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57 M Big Bear City, CA

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 3
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
don't get scared by the distance. I've been bicoastal for years and while I currently claim CA, I do spend time on both coasts and never say never...I've lived about 50% of my life on each coast in various dribs and drabs.

Okay, all these words...daunting I know. I'm a long-winded, full-disclosure type. If you like openness and honesty step right up. Read the first section, take a nap, some vitamins and read more if you are interested and have lots of time on your hands! Want to know me? - dive in. I want to know you too! Quickest version: read # 1, 2, 9, 18, 19, 20 - those are the essentials. LOL.
Shortesque version ;) :
1) I'm a talker
2) I'm a romantic as well as a calmly joyful hedonist! :) food, film, fun, funk! Let's dance!
3) I'm an archivist I like to write...journals, lists (like this one), letters, chat...I'm very oral/aural.
4) politics: liberal/humanist but not dogmatic
5) spiritual not religious
6) I flirt and enjoy it. Not about conquests but about connection. Getting to know someone is a huge joy
7) I'm creative like my dad and a thinker like my mom...I am a musician/songwriter/poet/journalist/blogger i.e. I love stories and I love to write
8) I never danced until I was 48 and now there's not much I'd rather do. I hope my knees hold out!
9) I gather, nurture and cherish my friends. Nothing better than a room full of friends other than a room filled with just one or two of special ones. And luckily since I consider myself bicoastal (my life has been divided almost exactly in half between California and Delaware/Philly area -- though not right in the middle but in a few rotating segments) and I still spend time in both but the best thing is having great friends in both places.
10) I like to eat out, go to concerts, galleries, museums, read.
11) I'm inner not outer
12) love the outdoors but not a sit in the sun for hours guy. Rather be in a pool or hiking or driving along the coast with the top down...perhaps sitting by a stream with a good book or in someone's arms on a blanket under the trees.
13) Not adverse to exploring sexuality in just about any form. I have a short list of nevers. Surprise me and ask for what intrigues you. But in general I'm seeking smart, connective partner not a fly-by-night thing. I've been told I'm passionately GGG...look it up or better yet, let me show you!
14) I hate math. Math and numbers don't like me either. I'm attracted to people who like numbers though. Like having a bonus calculator around for when my eyes glaze over
15) I hate pickles. I mean really hate pickles.
16) I'm a good driver, night owl and a late sleeper
17) you will never get me on a cruise ship. Just sayin'...
18) I love life in all of it's complexity. If there is an option to laugh, i take it.
19) I enjoy all of this camaraderie and I also love being alone in silence, but loneliness doesn't sit well with me. Thus the attraction for friends and family and the social.
20) I was with the same woman monogamously for 25 years and since have enjoyed and been perplexed by the dating scene. I'm a quality not quantity type guy who loves the process of discovering the beauty in life and people. There is nothing better than learning something new from a partner. Now THAT'S sexy.
21) kinky, not dangerous; loving, not manipulative; I'm communicative, compassionate, passionate, sensitive, not weak, cold, reclusive, distant and love all of the above in others. Open to sugesstion.
22) without thinking it over much I find myself attracted to and attracting wonderful bisexual women. I love their energy, honesty confidence and grace. My buddy Eric has officially nicknamed me LesBro.
23) that said, I have had experience in a beautiful lengthy long distance polyamorous relationship. Like any relationship a successful poly relationship is not based on sex but on trust, caring, respect, connection, honesty and fun. Ask anything if this is confusing. If you are interested in this type of openness fine but having been divorced since 2003 I am fully ready for the right monogamous partner at this time in my life. I thoroughly have enjoyed and felt comfortable with either monogamous or polyamorous relationships but don't seem to have a preference. It is all about the partner I am with. Of course, it all depends on finding the right partner for any lifestyle choice. I feel capable, willing and non-judgmental about either type of relationship path. Both are full of positives and their share of difficulties as well but such is life. If this is confusing or you love everything about me but don't understand the poly angle PLEASE ask me anything. I am looking for long-term love and not into casual flings in general. I understand finding the right person is not always easy and dating someone who may not be "The One" and becomes a good friend is a wondrous blessing as well.
24) Yes, that was ME! I was an extra in the movie BELOVED. If you can ID where in the film I can be seen, contact me and you win a prize!

