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ApparentlyThere

33 Charlotte, NC Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–37
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:49am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Job
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English, Japanese (Poorly), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Geek of several stripes; including, but not limited to: classical antiquity (who doesn't think 500BCE - 500CE are the coolest years ever?), gaming (both tabletop RPG and PC), Japan (lived there for nearly four years and it kind of stuck - may end up returning someday). I also enjoy studying language and its delightful complexity. Science is pretty hawt, as well. Yes, it is true; I described science - indeed, I would dare to include very nearly all sciences - as "hawt".

I have started school again on a long road to my goal of being an experimental archaeologist, and rocked that 4.0 for my first semester! Be happy for me.

In personality tests, I am consistently found to be on the border between introvert and extrovert. I can be the life of the party or rather content to sit alone reading or playing video games. My default position is one of formal friendliness if I am uncomfortable, but if I am at ease, I can become quite boisterous.

I am typically over-dressed for any occasion. I just enjoy wearing sport coats. I would rather wear a jacket and look good than stay cool in the summer, but I realize that is idiotic so I have worked hard more recently to only wear one when I absolutely have to (read: really really want to).

I am an agnostic atheist, and am not really interested in a romantic relationship with someone who is religious in any serious way. I value reason above faith in all things.

I am unlikely to assume society has anything right automatically and try to create my own value system according to my experience and observations. As a result, I question with great vehemence the idea that love always equals monogamy. I consider polyamory a possibility in my life because [a.] I have never been in a relationship that fulfilled all my mental and physical needs, and [b.] I don't believe that love is finite or something that is degraded by sharing it. That having been said, I am not opposed to monogamy as such; I am simply just as skeptical of it as I am of any social construct.

I take love, romantic or otherwise, very seriously. Love, affection, and respect have to be present before I consider sex an option. If I don't care for a person, I won't be interested in having any kind of sexual relationship with her.

I like Italian wines (especially from Abruzzo) and Sauvignon Blanc from Marlborough, NZ. Absinthe is also the shit.

I love cute things. If I have a god, Rilakkuma is that god.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently, I work at a fairly nice restaurant as a waiter. It is not glamorous, but it never fails to pays the bills. I also attend college during the day, acquiring knowledge at break-kneck speeds! All of the knowledge will be mine!

I quit smoking a few months ago and changed my diet dramatically. Now I am trying to increase my projected lifespan by engaging in healthy behavior like regular exercise (::shudder::). Next on the list is reducing my Red Bull intake drastically to completely. I may not survive. Biking to school and work has become something I thoroughly enjoy.

When I am not at work, I am often seen spending time with friends and family or huddled over my mouse and keyboard playing various and sundry video games (often with my friends and family, over Steam).

On alternate Tuesdays, I can be found playing D&D with my brothers and/or other friends or studying Latin for fun and profit with my good friend and tutor.

For several months last year, I ran a group called "The Symposium" that met every two weeks. There, we drank together the wine of knowledge, teaching and learning across a wide variety of topics through lecture and presentation. While it lasted, it was beautiful. It really was one of the most enjoyable experiences I have had, but eventually the pool of reliable presenters became two, which was much too small for the intended purpose. I hope to reconstitute it again someday if I can find a group of people who can be counted upon to prepare topics for lecture and discussion.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knowing what the names of dinosaurs mean

I am a pretty good cook (I used to do it for a living). Recipes are just guidelines.

Running a fun and character-driven tabletop rpg game

Organizing, but not motivating, groups of people to do cool things
The first things people usually notice about me
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"Why is that guy not wearing a bow tie? He really looks like he should wear a bow tie..."

Unless I am wearing a bow tie, in which case they say, "Heh, look at that loser wearing a bow tie!"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books:
Stranger in a Strange Land, Starship Troopers, Time Enough for Love, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, The Rolling Stones, and Methuselah's Children by Robert A. Heinlein; Dune by Frank Herbert; Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card; Snowcrash and Cryptonomicon by Neal Stephenson; The Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy and Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency by Douglas Adams; American Gods by Neil Gaiman; Jurassic Park by Michael Crichton; Contact by Carl Sagan; and The Business by Iain M. Banks. Oh, and those damned Harry Potter books are pretty great, too.

Comics: Preacher written by Garth Ennis, Honey and Clover by Chika Umino, and The Sandman written by Neil Gaiman. Also just about anything by Ito Junji.

Movies: Jurassic Park, Raiders of the Lost Ark, First Blood, Saving Private Ryan, West Side Story, Grave of the Fireflies, The Girl Who Leapt Through Time, My Neighbor Totoro, Primer, the BBC Pride and Prejudice miniseries, Hair Extensions, Kiki's Delivery Service

TV: Doctor Who, Firefly, Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, Sherlock, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Rome, Cowboy Bebop, Nodame Cantabile (live action is just a bit dearer to me), Dekichatta Kekkon, Midnight Restaurant, Ristorante Paradiso, Good Eats, Evangelion, 30 Rock, The West Wing

Music: Ben Folds (Five and otherwise), They Might Be Giants, Flight of the Conchords, Cake, The Cardigans, Cibo Matto, Eddie From Ohio, Great Big Sea, Guster, Jump Little Children, Sakamoto Maaya, Nickel Creek, Paris Combo, Pomplamoose, Regina Spektor, MC Chris. When most people say they listen to a large amount of music, they mean that they listen to most things that are played on the radio or have been over the past 20 years or so. When you look at my library, you will see some of those things, certainly; you will also see jazz, blues, showtunes, hip-hop, madrigals, classical, oldies, opera, enka, a capella, j- and k-pop, choral music and miscellany from all over the world and from the last seventeen or so centuries.

Food: Indian food, Persian food, lentils prepared a variety of ways, macaroni and cheese, pizza, basmati rice, ice cream, granny smith apples, non-fish sushi used as a wasabi delivery device

Sports Teams: Hanshin Tigers and Orix Buffaloes

Cocktails: Lime Chu-hai, Bombay Sapphire and ginger ale, Stoli Raspberry and Red Bull

PC Games: Borderlands 1 and 2, Bioshock Infinite, The Dig, Starcraft, Skyrim, Rome: Total War, Fallout 3, Planescape: Torment, Neverwinter Nights 2
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- My laptop and Steam
- My phone (cliché at this point, but cliché does not mean it is any less true)
- Something new to learn
- Good friends
- My beautiful and loving and evil cat, St. Alia of the Knife
- Sport Coat of Comfort and Looking Cute +1
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My time in Osaka. It's the biggest and possibly the best city I've ever lived in, and definitely the most fun. I miss the Hanshin Tigers, low crime rate, speaking Japanese, and being able to bike or take the train anywhere at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. Boring, I know, but as a waiter it tends to be one of the most lucrative nights to work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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In my youth, I had a few years of pretty serious depression. Those dark times are behind me now. Mostly, I think, because of the maturation of my tender, delicious brain, but also because of emotional maturation. I have gotten quite good at policing myself and keeping a watch for any danger signs in the past ten or so years.

I am a pretty open book. If we are talking and you have any questions, I will probably not have issues with answering them.
You should message me if
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You have a geeky side. If you actually had the patience to read my intensely long and boring profile. If you think that "Montana" by Frank Zappa is a work of true musical genius. If you have lived in Japan or just want to know about it. If you like ancient history and need to discuss it with someone. If you want to practice Latin, Japanese, or even French. If you like intelligent guys who cannot possibly live forever, but wish that they were going to so that they could learn everything. If you are looking for someone who tends not to take the world at face value (this is important; I may know what to do when figuratively "in Rome" but I don't really think "like the Romans do").