I'm divorced now for going on four years. So I'm over the trauma of the freshly divorced guy trying to prove he can survive in the post-divorce world. Don't laugh, there's a lot of guys out there just trying to go on a date with the cutest woman they can find on here to prove to someone, likely themselves, that they can. Which makes life hell for the women with cute pictures posted I would assume.
Then there are the guys who have given up on ever finding someone for them and they're settling. They're blasting out messages to anyone who will respond. I'm gonna guess this leads to the most pathetic of first dates. I've heard some stories, good god. None of which leaves the women on here in a good position. What the heck are you getting? So you got a message from a guy and he looks sorta human. Do you respond? Do you waste your time? If you're certain it won't lead to a date why bother?
Where do I fit in all of this? I'm intelligent. If you're a sapiophile then keep reading. I was smarter when I was younger but that was before I realized just how much there was to learn. Which might actually make me smarter but gives me perspective.
I'm what is called a multipotentialite. That means I do many things well. But, I also stop when I've learned what I was meant to learn and then I seek to move on. "The aspect of multipotentiality that worries multipotentialites the most is the tendency to become bored. Boredom usually hits once we’ve learned what we are meant to learn on a particular topic, and instead of moving on, we try to continue down a path we’re no longer interested in. Boredom is our body’s way of telling us that it’s time to move on to something new.
It also means I tend to be spontaneous. If you need to plan every aspect of your life I'm likely not the guy for you. If you enjoy waking up on a Saturday, knocking out the few things we know we need to do and then deciding to head off to Starved Rock then we'd be perfect for each other. I love to just decide to go to dive bar and start talking to the people there. Or take a road trip for a day or two.
I have three amazing kids who are all inquisitive, bright and funny in their own rights. Of course they are number one with me. But there's always room for more. I love, love, love exposing them to museums and culture and art.
I can pretty much guarantee we'd have fun together. Whether it's going to movies, a local bar or restaurant, knocking around the mall or just staying in and finding something on TV (Orphan Black!) it's all so much better to do it together. I so want to be in a relationship where I really WANT to be with you, where I love doing things with you more than without you.
Let me know if you're up for trying. We have nothing to lose by meeting and finding out if our hormones are compatible. I've found a couple of really good friends this way. That's not a bad thing either...