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PhoebeXOX

40 F Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 34–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Other
Sign
Cancer
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Last week I went into the post office and I had a bunch of flowers under my arm. The guy behind the counter asked if they were from my boyfriend and I said ‘nope, I bought them for myself’. At which point his got up off his chair and screamed: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE MEN IN THIS NEIGHBORHOOD?!?!. If he wasn’t pushing 60 and married with an obviously overwhelming penchant for Star Trek I would have taken him home right then and there.

I’ve lived in New York for a couple of years now and I’m a designer. I think about changing professions a lot but for the moment I collect things and I design things and like it that way. I can often be found dragging inappropriately large objects home on the L-train with a slight look of regret mixed with stoic determination on my face.

I heart brains, quirk, new terrain, the ability to amuse and all creative endeavors. People that inspire me to see the world in a different way and the unfathomable connections that sometimes happen in between.

I’m looking for new acquaintances and crossing my fingers for something more, with the possibility of a few future enemies thrown in for good measure. I often tell friends that I’m an acquired taste and they always laugh. I think I secretly like it that way.

Someone once told me this site is all about ‘rolling the dice’ which I think is sound advice. I guess it helps if I think you're cute, bonus points if you have a really dry sense of humor and are so insanely delightful you can keep me entertained for days on end – or at least one awkward drink.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making plans to explore new cities, getting over jetlag and thinking about possibilities, paths and projects. Why is my brain so unpractical? If I’m not freelancing at work, trapped behind a giant computer screen designing magazines; I’m eating, drinking, listening to music, wandering through galleries and buying books I will honestly never have time to read. They are currently in little piles around my apartment.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing lists, eating pizza, talking to myself, sublime flea market discoveries, walking slowly, mixing ginger martinis, hiccupping, a semblance of vagueness, road trips, ferry rides, making banana cake, travelling, collecting objects I think I can't do without, throwing it all in, being organized, patting dogs in the street, sarcasm, multi-tasking, sporadic insomnia, opening bottles of wine, indulging...
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'll let you be the judge of that. Probably that I'm smiling? Brightly colored stockings? Charming accent? Curves?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Hmmmm…. I just finished reading Patti Smith’s Just Kids and am determined to try to see her talk in Manhattan next week. I’m part of the way through a) Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking, b) Capote’s In Cold Blood and c) Tom Wolfe’s Bonfire of The Vanities. All are at various stages and bookmarked in a pile next to my bed. They were abandoned for Shriver’s We Need To Talk About Kevin which I bought out of desperation at the airport last week when I realized I had a 15 hour flight to contend with. I ended up taking valium and drinking tiny bottles of red wine to pass the time instead but now that I’m back in the US I’m honestly considering closing it for good in case it makes me decide to never have children.

Movies & Television: I don’t watch normal live-to-air television but I’m slightly addicted to the endless possibilities and frustrations of Netflix. Last night I watched The Graduate for the first time in decades and marveled at it’s ability to stand the test of time. Also that Anne Bancroft was only 6 years older than Hoffman when they filmed it.

Music: This is an exhaustive and slightly out of date list but if you like the same thing you'll get the point: Neil Young, Mazzy Star, My Bloody Valentine, Wilco, Animal Collective, The Smiths, The National, Arcade Fire, Trail of the Dead, Blossom Dearie, Bowie, Nick Cave, Will Oldham, The Pixies, Sonic Youth, Feist, Grizzly Bear, Jose Gonzales, Leonard Cohen, Nick Drake, The Velvet Underground, Smog, The Polyphonic Spree, Dylan, Sufjan Stevens, Beach House, Tom Waits, Band of Horses, Joanna Newsom, The Beastie Boys, Mogwai, Joy Division, Dead Mans Bones, Kurt Vile...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Real coffee with decent soy milk in the morning
Current passport and escape plan
Red wine (preferably great red wine, but my standards easily slip)
Notepad & fine artline for taking incessant notes
Chance, luck, good-fortune and serendipity
And all the other obvious necessities…
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What to do next. Self perception theories. How to distance myself from crazy people. Whether or not I should learn how to roast a chicken.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Filling in the blanks.
You should message me if
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You’ll bring me endless glasses of water to bed when I'm hungover. Or simply if something here resonates with you. It would help if you are truly enigmatic, cheeky and razor sharp (and get my self deprecating sense of humor). Being comfortable in your own skin is a must. Quirks and all those tiny little sublime flaws are 100% lovable in my eyes and I'd adore your brain to work in mysterious ways.

I'm really independent but also love to know I can depend on genuine people with giant hearts. You must laugh at inappropriate moments, have an insatiable appetite for navigating the world and be capable of keeping me on my toes. If you’ve read this far you’re probably already deserving of a highly commended medal of some sorts.

If that's not too intimidating a list, I'm all yours...