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40 Seattle, WA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:11am
5′ 2″ (1.58m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English, French (Okay), Persian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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“The art of art, the glory of expression and the sunshine of the light of letters, is simplicity.” - Walt Whitman

I am a displaced southerner having a great time in the PNW. I grew up in Virginia, lived in Chicago a bit but fell in love with Seattle and stayed. I will never have the latest gadget nor will I ever care what is trendy. I do not hang out among the interwebs on a daily basis as I do not require technology or constant digital stimulation in order to breathe. I consist of equal parts bohemian, heathen, southern sass mixed with an independant nature and a bit social-recluse. I like mismatched silverware, drinking cocktails out of teacups, lighting only lanterns or candles, and furniture that tells a story. The social recluse in me takes me longer to respond than most. Which may also just mean that I left my phone in the truck or at home. I am a jeans and t-shirt kind of gal, although I have been known to doll it up outrageously. I relish passionate debate and intense conversation as well as quiet hours in someone's company just reading or sparring at a game or cards. I always have a book on me and I am told I am always humming or singing and honestly don't realize I do this. I laugh a lot, and sometimes at inappropriate moments. I am the most serious 5 year old you will ever meet. I like to be outdoors and I don't care about the weather. Give me a blanket, a little shelter, a book, an open sky, maybe a warm body and I am happy.
What I’m doing with my life
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I enjoy a simple life. I know myself very well, know what I want and what I don't. I have spent the past decade removing chaos and extraneous stress from my existence. My path is no longer about being a workaholic and living for weekends/vacations. I don't live for work, I work to live so that I can enjoy my life daily. I think that all my actions matter, down to what I say, do, consume and perpetuate. I like being outside with my dog. Wearing dance shoes for years has made me more of a Iong distance hiker and makes the feet happier. I also love taking in all around me, the sounds, smells, the sights. I am in no hurry when outdoors. I want to see all the National Parks before I die. There are a few other key places in this world that I hope to visit one day and am considering moving to Scotland, or perhaps Canada, before my retiring years. I have been a singer/dancer/storyteller for most of my adult life and recently returned to my bohemian ways while retaining my daytime Clark Kent-ness. In my off time, I am slowly studying to become a Master Herbalist to incorporate my way of life into a possible work life. I live a vegan lifestyle for ethical reasons (I am not preachy) but also in order to not age like my parents and grandparents have.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Telling stories, reading people, helping people, creating impromtpu plays, creating magnificent dinners out of little ingredients, making strong tea, and writing longhand for hours and hours without stopping.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I am polite and direct, that I am easy to talk to and that I have an evil giggle.

I think I look nicer than I am or perhaps more wholesome than I am. This camouflage let's me fit in anywhere and nowhere.

And I am often referred to as the trouble-maker but, really, I have no idea what they are talking about. Honest :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Tale of Genji (words turned into color as I read this for the first time), Leaves of Grass, The Metamorphosis, The Motorcycle Diaries, any Dostoevsky, Story of the Eye, any Poe, Frankenstein, The Lulu Plays and Other Sex Tragedies, Orlando, A Clockwork Orange, Justine, The Book of Tea, The Picture of Dorian Gray, any Keats, Byron, or Yeats, The Armies of the Night, Chaos, Creativity and Cosmic Consciousness, Anais Nin, Outlander, A Kilt for Keeps, Complete Brothers Grimm Fairy Tales, and Where the Wild Things Are, quite a bit of non-fiction and I must admit that I have been sucked into a good fiction book based on it's jacket alone. I remember reading A Tree Grows In Brooklyn as a teenager. That book changed my wiring. My mother walked by just as I finished it and she said I looked like I had just lost my best friend. She had no idea how much that book resonated with me.

Movies: I love old black and whites, old slapstick like Buster Keaton, Charlie Chaplin, His Girl Friday. I also love epics like Lawrence of Arabia, Cleopatra, Dr. Zhivago, Sergio Leone. I love art house movies, surreal movies.There's really too many and it's making my brain hurt. Also, I watch way too many documentaries because I want to know all the things.

Art: Love, love, love all of it. I want to wallow in it. I love experimental art, painting, metal working, glass, textiles, paper making and the like.

Music: I love Bessie Smith, Ella, Miles, Dizzy, Louis, Billie, Nina, Aretha, Sarah Vaughn, Melody Gardot, Ruthie Foster, Jeri Brown, Imogean Heap, Tori Amos, Enigma, Emilie Autumn, Amanda Palmer, The Dollyrots, Katzenjammer, Devil Doll, Clare Fader, Kidney Thieves, Perfect Circle, Tool, NIN, Sigur Ros, The Watson Twins, Neko Case, Doc Watson, Bill Monroe, Hazel Dickens, Uncle Earl, The Ukelele Orchestra of Great Britain, Nelly McKay, Eva Cassidy, The Sadies, The Pogues, The Waterboys, Lucinda Williams, Gilliam Welch, The Raconteurs, Seasick Steve!, Tom Waits, Scott H. Biram, The Black Keys, Left Lane Cruiser. Throw in some classical composers, especially of the Russian variety like Aram Khachaturian (those waltzes are insane) plus more I cant even think of at the moment. I find chants are, well enchanting, am fascinated by 14th-16th century madrigals, and will dance like mad to old school punk, jug bands, irish jigs and the ukelele. I want music that moves, music I want to move to and sing to.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dog, a book, my friends/family, some tunes, some healthy meditation and those giant belly laughs that make you tear up and gasp for breath
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How my point of view is drastically changing into a very interesting yet unexpected place.

I ponder philosophy, sensualilty, the cosmos and our place in it, karma, personal energy, connectedness, observations of everything I see and absorb, and puzzles (love those). And I wonder where the greater sense of civility has gone, why people shy away from eye contact, why everyone wants to be "plugged in" and why people look surprised, or annoyed, when I say hello in the elevator.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Planning a coup. Possibly an escape. Or just an escapade.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I hold a certain fondness for those who work with their hands, whether it's artistic, industrial or lyrical. Something about it is just drop-dead sexy. I believe there is intention in your hands and its why I have personally symbolic tattoos on my wrists.

But also that I value trust above all things. I am more romantic than I let on and feel any worthy relationship should be 50% verbal communication and 50% physical communication.
You should message me if
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If you think you would enjoy a conversation with me, maybe want to grab a coffee/tea, hear/share a story, have a laugh, a walk or hike or just want an awesome pie recipe, then say hello.

It can be hard to find like minded folk in this world. Being a friend is a great way to becoming more in my book. I tend to date people I would always be a friend to regardless. There is a realness in that. Dating to me means respectfully going out with one or two or three people, spending time with and getting to know them until one leads down the relationship path naturally. I will date exclusively once a relationship has begun to develop with someone, this is where feelings and further intimacy come into the mix. I feel this an honest, realistic approach to really get to know someone. I seek only honest, genuine, kind and open hearted people to be a part of my intimate world.

Gender has never been a dating prerequisite for me. I don't care what flavor you may be. I am attracted, platonically and otherwise, to the intelligent, engaging, curious essences of people and want others in my life who understand the fluidity of my nature. That being said, understand that being bisexual does not mean I am a trollop. I mention my bisexuality as a means of showing a smidge of my psyche. My bohemian ways runs deep.

I am a very socially conscious, environmentalist and activist who is always happy to find similar spirited friends.

Please do not message me if your interest is simply friends with benefits, casual sex, sex talk, threesomes or requests for less than ladylike photos. That is not my style.

I don't frequent bars or clubs much and my early commute makes it hard to stay up past 11 on a school night, so okc it is.