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Pirita

30 F Lowestoft, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:07am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.64m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Finnish (Fluently), Swedish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hey there stranger,

The best anagrams of my names are "amoralities up", "realism utopia", "polite samurai" and "I amour pilates". They describe me much better than anything else.

"Hey there, sexy." *Yawn* booooring. You think I haven't heard that one before? If that's your opening, I won't reply. I have lived long enough to like myself and I already know I'm sexy, so I sincerely hope you have something else to say.

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I am a loyal and trustworthy friend to those who deserve it but known to love my dog more than anything else. In general, I find people very disappointing, whereas dogs have very rarely disappointed me. If you can prove differently, message me and it'll be a beginning of a beautiful friendship. If you like dogs as much as I do, I will probably like you a lot.

I will be pleased to meet any new people as friends (or possibly dates). I am not especially looking to madly fall in love, but I will accept it gladly if it is to happen. And no, it doesn't mean I am searching for 'intimate encounters'. As it happens, I already have access to unlimited, fantastic, sex. I'm looking for interesting conversations and enjoyable shared time. I like doing unusual stuff. I like art. I like museums. Turns out this immediately excludes a lot of people. Hence, I am here. More often than not, I've been unlucky in my affections.

I am a self reliant person and have enough self esteem to think I am worth more than what you can stick into my orifices, so if all you are going to say to me is some tacky one liner, I won't reply.

On physical levels, I like *good* tattoos. I have a special interest in bondage, as in being the one who gets tied up; but not necessarily in a sexual context. I also like it just for the sake of it, because it's beautiful. I also like to look at anyone with a mad Irish hair or sparkle behind the eye. Of all the mentioned the sparkle behind the eye is the most important.

I am engaged to DJ_Prig, my partner of 8 years. We are polyamorous, and as a matter of fact, met here. I also have another wonderful boyfriend. I am not interested in casual sex, so please don't offer. I require at least a friendship and I will want to see your face again, so if you are not up for polyamory, please don't approach me with dating intentions. I can be friends with lots of different kinds of people, though, monogamous or other kind.

I am headstrong, spontaneous, and cute. I have a very dry sense of humour and enjoy Irish radio in the mornings and 24h jazz in the evenings. I like doing 'crazy' stuff like running into the sea in October. I like to believe the best of everyone but I'm sceptical, get easily sad and occasionally moody. But not illogical screaming-the-lungs-out-at-you psycho moody; I like to discuss things rather than argue them. And I'm fun, but rather sensible, surprisingly. I lean to the left politically and don't in general talk about it.

I also made "Burn my church" a euphemism. Good old times, good old relationships.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work as a shift manager in retail. It's not as amazing as I would like it to be, but it challenges me, which is most important. I have two university degrees, one which is loosely related to what I am doing and one related to stuff I'd actually like to do, and someday hopefully will.

I use rest of my time trying to meet new people or moving around on the Reality-Fantasy-Nightmare axis trying to figure out what I really would like to do with the spare time I have. I usually spend by reading, jogging, doing crafts or with my dog and my boyfriends. Having two partners can be rather time consuming, so my spare time is limited. I also have two cats and four rats. That keeps me entertained. Generally, my life is pretty good, minus not having my dream job. Oh, and I read. LOTS. I get easily restless and want change, even when I'm happy. So often I daydream about other lives I could have lived. I could still get a ranch or move to Tibet. Maybe I will?

I am also writing a novel just like the rest one third of the nation. I am on my second draft, so it's going pretty well. If you'd like to read it and provide me some feedback, send me a message.

Most of the time I can keep myself entertained. If nothing else, I can build a sofa fort and eat marshmallows while watching Thelma and Louise. I'm just never bored. Now I am also running, it's a cheap form of exercise and I'd like to do more of it. I got a sport injury due to being an idiot headstrong mare that just couldn't stop running even though it hurt, so I have to take it pretty easy now.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Nothing special apart from self discipline, speaking fast, knitting and sex. I'm usually so interested in everything that I will remain only a superficial dabbler in many projects. I get interested quickly in most things. I have a good sense of humour and I like to experiment with things. It appears I have a special interest in taking care of people (Julie Andrews way, not like Al Pacino), but how good I am in that is a bit of a mystery to me. I have a very high tolerance for weird, so I can make lots of different kinds of people feel comfortable when I notice they are nervous, without letting them know I have noticed.

I could say I am REALLY good with fresh starts and generally 'bouncing back'. I've had enough experience to become skilled. I'm not sure that a well trained survival instinct counts as something you can say you are 'good at', though.

