Much of my personal philosophy comes from this quote- " A man is about as happy as he makes his mind up to be."-
Abraham Lincoln

Apologies first and foremost as I realize this is rather long. I'm not gifted with words and am trying to represent myself accurately. I know that some of you may have short attention spans but please do me the courtesy of reading my entire profile as I will do the same for you.

I am not going to tell you everything, almost everything but not all of it. After all isn't part of the joy of getting to know someone, actually getting to know them? That being said some brief self-statements are in order. I'll try not to bore you while using the pronoun "I", ad nauseam. Plus, the details of my life are quite inconsequential. **Dr. Evil Laugh** Here you go....

My name is Phil
I'm originally from Chicago but have lived in Arizona since 1999.
I don't put much faith in those briggs meyer personality type tests but if you must know I'm an ENFP.
I'm pretty average looking and lucky to be alive.
Once in a while I need a little mystery.
I love hats, and a woman that can wear a hat is adorable.
I am a positive, compassionate, non judgmental, and happy person.
I really try hard to stay humble and balanced.
I practice unconditional love.
I believe in chivalry, honesty and good common sense.
I also strongly believe that you are already fully equipped for liberation/enlightenment. It's built into you.
My sincere hope is that all people everywhere live up to their full potential as human beings.
I'm not big on phone conversations.
I have some bad habits and flaws just like you.
I am very big on "awareness" in general.
Politics are not among my favorite topics
I may tell you that you are beautiful, hot, gorgeous, or amazing simply because I find it to be true.
Dig the outdoors and outdoor type activities(hiking,camping,etc)
I like sex very much but don't get the recommended amount.
I am into astrology. (Aries/Horse)
Music is one thing that brings me incredible amounts of joy in life.
I play a few instruments but am afraid to play in front of a crowd.
I studied history and eastern philosophy/religion in college and continue to enjoy intellectual pursuits in those fields.

I try to and prefer to live simply.
I am more of an observer in unfamiliar situations.
I have my feet on the ground when it comes to practical/real matters.
I prefer being with women in long term relationships.
I believe in monogamy but don't judge how others choose to live their love lives
I do have certain physical/emotional/spiritual criteria that I look for in a partner. Don't be afraid to ask what they are. I'm very open about those things.
I am a total sucker for the redhead ladies.
I have a spiritual practice that's rooted in Buddhism and its important to me.
I meditate everyday.
I have an affinity for greenery and the Pacific Northwest.
I am 420 friendly
"If you're good people than you're good people", as my Polish grandmother used to say.
The human anatomy and especially the nervous system fascinates me.
Having a sense of humor(any kind) is very important to me.

I care more about your character as a person than what you do, how you do it, or how much money you make doing it.
I was raised to be a gentleman so I will bring you flowers, hold the door open for you, listen well and always treat you with respect. That is the honest truth.
I subscribe to the Law of Attraction, and also the Economist.
I am open to meeting people from anywhere and believe distance is not a huge factor when it comes to love.
Makers Mark whiskey and peanut butter are ways to get on my good side.
I will travel long distances to see live music.
I'm easy to get to know and trustworthy.
I enjoy discovering what other people are passionate about.
I know who I am and what I'm all about.
I have several scars and tell people they are from knife fights, but they're not.
I love a challenge.
I named my dog after a transformer.
I joke around a lot. Not quite as brief as I wanted but hopefully you get an idea of who I am
Thanks for reading and getting this far. I applaud your effort.

What I'm looking for:
As stated I prefer women. Redheads are my favorite but not mandatory. I like petite women as I am somewhat skinny/smallish myself but have dated girls with curves before and its been fine. It would be nice to date another bisexual person but if you're open minded about those things that is good. A woman that can cook would be amazing. Someone who is independent, has a strong character and sees the big picture in love and life. It is important that you have some self awareness, some shared interests and the desire to really connect with others on a deep and meaningful level, as well as a silly not so serious one. Please have a sense of humor. While I agree that a man should initiate things we do live in 2013 and an aggressive woman is a turn on. Patience is important too. Not looking for random hook ups. Please don't be afraid to talk about yourself. Show me how talented, dorky, smart, and/or amazing you are. Smarts are a turn on. Both street and book ones. Relationships are a two way street and both parties need to make an effort. If you do message me please show me that you actually read my profile and attempt some form of worthy conversation. If you need a hint, discuss music or history with me. While it is flattering,I'm not going to respond to "you are cute" , "i want to get in your pants" comments. I want to get in someones pants too but there is a process to follow here. I tend to take things pretty slow, maybe it's my Capricorn moon, so don't have expectations right off the bat please. Lets communicate and see where things go. I'm very easy going and don't get worked up much so please be of a similar temperament. Enjoy the process of getting to know someone it really is much fun. I hope you all find what you are looking for.

