Anyway, I’ve been spouse/partner to two men – first for 23 years/marriage/divorce – second for 15 years/partner/death. Now I am getting my footing as a single gal again (yikes, it’s been a long time since I’ve been emotionally unattached!), so I am just getting out of the house and out there for whatever I find intellectually stimulating (might as well appreciate liking myself, right?) These activities might include concerts, theatre, outdoor picnics or indoor dinners with friends and all kinds of scientific/historical pursuits such as astronomy (I still can’t spot a constellation for anything, but it sure is a thrill to see the space station fly over), Cornell Backyard Bird watch (I do this at work), and, oh yeah, the “GraveGirl” thing – that involved one year of research regarding 18th and 19th century Philadelphia cemeteries that I publicly presented recently.
Career-wise I was trained in the visual and performing arts and worked for nearly three decades as an arts administrator. My encore career is now working in programming for elders living with dementia so I get to exercise all my artsy skills on a daily basis that is truly a lot of fun and completely civilized - qualities that override the darker aspects of that work environment.
I like to think that I know what I want in the next relationship and then I realize that every person is different, so I want to leave any desires open to discoveries. However I do value and honor my relationships, whether it’s devotion to a partner, or whatever heartfelt variations occur with friends and acquaintances. I am not into games and dishonesty– and am very adamant about moving forward to create a positive partnership. FUN is a key word – and if the new man in my life can introduce me to things different from what I do now, all the better (and if he possesses a smart phone app that shows what is in the heavens, even better!)