I'm good in seeing patterns and coming to think of it, I am rather good at sensing and identifying tensions and emotional loads in group situations. I have no idea what you would call that. Expert in facial expressions? I'm not too shabby with drawing. I'm not super good, but I like it regardless. I am also good at time estimations, multitasking and making lists or organising things. That makes me sound a bit anal, but you know what, why lie?
The first things people usually notice about me
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You know that tall, really slim woman that comes to Weatherspoons with her friends on Saturday evenings? The one who wears a figure hugging pencil dress, 3 inch heels, shows lots of cleavage and has immaculate makeup? Yeah, that's not me. I'm the girl sitting alone behind her in the corner reading a book about society critique, having a pint of lemonade diluted with soda and wearing something that covers as much as possible without being a burkha while secretly feeling sorry for her need to dress up in some weird and uncomfortable thing that looks like a sausage skin. I probably have okay hair and nice, normal makeup. Behind that mask of ordinary I am apparently quite hot (references available on request). That means I am not actually incredibly noticeable.

BUT when I do get noticed it's usually first because I have some blue in my hair. And apparently I have "bright" and "very observant" eyes. If you get as far as talking to me you would notice I have an Irish-y accent. I used to live there. I wear colourful clothes, so presumably people would notice that. It's been said that I am also super intense but quite introverted, and brave in the sense that I go along with things anyway, despite of feeling scared. If you are a hairy man, you probably notice me drooling over your hairy bits. Especially if you have a beard. I like beards.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I love Mikhail Bulgakov's Master and Margarita. If you have read this or even heard of it I will be suitably impressed. I like intellectually challenging books that are a bit philosophical and not too obvious. I quite like to be surprised. I'd read thrillers but they give me nightmares. I also read Scientific American and the New Humanist. In general, I like books. Reading is my favourite spare time activity. I also read Diva, the only women's magazine that doesn't make women feel like crap about themselves. I often end up reading non-fiction for some reason. I am currently reading the Game of Thrones series and enjoying it.

I take book recommendations. If a book changed your life, please recommend it to me.

shows: I used to go to theatre a lot and I was an amateur actress for 13 years, but I have had to give that up. The only opera I have ever consistently liked was Madama Butterfly. I do like ballet and I enjoy drama on stage. I really wish I had a chance to see more. One of the best on stage plays I've seen was The collaborators.

Films: Year of the wolf, the types of films like Dogville, American Beauty, Fur and Angela's ashes. I'm not a huge fan of blockbusters, but Pixar films are usually good. In reality I watch any old crap if the company is good.

TV: Anything with strong female characters.

I like Adventure time, House, Dr Who and Being human (first 3 series). Some I can watch over and over again despite of having seen them a hundred times. I love How I Met Your Mother and like Orange is the new black. Black books is my all time favourite and Castle is pretty enjoyable too.

Music: I don't listen to music apart from classical cello. People seem to think this is really weird. I have no need to fill my *bus journey/ dinner time / any other small slot* with unnecessary extra noise. I like radio 4 and 5 though. Sometimes radio 3. There's something wrong with people who can't handle silence. When I feel my life is too quiet or my train journey is 4h I listen to bands like The Smiths, The Cure (older stuff), The Beatles, Ultra Bra, Leevi and the leavings, jazz, Apocalyptica, anything that fits my mood then. I quite like Kate Bush and Fleetwood Mac.

I like jazz and brass music a lot, the swinging type. I sing to myself when I'm happy. Some random music is okay in the background most of the time when I'm in the mood for it, but in general I'm only in mood for jazz. I actually really like just the clock ticking on the background. Or sound of waves and birds. Some day when I have money and time I'd like to learn to play the trombone. I live at the seaside, so when I feel rubbish I have a walk on the beach and the waves are my music.

My favourite album is "Kiss me, kiss me, kiss me" by the Cure.

Food: I'm fussy about food, but not its taste or complexity. I like good food when someone else has cooked it, but I rarely bother to make anything very special. I was on a vegetarian diet for a long time, because I don't approve the methods used by our meat industry, but after developing some health problems have gone almost completely vegan now. It's hard not to be fussy when you can't eat most food on the market. I don't have much of a sweet tooth. I'd rather have a French onion soup for a starter than chocolate cake for dessert. When I'm alone at home I just eat simple things like bread or oat porridge. I would quite happily just eat jacket potatoes every day. I like flavour combinations that other people don't seem to get, such as vegan blue cheese with pineapple. And of course rye bread from my native Finland. I like stuff with lentils, like dahl, and Indian food in general. Black bean burgers are amazing too.

