These have been transformational times for me! Such love. It's a long story, but basically, my heart has been exploding lately.
So I'm looking for lovers to love, and friends to be friendly. I don't hoist a whole lot of expectations on people. I just want to explore relationships, share joy, and learn from and help each other.
I'm married to my partner of 7 years—house and everything—and we've been polyamorous / non-monogamous for about 2 years. It's an unusual living situation; We own a house together, but each have our own apartment in the house. (Clever?) We both like to have our own space, but we also share a home together. It's such a good arrangement! And it makes polyamory much easier.
I would call myself queer, not bisexual. Like many, I'm not a fan of the term "bi-sexual", as it implies the gender binary, which is simply not real. I can be effete or macho, and everything in between and beyond.
I'm a bit of a dandy and a snappy dresser.
I like adventure and calculated risk-taking.
I am a computer geek by trade, and a tinker by nature. I have a wide variety of technically challenging hobbies.
I'm attracted to kind and sweet people.