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45 M Newport, RI

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:51pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids

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My self-summary
Looking specifically for those bearing the character trait/dating preference that translates as: "willing to go the distance in a relationship; emotionally available, also GGG, and responsible."

How I am: I am fine. I'm doing fine. It's going well. "Hey" right back atcha. What's up? Not much... just looking to meet interesting women with stuff to say.
If you send me a message asking me about my day/to say "hi", this signifies you have entered the notorious yet forgettable membership of other hapless, dateless noobs who have never read an online-dating advice article in their lives; you are hereafter branded as a boring, unoriginal putz; a trite timewaster of the first order!

So here I am on a dating website. The horror!

I am looking for someone to have fun with, share the little things with, act goofy with and see where life takes us. Tired of dating women who say they know what they want, when they don't. No one says you have to know where you are going, but please have some semblance of an idea what you want...and be honest about it!

I hope I can prove there are some men out there who care about more than just T&A. Not that there's anything wrong with that. ;)

Speaking of which, the best way to learn about me is to read this profile for information. That should tell you quite a bit. I like people that actually enjoy reading.

If I added you to my favorites: It means I like something about you. I either thought you were cute, and/or thought you had a good profile. In some cases I bookmarked you to make sure I could get back to your profile and read it thoroughly when I had more time. So go ahead and say hello!

I'm not here with any specific goal. However, if I bump into someone I'm ACTUALLY attracted to, and we become good friends, it may turn into more, and that's cool, I just don't seek it out actively. I'd rather go with the flow. The intent options here don't really fit my personality - but I had to choose, so I did.

I'm drawn to those who who take life one day at a time, and love to just live it. Traits I like in a person: fun, happy/at peace/laid back and relaxed, intellectual/intelligent, able to spell, well spoken, confident, not arrogant, able to laugh at yourself , takes good care of yourself - mind, body and spirit, know what you want and like in your world, but be open to new and different possibilities. Expects nothing, doesn't force anything, goes with the flow. Comfortable with who you are, drama free and able to enjoy your own company. : )

If you want to know what *I AM* looking for, look up Natasha Bedingfield's 'Soulmate' on youtube...'nuff said.

A couple of things about kissing...kissing is an art...a true innate ability. Mouths should meet but not be noticed, felt but not be conscious of...the kiss should be the entire body not only the mouth. It is not hard to kiss or kiss is hardest to kiss someone's your tongue across their want and draw out their need. Allow them the trust to ask for what they really want to have, what they need.

I really don't like talking about myself. if you wish to know more, please message me.

Some things about me:
1. Music is my favorite thing in the world(other than my kids). Mess with my music, and you mess with me.
2. I despise lying/cheating. I don't give second chances, so don't ask
3. I'm into sports. They don't run my life, but I won't feel guilty about watching them.
6. I do not have a jealous bone in my body. Girls night out? No problem. I'll refer you to #2.
7. I am not religious. I do not care if you are. However, I will not join in. FYI: I lead a very moral life.
8. I'm affectionate. I love sex. If this is an issue for you, please move on. I have a healthy sex drive, and will not apologize for it.

Some things about you:
1. Be honest, and genuine. Again, see #2 above.
2. Have a healthy sex drive. Non-negotiable.
3. Be over your propensity for serial-dating, and hopping from guy to guy.
4. Superficial? Move along. While I agree that SOME physical attraction is neccesary, I'm not looking for, nor am I attracted to 'Barbie' types. And I sure as h*ll ain't Ken. If you are looking for a model, or some hot rodeo rider named Cody - move along.
5. Be a GREAT kisser.
6. And here's a novel concept - actually look like your picture! Otherwise, you're buying me drinks until you do.

One more VERY important thing. I will NOT chase you. I have no interest in puffing up your ego, or giving constant reassurance of my interest. Believe me, if I'm interested in will know. If we start chatting semi-regularly, and your texts become sporadic, and/or resort to one-word responses 3 days after i replied to you - obviously your attention is elsewhere, on someone else. I've wrestled whether to even care about this...but I kept coming back to the realization that I'm not putting effort into something with limited return potential.
What I’m doing with my life
Working everyday, supporting my kids.
I’m really good at
~Naming songs with only hearing limited notes, as well as knowing the exact place in the song - a skill that has helped me out in life exactly....never!

~That stupid golf tee logic puzzle triangle thing at Cracker Barrel.
~Practical jokes...Ashton Kutcher? Bitch, please! ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
~My eyes

2nd thing they notice is I have a pretty efficient BS detector. I hate liars.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: anything by Stephen Hawking, Dean Koontz, and Raymond Feist. Other authors that float my boat are: Patricia Cornwell, Mary Higgins Clark, Sue Grafton, Terry Brooks, JRR Tolkien, David Eddings, Piers Anthony( Mode Series), and Ayn Rand.

Favorite movie: Shawshank Redemption, then A Few Good Men
Favorite show: Big Bang Theory(current), House & Seinfeld(all time)
Favorite Author: Raymond Feist, then Terry Brooks, David Eddings, Dean Koontz
Favorite Actors: Paul Giamatti, then Giovanni Ribisi, Sean Penn, Michael Douglas,
Favorite Actress: Meryl Streep, then Audrey Tautou, Gemma Arterton(I'm in LUST!!!), Bryce Dallas Howard.
Favorite Band: Journey(are you laughing)
Favorite food: English-style fish & chips, then pasta
Favorite genre of music: Melodic Rock( Journey, Foreigner, Winger...AKA Hair bands)
Favorite female singers: Ann Wilson(Heart), Corinne Bailey Rae, Stevie Nicks, Imelda May, Cyndi Lauper, Lana Lane.
Favorite Male singers: Steve Perry, Johnny Gioli(Hardline), Michael Bormann( Jaded Heart), Lou Gramm/Kelly Hansen(Foreigner), Dennis DeYoung(Styx), Phil Collins, Danny Vaughn(Tyketto), Tony Harnell(T.N.T.)
The six things I could never do without
The only thing I could never do without is my curiosity. The saddest thing I have ever felt was the realization that I'm not going to be alive when humankind finds out what *THIS* is all about.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why is it when Dick Cheney shot someone in the face nothing happened, but when Clinton did it they tried to impeach him?
On a typical Friday night I am
Lamenting over yet another last minute date cancelation. What is wrong with you women?! ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I cry during chick flicks, but will cover it up by saying there is something in my eye.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–48
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
~you have outgrown your propensity to hop from guy to guy.
~you believe in the "brain in a vat" theory.
~you sort of, almost, kinda think that slinkys have been grossly misunderstood.
~you, also, have misremembered something in your lifetime
~you have had occasion where taking *the nickel* was not only fiendishly apropo, but unabashedly reckless.
~you are fascinated by people who find it neccesary to turn to look at you to see if you are laughing when they are laughing at a funny part in a movie. Because this fascinates the ever-living fuck out of me.
~Oompa-Loompas creep you the fuck out.
~You enjoy the artwork of Kit Williams, and Jacek Yerka.

My 3 Dating Maxims:

1. Go for what you want. Accept that defeat will happen and walk away. If you're interested, and she just wants another friend, walk away. You have enough friends.

2. When in front of romantic prospects, or in general, don't let yourself get crapped on. Stand up for yourself. It is necessary to be able to be an 'asshole', and to be so on occasion when the situation warrants it.

3. Tell her 'no' when she's being stupid or ridiculous, and 'no' on occasion when you simply prefer the opposite of what she wants. just to establish it's an option. This shows you're not a doormat and you have your own will.