Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I’m a fanatic over intellectual pursuits and am getting out there
for tours, lectures, concerts, opera and theatre. I am quite
interested in history centered around and in Philadelphia. On the
home front I’ve been spouse/partner to two men (umm… at two
separate and different times of course!!) – first for 23
years/marriage/divorce – second for 15 years/partner/death.
Despite the fact that my name indeed appears on a gravestone, the
“GraveGirl” thing stems from my research (and subsequent
presentations) regarding 18th and 19th century Philadelphia
cemeteries. No! I am not a ghoul or gothic type, but let’s just say
that instead of a “six degrees of separation” I have a “six feet
under” separation to many historical personages. Give me a
gravestone, the internet and a martini and I am as happy as can be,
and I’ll be happy to tell you all about it too!
Career-wise I was trained in the visual and performing arts and
worked for nearly three decades as an arts administrator. My
primary encore career is now working in programming for elders
living with dementia so I get to exercise all my artsy skills on a
daily basis that is truly a lot of fun and completely civilized and
magical – all things that override the darker aspects of that work
environment. I also enjoy some public profile work at two National
Historic Landmarks. And lastly, I have a lovely weekly gig cooking
for a darling spitfire of a senior who has become a rough and tough
mother figure for me.
So I technically have eight jobs, but oh, gee, I am on a dating
site…gosh. Well don’t fret, gentlemen, I always have Friday and
Saturday nights off for date time! (And more time too –
I value and honor my relationships, whether it’s devotion to a
partner, or whatever heartfelt variations occur with friends and
acquaintances. I am not into games and dishonesty– and am very
adamant about moving forward to create a positive partnership. I
will not tolerate anyone who’s lost control of his life –
especially with addictions and/or family drama. Life is too short
for that. And it would be great to meet a good conversationalist
who can talk about things other than himself - or his anger at the
world - all the time. (Oops…guess it is obvious I’ve been through
some rounds of dating…)
What I’m doing with my life
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Beyond my work a day (and night) life, I have been known to dance
in several productions of 18th century operas, although recently I
just get to dance my heart out for several days once a year at a
specific baroque dance workshop. And I do archaeology every year –
pack myself away for a week and spend the days doing heavy labor
and the evenings laughing my head off with all my dig friends. I
garden intensely during growing season, and I just returned to
school to work toward professional certification as an Activities
Director, so I am writing a lot and doing a lot of research in that
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being creative in all kinds of situations.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm pretty upbeat and energetic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I enjoy mostly anything to do with American history up to
the 20th century, thank you. I very seldom read fiction. My bedside
favorite: “The Brother Gardeners: Botany, Empire, and the Birth of
an Obsession.” I can read bland historical surveys or
archaeological reports with as much gusto as most people read
steamy potboilers – go figure.
Music: Jazz (especially anything played on the saxophone) or
classical/baroque. At the other end of the spectrum I am never
bored listening to Danny Elfman’s “Serenada Schizophrana.” (I love
interesting vocal and orchestral juxtapositions – plus Elfman’s
musical influences are many of my favorite composers – Weill, Orff,
Prokofiev, Stravinsky, Shostakovich – but I love Ravel too).
Jennifer Higdon’s compositions take my breath away.
Movies: My favorite film for the past several years has been “The
Fall” by Tarsem – I always see something new in it every time I
Food? That’s a tough one since I like almost everything except goat
cheese and watermelon. But I can honestly say that the best meals
are those I have shared with good company – and if that means
eating Progresso cold straight from the can, so be it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Coffee in the morning
3. Challenging, yet fun, jobs
4. My health
5. Music, especially in the car
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why animals, children, women and married men find me
fascinating…and single guys?? Well, that’s another story entirely…
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying music somewhere, and that music can range from ukulele
standards to Philadelphia Orchestra greatest hits. There’re always
the Philadelphia Fun Guide specials to choose from too. Or I might
just have my old CD player going while I stitch up a new, dreamy
outfit. Or (during warm seasons) I might be outside enjoying a beer
with my neighbors waiting for the space station to fly over while
our local bat swoops around us. Now that’s fun!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, I don't know if it's the MOST private, but I absolutely love
pickled okra and I am thrilled that after years of hauling jars of
it up from southern states I can now purchase it locally at
You should message me if
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you can tolerate my interests - but regarding my personality,
you'll need to learn more on that for yourself through messaging.
Note, I don't expect a partner to share in my activities, so you
can relax - there will be no powdered wigs and white knee socks in
your future! But star gazing would be sweet.
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