Read my Q&A for more details or just ask. I'm curious about you too!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work as a part-time self-employed publicist in the music biz by day and a part-time musician by night. I've also recently edited a book on a career in art. I teach guitar lessons and am soon starting a job as a blogger for a resort association. I like wearing lots of hats. Never bored. I've had the pleasure of working PR with many great jazz and world music artists as well as Willie Nelson, Derek Trucks, Bruce Hornsby, members of the Stones and many others over the years. I love being surrounded by creative people of all kinds.

I spend a lot of time enjoying life with my friends, both in person and networking with them as well as working on a couple of book and music projects, and generally regrouping on the West Coast after living 7 years bicoastally between CA and DE. I grew up in So. Cal and headed east in 1981 living in the suburbs of Philly and Wilmington until 2004. So I'm back in a mountain home I built in 1980 and working from my laptop, enjoying the fresh air and great weather with frequent trips down to L.A. and beyond for an infusion of the real world.

I've spent a good part of the past six years reacquainting myself with meditation and investigating the spiritual side of our inter-connectivity with each other. Not religious though in an organized way and in fact am somewhat appalled by people who try to force their views down others throats. The #1 human right is the right to one's own opinion.

I have also found that I am attracted to partners who enjoy exploring the boundaries of their sexuality as well as having a yearning for intellectual, social and artistic stimulation.

Oh yes, I have recently leaped heavily into juicing, not steroids mind you, but fruits and veggies and loving it. Always loved smoothies but a recent gift of a big-time juicer has rocked my world. Just feel better every day when my day starts with a big glass of fresh squeezed goodies. Okay, so I follow it with a double espresso quite often...didn't say I wasn't flexible...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...getting to know people. I am a very social person and not at a loss in a group of folks. Part of that is that I love learning new things and find no better way than to experience life being around interesting people. Having a phalanx of good friends is the fastest way to get to know oneself by paying attention to how others see you. The key is being able to take that self-knowledge and use it to see how we are all the things we share and all the ways we are different from one another. Sharing this universe together and embracing it.

Being a musician for most of my adult life, I have a talent for playing with people/bands whether it be onstage, around a campfire or in the studio and knowing how to contribute just what is needed. This translates into real world (offstage) communication as well. I think it's via big picture listening and not needing to be the center of attention. I get enough attention just being a voracious talker. I'm generally a good if opinionated listener.

I'm not afraid to be honest but not dumb enough to be cruel...I don't get lost in new places much...I have a decent memory and good peripheral vision...I can write a song and a poem and generally give pretty good advice when asked...honest but caring.

I can cook when motivated...I guess you can say I'm a natural networker, socially, in my job and as a musician. Since I've been back in the single world I've dated people of all age groups but generally seem to spend most time with people younger than myself. They tend to have a) more flexible schedules and b) are more open to new experience. But this is a huge generalization, I understand. Let's just say I'm young at heart and not real locked into a daily routine that keeps me inflexible.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
So I asked five of my friends this question and got multiple answers about the following...

I've been told I'm not afraid to talk...hahaha...my family passed down to me none of their politics but I got their good, self-deprecating humor, a joy of the ridiculous, an ability to yammer endlessly about anything, whether substantial or silly...that I get along with a vast variety of people, ages, backgrounds, and that I have very dedicated, interesting and diverse friends. I am told that I have some charisma when I walk in a room which I have no conscious ability to translate. My interpretation is that I just genuinely like people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
MUSIC:
I owned a record store for 10 years and have worked in the music biz for most of my adult life. I once had a collection of 30,000 pieces of music (CDs, LPs, CASS etc) so asking me to whittle down to faves is often a chore I can't fathom accomplishing...let's just go for a major handful of the biggies...Beatles, Dylan, Miles Davis, Ryan Adams, John Coltrane, Lake Street Dive, Van Morrison, Neil Young, Willie Nelson, Bruce Springsteen, Television, Bola Sete, Milton Nascimento, Ray Lamontagne, Charles Mingus, Elvis Costello, Joni Mitchell, Mike Watt, Blasters, Richard Thompson, Emmylou Harris, Wilco, Derek Trucks, Rolling Stones, The Who, Grateful Dead, Merle Haggard, Los Lobos, late 70s/80s West Coast Punk, Elliot Smith, Neville Bros, Patti Smith, Marvin Gaye, Roxy Music, Bowie, The Decemberists, Buffalo Springfield, Gram Parsons, Peter Himmelman, James Maddock, Samuel Barber, Wayne Shorter, Hank Williams (Sr), Bob Marley, David Murray, WSQ, Utah Phillips, Sam Rivers, John Prine, Fleet Foxes, Sam Cooke, Adrian Younge...endless...

