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PhoenicianCat

45 F Ellicott City, MD

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 27–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm either a five-year old masquerading as a grown-up (don't tell the DMV, please, or they'll take away my license) or a human in a cat suit. I'm not sure which. It might be both.

In my grown-up alter-ego, I'm a professor of English literature and composition at a local community college where I get to spend my time actually teaching rather than doing pointless research. Give me a room full of students, a novel, and a whiteboard/chalkboard, and I'm a happy professor.

You know that question where people want to know what single book you would take with you onto a desert island? The answer is supposed to reveal something about your personality, and in my case I think it does. I'd take The Complete Works of William Shakespeare. There's enough there to occupy a person for a very long time: love, lust, hate, ambition, happiness, despair, the ephemeral nature of joy, the depths of the human heart - all that and more is there for anyone willing to plumb the waters.

Not surprisingly, I love to read, and not just Shakespeare. (He's just the best of the best.) I'll read just about anything except those awful romance novels. (To be fair, I did go through a romance novel phase when I was much younger, but even then I knew they were terrible.) I'm just as likely to get sucked into a well-written non-fiction book as an adventure novel.

When I'm not teaching or reading, I enjoy costuming, either for Renaissance festivals or Steampunk events.

I used to play World of Warcraft, but stopped before the Pandas invaded. Between the content not being engaging and having so many other fun things to go out and do, it just wasn't worth it any more. WoW wasn't good as face-to-face, table-top roleplaying (or is it role-playing?), but it was a great social outlet for a while. In fact, I've actually met a fair number of the people I played WoW with in real life and count many of them among my friends out in the real world.

I've been doing Tai Chi for a few years at an amazing school in Owings Mills. For those who are interested, I'm doing Yang Style Long Form. If all goes well, they'll be giving me a sword (albeit a wooden one at first) in a few months. Watch out world - this girl's gonna have a stick!

In the interests of full disclosure, you should also know that I'm polyamorous, which means I am open to (and currently involved in) multiple intimate relationships with the knowledge and consent of all involved. I believe that love is not a zero-sum game. If we're going to hang out – whether just as friends, or potentially something more – you need to be okay with that. And if the whole concept is foreign to you, or you're just curious, I'm happy to chat.

My cat-self likes ... well ... cat stuff: lounging, napping afterward, snuggling. And having my head scritched. And my belly petted. And pushing my partners to the very edge of the bed.

I am giggly, witty, and unconventional
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Professionally, I teach college English and literature. In that capacity, I spend my time trying to make myself obsolete in my students’ lives. My goal is for them NOT to need me by the end of the semester. It’s a good thing they keep making more students, or I’d be out of a job, and that would be a shame because I really like my job.

In my personal life I’m just quietly trying to be the best me I can be. I try to be a good person, a good friend, a good mom to my cat, a good wife, and a good girlfriend. I’m not trying to save the whales or the world. I’m just trying to make my life one that I can be proud of, be good to people, and collect some interesting experiences and stories along the way. That “unconventional” up there at the top of the page is there for a reason, after all.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making scrambled eggs and french toast - but not at the same time.

Wrapping presents - it's a silly talent, but it's mine!

Communicating with cats - even the skittish ones seem to be willing to talk to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Other than the obvious (that I'm short and have brown hair), it's probably the fact that I have metallic threads tied into my hair. They glint and catch the light delightfully. Random strangers will stop me to ask, "How do you *do* that?" Hooray for a conversation starter! :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Gentlemen of the Road; Proust Was a Neuroscientist; Genome; The Sunne in Splendor; Daughter of the Empire, Servant of the Empire, and Mistress of the Empire; Why Shakespeare?; Magician: Apprentice and Magician: Master; Guns, Germs, and Steel; The English Passengers; The Blind Assassin; Will in the World; Brightness Reef, Infinity's Shore, and Heaven's Reach (David Brin's Uplift Trilogy); Ender's Game; Ender's Shadow; A Short History of Nearly Everything (and pretty much anything else by Bill Bryson); A Song for Arbonne; The Agile Gene; The Dresden Files.