I'm a licensed massage therapist, yoga teacher and lighting designer/programmer. I taught yoga for ten years but kind of got burned out on it. After an extended break to pursue other interests, I have been getting back into a personal practice and teaching more. The lighting design is something I just sort of fell into. I do enjoy it and do a lot of work with bands, theatre, dance, and corporate gigs. Ive done all kinds of shows and worked with bands you have heard of and others you probably haven't. Really the best part is getting all the lights to do what I tell them when I tell them and with the correct color. Im big into color and contrast. I'm constantly striving to become a better person.

Non attachment. Moving stealthily. Hugs. Massages. Making others laugh. Making myself laugh. Driving long distances for live music. Compliments. Generosity. Playfully inflating my ego, or yours. Loving others. The board game Sorry. British accents. Keeping things in perspective.

My eyelashes. I guess they are long. My eyes, one of them is lazy. Possibly, my calm demeanor.

Some authors I love-
OscarWilde, Italo Calvino, Alexander Dumas, Richard Bach, Bourdain, Rumi, Bukowski, Joyce, Herman Hesse is a huge favorite. Micheal Chabon,George R.R. Martin, Arthur Phillips, Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, Cormac McCarthy, The Dalai Llama and other various Buddhist writings. Philosophy, some poetry(Dickinson, Cummings, Whitman) ,plays. Historical fiction and sometimes mystery/thrillers(Girl With The Dragon Tattoo comes to mind). There are of course many more. Basically, I'm a big fan of the written word. I almost always have my kindle with me.

TV:
Archer, Deadwood, Curb, The Killing, Justified, The Simpsons, Dexter, The Wire. Sons of Anarchy, The Shield, Deathnote, Rome, Sopranos, Bored to Death, Bears/Bulls/WhiteSox games. Ken Burns documentaries and good concert DVDs.

Movies:
Everything Mel Brooks has ever done, Monty Python, Broken Lizard, Grandmas Boy, Maltese Falcon, The Third Man(or anything Orson Wells) and other film noire. Glory, anything Tony Jaa has done, On the Waterfront, Eight Men Out.

Music- Please note this is small sampling, if I listed everyone you'd be reading a book, literally.
-The Black Keys, Mercury Program, Plants and Animals, Beck, Bjork, STS9, Radiohead, Mimosa, Emancipator, Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings, Cream, Little Dragon, Amos Lee, Moon Taxi, Animal Liberation Orchestra, Phish, Do Make Say Think, Maserati, Lotus, The New Deal, Saxon Shore, The Slip, Benevento/Russo Duo, Grateful Dead, Nick Drake, Culture, Jamie Liddell, Joe Pass, Kaki King, Medeski, Martin and Wood, Bob Marley, Trampled by Turtles, Yonder Mtn String Band, Signal Path, Punch Brothers, some classical, lots of blues and jazz.

Pretty much more tunes/bands than you could shake a stick at. If you have new music suggestions fire away, as that is something that i love to discover.

When it comes to food I enjoy a variety of things. I guess Im kind of a foodie but not as extreme as some folks. Thai, Polish, Indian, Korean, Chinese, Spanish are all good with me. I try and eat organic and healthy but I'll be the first to admit, I could live on duck, patte, or Italian beef sandwichs.

Sure sure, oxygen, sex, and water are all there. On a personal level though:
My animals.
My brain.
Friends and Family
MUSIC!!
Meditation
Reese's Peanut Butter Cups.

How to apply generosity and unconditional love in my daily life. Am I living up to my potential?
Should i develop an alter ego that just comes out in the bedroom? The new music i just discovered. The old music i havent listened to in a long time. Why the hell I'm thinking so much.

Playing music. Taking it easy with some wine or a good novel. Watching a classic movie or possibly seeing a concert.

Where's the fun it that? Gotta have some mystery.

You've read some things you've liked. You understand the need for personal/alone time for self reflection and study. You're willing to take a chance. You've seen Monty Python and the Holy Grail numerous times. You dont mind sexual innuendos. You know some good jokes.

You're into astrology,yoga, meditation, music, comedy, spirituality, helping others, philosophy, being goofy, wine, whiskey, the outdoors/camping. If you know what a"vig" is. You would like to be with a gentleman. You can relate to the characters on Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Ok Cupid told you to.

You can expose me to some amazing music. You have a tounge ring and know how to use it. You love to travel, love to eat, and dig animals. Music plays a prominent role in your life. You're fascinated by the universe and the world we live in. You can stimulate my brain as well as my body. You know just enough of a foreign language to sound sexy. You don't take life too seriously.