MOVIES:
I see 5 movies a week minimum....often more...love movies since a kid growing up near Hollywood...love indie films, foreign films, dramas, classics, thrillers, romances, dumb comedies, smart comedies, action, horror, you name it...I love French New Wave films, anything by Hitchcock, Kurosawa, Scorcese, David Lynch, Christopher Nolan, Beat Takeshi, Pedro Almodovar, Woody Allen...love going into a dark theater and letting the world outside fall away...anything with DeNiro, Pacino, Johnny Depp, Paul Newman, Penelope Cruz, Robert Downey Jr, Clint Eastwood, Scarlett Johansson, Meryl Streep, Dennis Hopper...

TV:
shut it off recently...only watch movies but I do miss HBO, the Simpsons, Jon Stewart, late night talk shows and SNL. Love HBO's original programming but it's easier to watch the whole seasons later on DVD...Breaking Bad, House of Cards and I still lose sleep trying to figure out how Joan Chen wound becoming that end table in Twin Peaks...I LOVE Twin Peaks...

BOOKS:
Always reading 10-20 books concurrently...these days reading a lot of Eastern Spiritualism and philosophy (primarily various Buddhist schools, Taoist, Hindu classics)...I read a lot about human sexuality and psychology as well as lots of biography especially American History and bios of musicians, poets, creative people...studied Contemporary Fiction in college and love South American writers especially Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Love post-WWI (and forward) fiction and poetry (not a big classicist though I appreciate it). I adore all of the ex-patriot writers from the 30s and 40s and the Beats a generation later. Love experimental fiction as well. I'll read anything on Bob Dylan. Other fave writers across the genres: Phillip K. Dick, Allen Ginsberg, Herman Hesse, Ken Kesey, Mark Danielewski, Jorge Luis Borges, Pablo Neruda, Carl Hiassen, Tom Robbins, Hunter S. Thompson, Anais Nin, Jack Kerouac, Ken Bruhn, Raymond Federman, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Marc Epstein. Loved The Kite Runner (inside joke, but I did love it and the follow-up).

FOOD:
Love good food and good service and atmospheric restaurants. If I had a dream career it would be as a food critic who could eat for free every night and never wash another dish. Thai, Mexican, Italian, Malaysian, Vietnamese, organic Vegetarian, BBQ, Brazilian...sushi, seafood, fresh fruit juice, coconut anything, dark chocolate, spicy...mmmmmm...good company over a long sensuous meal in New Orleans or on the waterfront somewhere...meet me...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music, friends, good meals, books, beauty, art/films and conversation about all of the above (and almost anything else)!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how long-winded I am...the fact that if I am not writing, I am singing, reading, processing ideas, random spiels about art, books, music, food, sexuality, meditation, discovering my place in the world, the meaning of life...I'm actually working on a book about epiphanal human sexuality as well as whittling away at the next music CD project, writing blogs and poetry as always and genuinely loving life. Looking forward to falling in love again. It's been a while and there is nothing quite as life-affirming. The most amazing relationship I had with someone was with a person who wanted to be my "Exploratory Partner." We went from exploring each others bodies, minds, hearts, personal spaces to exploring each other's universe from without and within. Pretty basic, open, shared communication. All else is icing. That's a beautiful thing to strive for.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
open to just about anything. I like good food. Often I try and play music or go hear some live music on a Friday. I love dinner with a partner, dancing to a good classic rock or reggae band and then, hours and hours in bed laughing, loving, discovering with someone who I just can't get enough of...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an open book. Just ask. I love getting to know everything about someone and don't mind sharing details about myself...just ask all of my Facebook friends!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you got this far without breaking for a meal/rest...you love good, fun conversation...you are smart, funny, open-minded, non-judgmental and love getting to know someone friendly with no expectations...not looking for a casual hook-up but open to someone curious and caring. Seeking connection, communication, friendship and/or love. And don't forget...the experts say that the more questions you answer on OKC the more accurate your percentages are...ok, so I answered A LOT and YES I want to know more about YOU too!

Drop me a line even if you're curious about something above but don't think we're a match. I love meeting new and interesting people.