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PhantomDrum

61 M San Ramon, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 14
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from med school
Job
Medicine
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
So, just what makes me unconventional? That's a tough question to answer, but I'll do my best. I have enough self-confidence to have strong opinions. I'm a creature of logic, and I use my intellect to guide me. I don't subscribe to the conventional wisdom, and I don't believe what the experts say, just because they say it. I am not afraid to speak up for what I believe is right, and justice is important to me. I am not stuck up, however. I will kindly listen to the opinions of others, and change my mind easily if presented with evidence that I am wrong. Sometimes I will be the most dressed-up guy in the room; at other times the most casual. I might go to bed at 9 pm or stay up until 2 am; anything goes. And I may decide to go on a trip to the far reaches of the world, on the spur of the moment.
So, what are the things that are really important in my life? My two daughters, of course. (They are grown and no longer live with me.) Music is a really big thing. I have been a "rock & roller" from way back, but any music will do. Travel & photography is a big one, and I plan on doing a lot more of that in the future. I have been married and divorced once. That marriage was filled with drama, and I don't want tension like that in my life again. Everyone who knows me will tell you that the "real me" is very calm, and that I tend to be calming to those around me. My goal is to find a kind and like-minded lady who is also relaxed, and doesn't obsess over the little things; someone who is "clicked into" what is really important in life; and someone whom I can take care of and who will take care of me.
In summary, I have always been a bit of a rebel, a little "off the wall," and enjoy doing crazy things, going to unusual places, or simply doing something new. On the other hand, I am well-established and confident in my position, both personally and professionally. I am a dentist with my own practice, but the times I live for, are away from my work. I consider myself well-spoken and appreciate the company of a woman who is likewise capable of conversation on a variety of subjects, and interested in the news of the day. I have a tender, affectionate, and nurturing side as well, and would appreciate the same in a partner. I am also a man of caring, honesty, and integrity, and seek a lady who values those traits. My ideal would be to find someone like myself, who is a curious mix of sophistication and salt-of-the-earth ... a lady who could feel equally at home attending an art exhibition or going to an upscale restaurant, while still enjoying a bike ride, a long walk, or perhaps a picnic and a day at the beach. She should "dress-up well," but also enjoy wearing jeans on the weekend. I am an optimist at heart. I feel that the world is full of wondrous things to see and do, and I want to take part in them all. You may be "the one" if you are secure in yourself, and have a positive, fun-loving, and affectionate outlook on life!

I am SMART, UNCONVENTIONAL, and HAVE a HEART of GOLD.
What I’m doing with my life
I thought the results of my "Heart Test" were spot-on. It said I have the 'Heart of Gold.' Check it out!
I’m really good at
Being laid-back.
Not sweating the small things.
Putting things in their proper perspective.
Logical thinking.
Paying attention to the right things in life, which are often the little things.
Being loyal; a good friend and father.
Putting people at ease.
Teaching people new ways of looking at problems & viewing the world from different perspectives.
Photography & an eye for beauty in the world.
Decorating. Putting together color and form. Making a bold statement.
Confidence in my own abilities.
Fixing things.
Knowledge of lots of "stuff."
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes.
My powers of logic and reasoning.
The six things I could never do without
1. My daughters.
2. My friends.
3. Music.
4. Nature.
5. My powers of reasoning.
6. The wonderful variety of things, places, people, ideas, and cultures in the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 45–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
My Self-Summary resonates with you.