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52 M Oswego, IL

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 37–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
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Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
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Has kids

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My self-summary
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I've tried all sorts of profiles. Funny. Sincere. Honestly, I have no idea what it takes to get across a lifetime of me.

I'm divorced now for going on four years. So I'm over the trauma of the freshly divorced guy trying to prove he can survive in the post-divorce world. Don't laugh, there's a lot of guys out there just trying to go on a date with the cutest woman they can find on here to prove to someone, likely themselves, that they can. Which makes life hell for the women with cute pictures posted I would assume.

Then there are the guys who have given up on ever finding someone for them and they're settling. They're blasting out messages to anyone who will respond. I'm gonna guess this leads to the most pathetic of first dates. I've heard some stories, good god. None of which leaves the women on here in a good position. What the heck are you getting? So you got a message from a guy and he looks sorta human. Do you respond? Do you waste your time? If you're certain it won't lead to a date why bother?

Where do I fit in all of this? I'm intelligent. If you're a sapiophile then keep reading. I was smarter when I was younger but that was before I realized just how much there was to learn. Which might actually make me smarter but gives me perspective.

I'm what is called a multipotentialite. That means I do many things well. But, I also stop when I've learned what I was meant to learn and then I seek to move on. "The aspect of multipotentiality that worries multipotentialites the most is the tendency to become bored. Boredom usually hits once we’ve learned what we are meant to learn on a particular topic, and instead of moving on, we try to continue down a path we’re no longer interested in. Boredom is our body’s way of telling us that it’s time to move on to something new.

It also means I tend to be spontaneous. If you need to plan every aspect of your life I'm likely not the guy for you. If you enjoy waking up on a Saturday, knocking out the few things we know we need to do and then deciding to head off to Starved Rock then we'd be perfect for each other. I love to just decide to go to dive bar and start talking to the people there. Or take a road trip for a day or two.

I have three amazing kids who are all inquisitive, bright and funny in their own rights. Of course they are number one with me. But there's always room for more. I love, love, love exposing them to museums and culture and art.

I can pretty much guarantee we'd have fun together. Whether it's going to movies, a local bar or restaurant, knocking around the mall or just staying in and finding something on TV (Orphan Black!) it's all so much better to do it together. I so want to be in a relationship where I really WANT to be with you, where I love doing things with you more than without you.

Let me know if you're up for trying. We have nothing to lose by meeting and finding out if our hormones are compatible. I've found a couple of really good friends this way. That's not a bad thing either...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm employed as a lion sniffer. Since you can't get close to a female lion to tell when they're in heat, zoos around the world rely upon me and my nose to stay at a safe distance and let them know when they can inseminate. It's an interesting scent... but not one you'll find in a Glade can anytime soon. Ok, so seriously... I work in the city, which is a long way from home, so I treasure the time I do have at home. And if you haven't guessed I'm not really a Lion sniffer. I design the bristles in Olympic Curling Brushes. But that sounded boring so I made up the Lion thing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Magic. Figuring things out. De-tangling complexity. Knowing a little bit about everything. Taming birds.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My voice. And those damned gargoyles.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like books with words - histories, science fiction, fiction, movies with actual plots, music that I can get lost in and New Orleans with time to wander from restaurant to restaurant.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids, an American Express card (I forgot my luggage once and they saved my life), a computer with an internet connection, a good pen, sunglasses... you?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

What does it take to find a connection on here? Unlike the asshats who send out a thousand messages that say, "hi there" I try to write something to each person I contact. And, add to that when I find someone I like I kinda don't want to contact them because if I do and they don't respond it's over. Because right now there's hope. Sometimes it's better to have a picture of a really cute girl you MIGHT be able to date than to be shut down and have no hope. Is that crazy? Yup.

But lately why, if a car were going the speed of light and turned on its lights why would the beams still be going the speed of light? I get it now...

How can anyone be stupid enough to hold up a sign that says, "keep your government out of my Medicare!"

Why isn't everyone trying to get into the art institute once-in-a-while?

Creationism. Really?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating pizza and watching a movie with my children. Every other Friday is movie night.

Otherwise I'm meeting you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The idea here is not to say, "I'm not doing this on a website." The idea here is the "most private" thing. So if you're a private person maybe you'd say, "I like tea." If you're not so private maybe you'd say, "I like it doggie style." That would say a lot about you. See where they were going with this? It's not WHAT you admit but the level of privacy you're willing to divulge.
You should message me if
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You want a companion. Someone to walk with and talk with. You're liberal. You care about this country and other people. You like birds. You like creative types. You like to laugh and you understand that along with that sometimes you're going to cry, but that's ok. Because you won't be alone. You're the kind of person who can be standing alone in a room and look across it and realize that I'm there and we're together even though we're apart. You understand that just as much can be said with silence as can be said with words. You may have been hurt but you know that doesn't mean all men are that way.