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PlayTheDayAway Away

30 / M / Straight / Available

Charlottesville, Virginia

His Details

Last Online
Online now!
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Sagittarius and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm a transplant from Oregon and will always consider it my home. I'm really loving all that Charlottesville has to offer, but I seriously miss big mountains.

I'm passionate about learning, laughing, and standing up for what's right. Social and environmental justice are never far from my thoughts. I am completely in awe of the natural world around me and find a quiet spirituality away from the drab, droll city streets... my eyes are forever drawn to the stars, I love the texture and smell of wet earth on my skin and the feel of warm summer rain on my back. I'm drawn to the challenge of pushing my body to its limits and I am forever wondering what new adventures await over the next hill.

I consider myself a radical feminist, and am always happy to talk Audre Lorde, bell hooks, Cherrie Moraga, or any of my other favorites.

Hey, look right here! I'm polyamorous and have several amazing ladies that play various roles in my life. I've been dating RaiseUpYourFist for over four years, and we currently live together. This doesn't mean I can't build meaningful connections with others.
What I’m doing with my life
Being awesome at 30. I'm actually looking forward to the next 10 years. Kicking ass at my job with a local non-profit! Gardening, being outside, and living an alternative lifestyle. Climbing everything... Brewing kombucha. Slacklining. Hiking like a mad man. Cooking deliciousfood. Flirting over wine and kicking people's asses at scrabble. Biking. Pretending I'm a superhero.

I'm hoping to transition professionally into outdoor leadership within the next few years. Right now I lead a lot of adventures with a local club, so most weekends I'm out hiking, climbing, in a cave somewhere, or some combination of those things. I'm always looking for more people in my life that have a similar sense of adventure.
I’m really good at
I think I'm pretty good at building things, working with my hands, problem solving, teaching, learning how to be a better more well-rounded person, fighting the patriarchy, memorizing completely random facts, being an awesome ally, making people feel special, recognizing my inherent privilege in our society as a white, cisgendered male, defying gender norms, and getting lost in just about anything and everything...
The first things people usually notice about me
I never really ask people this question... I can go unnoticed on first impressions, but once I get under someone's skin I'm impossible to shake.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a book that convinced me that people mostly gather libraries full of books to impress their guests with the vast amount of information they've taken in... I got rid of almost every book I owned as a result. Some days I regret it, but it's been pretty freeing!

I'll read just about anything, I've been devouring books for most of my life. Some of my favorites include: The Alchemist (most anything by Coelho actually,) Life of Pi, God of Small Things, Shadow of the Wind, Middlesex, 1984, Fahrenheit 451, Faulkner, bell hooks, Herman Hesse, Cherrie Moraga, Harry Freakin' Potter, and I'm also very intrigued by the works of Foucault.

I don't watch a lot of movies, mostly documentaries. I do have a soft spot for 80's movies like Labyrinth, Neverending Story, and all the classic Molly Ringwald flicks.

Buffy the Vampire Slayer is probably the greatest show ever made. Don't judge! Joss Whedon is incredible, and a feminist, and it really comes through in his works. I also love Dr. Horrible's Sing Along Blog, and am very eagerly awaiting the return of Arrested Development.

I mostly listen to NPR and it is fantastic.

Food: I'm trying to eschew labels on my diet. I like good, healthy food that I know where it came from. Preferably from my garden, or a farmer's market, but I buy what is within my means at the time. Organic, grass fed, non-GMO, and cruelty free are all things that I like to put in my body.
The six things I could never do without
The survivalist/minimalist side of me wants to list part of the "ten essentials," but I realize that this gives little away about my personality.

I wouldn't want to live in a world without laughter, playing, stars, sun-kissed skin, tall things to climb and friends and family.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can be a better person? How can I continue to evolve, grow, love, nurture, surrender, break down my barriers and those of people around me?

I really get caught up in the construction of identities, wondering how people from differing genders and cultures have come to see themselves in and relate to this world. I also find myself acutely aware of the myriad types of oppression that surround me on a daily basis.

I spend a lot of time pondering language and dissecting words...
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably at Tea Bazaar.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I went tandem skydiving many years ago and was largely unimpressed... it felt as if all the danger and risk had been taken out of it, and left me feeling unchallenged... like I was on a very expensive carnival ride. I'd do it again though hoping to get something else from the experience.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–36
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You are comfortable dating someone who is already in a committed relationship and can respect a few boundaries.

You are comfortable within your skin.

You are playful and like to be somewhat silly and laugh a lot.

You want a buddy to exercise with this summer.

You are passionate about life, and see what you do as having meaning in this world.