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27 San Jose, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Nov 29, 2014
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Seeing Someone
Has dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hello profile viewers that have seen my profile picture and ventured forward for a literary glimps into "who I am". As an ever evolving individual I feel my profile is lagging a bit which I will attend to.... Eventually. For now I have made some major edits to my desires from people and this site. If you wish to know more or specifics please ask as I am an open book.

*At this time I am only responding to genuine friendship interests*

I label myself as a rad pansexual, transsexual, atheist. Labels of identity are subjective though so I waver a bit on the queer/ gender spectrum. Some days I feel a bit sapiosexual, because who doesn't love a well connected brain! I'm always down for a deep discussion of the differences amongst biological sex, gender and sexuality.

I'm an adventure enthusiast, a science and sci-fy nerd, a newbie vegetarian, a pacifist, an activist, and an all around awesome individual. I was working on the marriage equality campaign in Portland and am changing pace to help build houses for the under served as an AmeriCorps member with Habitat for Humanity. Generally, I get along with most anyone. If you are open minded, LGBTQ friendly, and have found or are searching for something that inspires you in life we will get on smashingly.

According to Meyers Briggs I am an INTP although I'm a little skeptical. I think personalities are not constants. Personality can waver depending on the context and people surrounding. I am an observer, quiet, contemplative, and empathetic, and aloof at times, although I can take on a leadership role easily, or dance the night away (missing many beats). I try to live simplistically and think with complexity. I'm constantly attempting to grow and resocialize myself by challenging my own ingrained and self derived ideologies. At times this can make me seem cynical but as a humanitarian I am still hopeful and thrive on the infinate potential to mold the world around myself.
What I’m doing with my life
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I graduated in March from PSU with a BS in Psychology and minor in Sociology. I will not psychoanalyze you though, even if you ask! I had a very progressive education that left me with more questions than answers. I believe the field of mental health needs a drastic overhaul and push toward diversifying, empathizing and enhanced individual treatment plans rather than hegemonic ideas of "normal mental health" and over prescribing of pharmaceuticals. Eclectically, I pull from Bronfenbrenner, Beck, Pavlov, and Dawkings, with ideologies from Meta (loving kindness), chaos theory, pluralism, feminism, diversity theories, positive psychology and nature. I don't literally believe in Karma but from our social nature and mirror neurons it seems what we project into the world does get reflected back.

I'm in a transitional phase. A time of discovery, and re-discovery, of freedom shrouded by debt. I spend a lot of time outside, walking, observing and just being. I love watching documentaries and going to community lectures. I'm ready to jump head first, all the way to my ankles in San Jose and all the surrounding areas. Will you show me the way?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Almost anything, given practice.

Thinking critically.
Playing giant Jenga.
Writing research papers.
Making fragmented lists.
Dancing without rhythm.
Building things.
Having long in depth discussions.
Deriving positivity from cynical realism.
Being awkward.
Living off of various combinations of beans and rice.
Becoming absorbed into projects.
Not finishing projects around the house.
Minimalist camping experiences.
Being skeptical.
Being compassionate.
Drinking coffee and tea.
Beginners yoga.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have been told I have a nice jaw line and that I'm short. haha
Also, I make a conscious effort to continuously smile, unless I'm lost in deep thought which gets projected as a crude baffled look. And if I'm not at work I'm usually dressed like an old man.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I tend to read mostly non-fiction/ science oriented books although the occasional fiction offers just as much to learn from. I just read "The New Jim Crow", "The God Delusion" and "Mirroring People" which were all fantastic! I geek out on research articles as well.

David Sedaris is hilarious. Also, I'm not usually a comic nerd but gay Green Lantern in "Earth 2" did it for me. The original Doyle Sherlock Homes books are quite addictive.

I love a good psychological thriller and movies with fictional depressing realism, documentaries, foreign and independent films. The first ones that come to mind are "Fight Club", "Girl with the Dragon Tattoo", "Momento", "Crash", "Skin", "Lars and the Real Girl", and "XXY".

Doctor Who.
Eddie Izzard and Garfunkel and Oates.
The Colbert Report, Jon Stewart and Rachel Maddow!

I tend to go for most things eclectic, eccentric, and away from mainstream... Any suggestions?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Food, water, air, shelter, social interactions, and a functioning brain.

The six things I don't want to do without are my dog/ family, friends, toothbrush, coffee, computer, and books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
bio-psycho-social models of human individual and social existence.
how to fight the other isms.
sex, gender and sexuality.
what to do next in life.
sexuality and various expressions.
hegemony/ dominant society.
The salad bowl.
how to move beyond capitalism.
the acquisition of knowledge.
the cosmos.
ignorance versus complacency.
How can people walk by buildings lined with homeless people and still want to go party at the club?
answer: alcohol and blinders or complacency?

How to be in the moment.
New activities and hobbies.
How to balance my desires for education, activism, humanitarian pursuits and a social life.
Why all the awesome queer events are an hour away from San Jose and why I cannot just teleport to them yet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
usually somewhere other than at home; friends, a bar, a restaurant, first Fridays, volunteering... And then calling it an early night as I wake up at 6am for work on Saturdays.

I will need new venues and adventures in San Jose!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an open book when asked blunt questions, so ask away.

I do find that meeting new people in San Jose I have been less open with my Trans status to avoid the five plus minutes of "really?" and follow up questions. People in Oakland and SF however have been more knowledgeable.
You should message me if
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You want to know more about me, you can hold a conversation, value yourself, and have something you might want to teach me.

You want to adopt me into your San Jose community!

I really like honest and genuine people. I tend to be more monogamous but have had successful poly relationships in the past with appropriate communication.

Also, you must know what FTM/ Trans is and what to expect in certain departments, as I do not want to educate you.