And I love whisky. And no, I certainly don't ruin it with mixing coke in it. And margaritas. I really like margaritas. Sadly, my ability to drink either is severely compromised due to migraines that can be pretty much be set off by just knowing the next door neighbours are having a glass of wine. I like rioja best.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) People. I mostly hate people, but somehow I miss them if there aren't any. What a paradox.

2) My dog, Elsa. I love her more than anything else in the world. She's my daemon. If you have read 'His dark materials' you know what I mean. If you haven't read it I probably just came across as a basket case.

3) Interest for life and the childlike ability to get excited about things. Guarantees I'm never bored.

4) Freedom and hope, in life in general. I often feel things in general are awful, but thankfully acknowledge they can get better too.

5) Books. Do I ever need books. I think I'd die without books, or go mad.

6) Self confidence, to believe in who I am and trusting I'm not a failure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- time
- love and relationships, polyamory, invisible strings that connect people in the cosmos.
- Certain past lovers, with great affection. I hope their life is good. I miss them, but we are all connected and they are part of me now.
- mundane existentialism and why things fail.
- my dog's face. Look at it; Isn't it adorable?
- That I should get rid of a lot of stuff
- what kind of people I'd like to meet
- how to make artsy stuff with everyday objects
- human tragedy
- How to make the damn thing work (applies to everything from relationships to recipes and the laptop).
- Why so many people are dicks and that's apparently okay.

It's balancing between important and absolutely meaningless things. I sometimes have the tendency to make meaningless things important and unfortunately, it usually screws things up.

I try to take some time every day now just to be grateful of the things I have and not think of anything.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Asleep or reading. Friday is nothing very special for people working in retail, since weekends are often consumed by work. What I'd like to be doing is to natter with someone amazing over a glass of wine. On most Fridays I just like to read a good book and relax while utilising my dog as a pillow, or have a cup of tea while watching films.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A friend promised me 20 pounds for eating crickets. I liked them. I now eat crickets. I have also eaten a live spider and a mealworm. The worm was juicy but the spider had no flavour.

I struggled for years to admit to myself that YES, I do like some 80's hits.

A Jamaican MTA employee in NYC subway said I should have gone into stand up comedy rather than biology and he's not the first one.

I don't usually feel very ashamed of anything I do, so I could say that I really don't have any that private things. I guess it is my dirty 'secret' that I am somewhat into BDSM as a 'bottom'. Sadly, a lot of BDSM people I have met have turned out to be a lot more crazy than average and i am already mostly meeting crazy people. So I've kind of given up on that. It's probably worth a note that I am not obsessed with this interest and it's not why I'm here. I also want to socialise with bookish people who like knitting and so forth.

I think selling sex is fine if enough money was offered and don't think it's immoral or shameful. As long as it doesn't power the drug industry or exploit disadvantaged people.

I appear confident but am actually scared most of the time. I'm just very good in hiding it.

I think Dakota Fanning and Krista Kosonen are the most attractive women in the world. I'd probably do Dame Judy Dench too.

I think the world is due another flu epidemic that should kill lots of people. I am actually waiting for this to happen. And I am disappointed it hasn't yet happened, seriously. Also, I think we should direct funds to research on certain types of degenerative diseases rather than cancer research. That's quite a private and not so popular opinion.

Also, I let my dog lick my teeth and don't give a toss if YOU worry it might give you a tapeworm. I have kissed giraffes too. They carry salmonella and listeria.

That was 8 things at least. Was that enough?
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-You are polyamorous and looking for other poly people for romance or friendship.

- you are honest, trustworthy and fun. This is a deal breaker.

- I would like to meet confident people who have at least one thing in life they feel enthusiasm for. I want to see that sparkle in your eye; I think it's one of the most important things in life.

- Or if you are Aidan Turner or alternatively look very much like Aidan Turner.
- If you can teach me Czech.
- You like crafts and want to share ideas.
- If you can teach me to play the trombone.
- You want to buy me a whisky.
- You know physics and want to tell me about the nature of time.
- If you used to know me and miss me.
- You don't need a particular kind of reason, but if you don't like dogs, I probably won't like you.

You should NOT message me if:

- your profile says nothing else but "I don't know what to write" or your profile is generic stating you just like to watch films and your family is important to you. That's poor advertising.
- You are really depressed. I know this sounds really discriminatory, but the truth is that I already know lots of depressed people and I don't have any energy to support more considering that sometimes I'm not great myself.
- you haven't read any books since you left school (I'm bookish)
- you write without punctuation or in text speak
- you intend to say 'lol'
- you are looking for someone to settle down with, unless you are thinking of a commune. I have already settled down with someone else, so the most I can offer is a polyamorous relationship where everyone has to share.
- If your muscles are bigger than your mental abilities.