Movies: The Princess Bride; The Creator; Shakespeare in Love; Elizabeth; Elizabeth: The Golden Age; Grosse Pointe Blank; Cash Back; Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels; Rozencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead; Being John Malkavich; Vicky, Christina, Barcelona; Tank Girl; Religulous.

Music: I like lots of 80s music, but also artists from the 90's and 00's. I also have a soft spot for Celtic music, both modern and traditional. Off the top of my head, some of my favorites are Fiona Apple, Enya, Poe, Sting, Liz Phair, Depeche Mode, The Cure, Peter Gabriel, The Smiths, Garbage, REM, Oingo Boingo, Kate Bush, P!nk, Florence + the Machine, Sneaker Pimps, OMD, Silly Wizard, Cake, Medeaival Babes, Clannad, Loreena McKennitt, Sarah MacLachlan, The Cheiftains, Tricky Pixie, Bare Naked Ladies, and a little known group called Groovelily.

Food: I enjoy all kinds of food - yes, I eat meat - but will happily eat vegetarian or vegan if that's what is around. Until recently I would have said that I didn't like lima beans, but a certain kitchen pixie proved me wrong on that count, so now about the only thing I've had that I genuinely don't like is liver. The same person also introduced me to the joys of tempeh and quinoa.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Tea - the really good, loose tea, not that awful Lipton stuff.

Books - I'm a bibliophile *and* a readaholic. (Yes, that's totally word!) Real, ink on paper and bound with paste books. Computer screens are fine for some things, but give me my books.

Clever wordplay. Shakespeare, Oscar Wilde, and Ambrose Bierce were all masters. Puns, double-entendres, and generally playing with the language are all wonderful.

Laughter.

Stripey socks - either thigh-highs or toe-socks. If only I could just find a good place to get thigh-high, stripey, toe-socks that actually fit me. THAT would be perfect. But since I can't seem to do that, I'm going to have to learn to make them for myself.

Chocolate. Better yet, chocolate covered chocolate, with dark chocolate over milk chocolate, perhaps with a nice mocha glaze on top. Mmmm ... now I want a truffle.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What my cat must be thinking. She's a sweet little ball of fluff, but I often have no clue what is going in inside her fluffy little head. For example, why does she get so chatty first thing when she wakes up in the morning, or after a really long and luxurious nap? And why is she so fascinated with feet?

I also spend a lot of time thinking about whatever book I am currently or most recently read. A good plot will roll around in my head for a while.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably hanging out at home with my husband, girlfriend, and cat; watching a movie; reading a book; or grading papers. (I know, I know - not very exciting, but there you have it.) Left to my own devices, I tend to be a home-body, but it's not too hard to get me out if you have something in mind, and I have fun once I'm there (where ever "there" happens to be). If you have a plan, I'm usually game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I adored the Xena: Warrior Princess television show and used to watch it faithfully every week. Xena may have been the star, but Gabrielle stole my heart.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Any of the follow apply:

You are a girly-girl who would enjoy doing girly-things with a girl who is old enough to know her own mind but has otherwise refused to grow up and has a habit of hugging people she has just met.

You are a gamer – especially if you are that rare and elusive creature, the gamer-girl – who would be interested in some role-playing of the table-top variety.

You think Buffy Summers and the delightful Ms. Rosenberg are awesome. (Or don't but understand why I adore them both and won't try to talk me out of it.)

You can quote Shakespeare, Sidney, Spencer, Milton, Wilde, Bierce, Queen Elizabeth I, or Einstein accurately and appropriately in casual conversation without sounding like you planned it ahead of time.

You have been to Romania and have the pictures to prove it. (Random, I know, but it’s on my list of places to go before I’m too old to enjoy it.)

You have read my profile, were amused or intrigued by it, and think we might have interesting things to say to one another about just about anything: life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness, tea, books, movies, games, theatre (or theater, if you prefer), costuming, cats, (but not costuming for cats) or whatever else strikes your fancy. Just because a subject isn't in my list or mentioned in my profile doesn't mean it can't be interesting. In my experience, some of the best conversations are the unexpected ones. Great conversations beget friendships, and friendships equal “win” in my book.