms. They say, "are your arms a shade of cafe con leche?" And I say, why yes, they are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Sherlock Holmes and mystery/suspense novels, anything about space and octopi. Vonnegut and HS Thompson are staples, but I read anything and everything.

Obsessed with Science Channel's How It's Made.

Used to love flicks but I've become that person who is always saying,"you know, I've never seen that". Don't ask me about the Oscars, it will lead to tuna fish. Still, I'm a sucker for Bruce Willis flicks. Man crushes on Chris Evans and Kyle Urban. Amy Adams can do no wrong.

Loyal to BB, GoT, SoA, TWD and others. Episodes is brilliant.

Recently, I'm more into documentaries and watching older flicks to see how they hold up. Many 70s Sci-Fi not named Star Wars have great plot lines.

Music is my lifeblood, so I'm an audiophile with a maxed out iTunes match. Electrelane reuniting for shows is the best music news I've heard all year.

I enjoy picking out fresh meats and fish on Sundays. Don't fear coriander, embrace cumin, pardon the cardamom.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Lip balm, a guitar, pen and paper(done with apps, analog is the way to go), peanut butter, socks and slippers(not together). Can't go barefoot. I just can't.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Who wrote "House of the Rising Sun"?

Can I go to the Crossroads and get a deal myself?

What will my kids tell their therapist about me?

"I hope she doesn't think I'm a perv or anything 'cause I looked at her profile more than once. I honestly forgot I've read it before! Why did she change her main profile pic!?!?"

Why does she use the picture that she has to blur the face or cut out the person next to her. And why is that random forearm around her so hairy?

What's the female equivalent of the male shirt-less selfie? Too many swimsuit pics? The derriere pic?

Is "sarcastic" a necessary identifiable trait?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose? Trying out new recipes or playing live music or playing late night hockey or reading an ebook in an ice bath or cocktails with good folks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
At least one of my pics is without make up so you get a sense of me in my natural state. Guess which one.

(Don't take this question too seriously. Have some fun with it)

I must admit most lady tattoos are a cataclysmic turn off. As are duckbill and silly lip pursing pics. Just one man's take.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. enjoy smiling and exchanging witty banter. enjoy scary and suspenseful movies. Not camp or blood and gore, just good ol' goosebumps and spine tingling fun.

Also, I'm not one to have a lengthy back and forth conversation through messages or tell you my life story in a message. Let's eventually meet up and have a beverage.

If you are fine with chatting and at the very least making a new friend, then I promise to bring some wit and spices into the fray.