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39 M Nutley, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:34am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Dutch-a-Rican man trying to make it in this world. Work by day, musician by night. Love to work out and play hockey. Reading and chocolate are essential or I suffer. : )

Update: Spent the last 9 years of my life living in Japan, and carrying my own chopsticks. I have been traveling a lot for work but now I'm slowly but surely transitioning to Seattle and starting the next phase of the crummiest book we've ever read, life.

Update to the update: Don't want to mislead anyone. I'm not 100% physically in town yet. I'll be in and out until finally being around full-time in the fall.

I'm rusty at this Western World dating thing. Hoping to meet and greet, have drinks and potential long term company solutions are also welcomed. If I travel, maybe tour guides. Just kidding. Not kidding, I can never fold maps properly.

Looking for just enough similarities to be compatible with enough differences to keep it fun. Must be into healthy living and being active but flexible enough to break the rules when trying something new or traveling.

I like giving high ratings to profiles that I like without a care for where you are in the world. If I think you're a good looking woman with a great profile, why not give you 4-5 stars? If you're far, it means, "thumbs up lady and go get them!" If you're near it means, "thumbs up lady and come get me!"

Remember: the "Hannibal" in Hannibal Lecter is spelled with two Ns. There will be a test later.
What I’m doing with my life
Education consulting, playing music and trying to stave off boredom.
I’m really good at
Cooking and picking out wine. Life is not Merlots and Chards. But I'm at my best at picking which lane is going to move first during rush hour traffic. It's a gift really.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile and my arms. They say, "are your arms a shade of cafe con leche?" And I say, why yes, they are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Sherlock Holmes and mystery/suspense novels, anything about space and octopi. Vonnegut, Murakami and HS Thompson are staples, but I read anything and everything.

Used to love flicks but I've become that person who is always saying,"you know, I've never seen that". Don't ask me about the Oscars, it will lead to tuna fish. Still, I'm a sucker for Bruce Willis flicks. Oh yeah, how did I forget Bill Murray? Anything with Bill in it is thumbs a up. Except for Garfield, but hey...

I binge on the big shows: BB, GoT, SoA and others.

Recently, I'm more into documentaries.
Update: I watched most Oscar Nominee from this past year. Hazzuh!

Music is my lifeblood, but this is a pop, modern hip hop/R&B, radio friendly, country free zone. Electrelane reuniting for shows is the best music news I've heard all year.

I enjoy picking out fresh meats and fish on Sundays. Don't fear coriander, embrace cumin.
The six things I could never do without
Lip balm, a guitar, pen and paper(done with apps, analog is the way to go), peanut butter, socks and slippers(not together). Can't go barefoot. I just can't.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Are they any people left who don't need memes and social media to communicate? Are we headed towards cranial USB port implants?

Who wrote "House of the Rising Sun"?

Can I go to the Crossroads and get a deal myself?

What will my kids tell their therapist about me?

Recently? "I hope she doesn't think I'm a perv or anything 'cause I looked at her profile more than once. I honestly forgot I've read it before! Why did she change her profile pic!?!?"

Even more recently: what do "thanks for visiting my profile" messages mean? Is that her way of opening the dialogue or is she really polite? I have no idea.

More, more recently: why does she use the picture that she has to blur the face or cut out the person next to her. And why is that random forearm around her so hairy?

As recently as now: did she cook that or just random restaurant dish to let me know she eats out? I have no clue.

What's the female equivalent of the male shirt-less selfie? Too many swimsuit pics? The derriere pic?
On a typical Friday night I am Trying out new recipes or playing live music or playing late night hockey or reading an ebook in an ice bath or cocktails with good folks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
At least one of my pics is without make up so you get a sense of me in my natural state. Guess which one.

(Don't take this question too seriously. Have some fun with it)

I must admit most lady tattoos are a cataclysmic turn off. As are duckbill and silly lip pursing pics. Just one man's take.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if enjoy smiling and exchanging witty banter.

...if you want to catch that iMax Shark flick or Fuerza Bruta or any live music shows this summer.

Update: ... If you don't mind giving me the penny, nickel or dime tour of Seattle when I'm all good and settled. I'll bring some spare change.

"Hi" or "Hey" or "How are you?" really don't lend any substance for me to reply to. Help me out here. Give me something I would want to reply too ;)

Also, I'm not one to have a back and forth conversation through messages or tell you my life story in a message. Let's meet up or phone it.

Chat apps are great too but for a limited time.

If you are fine with chatting and at the very least making a new friend, then I promise to bring some wit and humor into the fray.