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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 12
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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***Upfront*** I am currently in a relationship with 7yeareclipse. We are married. We have a very strong, lifetime bond, that remains open to the world and other relationships.

I am a complex person. I am straightforward. I mean what I say, and say what I mean. I am generally easy going, and I can be intense. I am adventurous. I love to try new things. I love my body. I love my life and feel grateful a lot of the time. I'm poly-amorous, in fact more polysexual, and kinky.

I am interested in meeting new friends and having great conversations with open-minded, loving people. I am open to whatever develops inside that context. FWB is really ideal for me, though I don't do casual and I enjoy (and thrive on) real intimacy. I can be pushy, respond well to assertiveness, and take rejection fairly well (at least I don't take it personally).

I am into being dominant in my relationships and in the bedroom, meaning I take the initiative sexually, and I am comfortable with being in control in general. This doesn't mean that I don't like assertive or strong people - I tend to prefer them. I enjoy giving and receiving a wide range of sensation.

I love backpacking, cooking, fine dining and travelling . I Have been to Paris, Venice, and to 49 of 50 United States.

I play a lot. Playing takes a lot of forms for me, I think in some way I am almost always playing. In fact, I am playing with life. Some people who notice this may think it means that I have no goals, or that I am not committed to anything. I play with goals and commitment too. I play responsibly and consensually when playing with others.

I believe that belief is the greatest power that we have. I believe in the power of science to describe, quantify, and dance with physical reality. I believe that spiritual reality is fundamental reality, and the physical universe is the manifestation of the unseen and unknown. I strive for a powerful relationship to reality. I am a healing practitioner in several modalities.

My experience has taught me many valuable lessons about my life and especially my relationships, and I remain open to new experiences, new people, and new places. I tend to see the beauty in all things.
What I’m doing with my life
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Loving it.

I completed a degree in Renewable Energy Engineering in August 2012.

I am now living on Whidbey Island, and building Tiny Houses. Practicing The Way of the Heart, Reiki, Science of Mind, permaculture and simplicity.

I sing in the choir at my Unitarian Universalist church.

CrossFit! I am challenging my body to do new things and loving it. I am stronger and have more endurance than I did in my teens or twenties.

Also, I own and run a company that specializes in developing sustainable engineering solutions.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
In no particular order:
Energy Work
Creating New Possibilities
Being Loved
Public Speaking
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my eyes, or my nose, if they are only looking. If they are talking with me they notice my openness and attentiveness - or my distinctive laugh. Let me know what you notice first, because I don't really know.

My wife says it's my charisma. That I am a people person, and it's very easy to like me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Recently, books on permaculture, organic gardening, and biodynamic agriculture. The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz. Anything by Terry Pratchett. Fantasy and sci-fi in general. Frank Herbert is a genius. Anything to do with business, renewable energy, or games. Also random scientific texts and journal articles.

Movies: Fight Club, Waking Life, The Aviator, A very Long Engagement, The Princess Bride, Stardust, Northfork, The Beautiful Green (French), Bread and Roses (Italian) all Akira Kurosawa films, French comedies in general.

Music: Techno, Classical, Bluegrass, Jazz, Latin, Indian Traditional (Hindi and Arabic). I prefer my music without words I can understand.
Favorite Artists: Beethoven, Mozart, Daft Punk, Underworld, Tiempo Libre, KMFDM (older stuff). New Fave: Balkan Beat Box.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is a silly question. There are far more than 6.
Clean air and water.
Delicious food.
Comfortable shelter.
Sexual pleasure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Energy systems, games, sex, love and relationships, finance and economics, energy, intention, invention, peace, prosperity, freedom, and fun.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing, gaming, watching a movie, or getting my freak on.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an open book. But not on this site. Just ask!
You should message me if
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You know what you want, and it's me. You aren't afraid of sharing. You care about the things I care about. You are curious. You have a question.