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26 Placentia, CA Androgynous, Genderfluid

Androgynous, Genderfluid

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18-32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 24
Bisexual, Heteroflexible, Pansexual, Sapiosexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Average build
Dropped out of Two-year college
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English, French (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My name is Ash. I am an ambivert. This means dependent on the day I could be the most extreme Extrovert you've ever met, or the most extreme introvert. After a stint of wanting to be alone I am currently in the mood for going out and actually enjoying things again.

I enjoy playing with fire and electricity, and getting lost playing with toys. My favorites are Poi and Staff.

I identify as pansexual and hetero-romantic, but I'm not not necessarily romantically attracted to ONLY biological women. I am open to sex and love with anyone I feel attraction towards.

I am polyamorous, and incredibly ethical about it. I operate off of the mindset that everyone should be fully aware, consenting, and safe when dating each other in a non-monogamous situation. Most of my and my partners' rules involve open communication and practicing safe sex. Polyamory is not a choice for me, but a state of being.

I used to read constantly; I can be found to do so a little more lately, but despite my love for books, I am so visual that I tend to prefer movies and video games these days, for my media entertainment.

My primary partner is donnthesitate. I adore her.
VampireSerenade is also a partner of mine, though we are trying to figure out what's up with that now that she has a primary, and I adore her as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work a M-F job, and make enough to support myself and have a little left over.
I also do freelance work as a graphic designer and a professional performer.

I am starting to work on creating a comic from scratch for fun, that I've had a concept for for a long time but no drive to solidify.

My current primary goal is to save up for a more reliable form of transportation, and get out and live life with friends a bit more than the last year has allowed.

I can be found at my local theater regularly, and I go out for coffee a lot.

As of 10/7/15 I have been renting a room in a house for almost 6 months, with a full time day job and completely independent for the first time in 6 years. I am incredibly happy. I am working towards buying either an electric or gas scooter, and have hopes to start saving for the Tesla Model 3, so I can get one soon after it comes out. I want to finish chapter 1 of my comic within the next month.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
More than anything, I feel like I am fantastic at losing myself in what I am doing, and solving problems. I can spend hours drilling repetitive complicated motions in poi or other physical things and come out happier than I started, which is something I feel a lot of people (who don’t delve in the philosophy of Flow Art) can’t say. It's also something that I was VERY bad at as a kid.

Here’s a fire performance piece I did for Independence Day:

I enjoy cooking, as well, and have been teaching myself a variety of culinary styles for almost the last 20 years.

Lastly, I tend to be emotionally stable no matter how bad things get, or at the very least I am able to work through my problems without much issue.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I’ve been told that it’s my eyes, but I am pretty sure that those people were lying and that it is my ear-piercing joker-esque laugh. Though I guess that depends on whether they met me in a situation in which I was having fun.

The last three social situations I have been in, after being in a group for awhile I had multiple people come up to me and say that my laugh is crazy. This is fairly common.

You tell me?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
For the sake of simplicity, let's dumb this down. I am an avid reader, listener of music, and love movies and food. These are the things that I view as the meat of life.

My favorite book series' are the Dragonriders of Pern and the Coldfire Trilogy. I have taken a lot in my life from both of them. I can go on for a long time about the books I like but I can go on longer about these ones.

My favorite movies change with the year, because new amazing movies are always coming out. My current favorite movies are the new Hobbit trilogy.

I watch a ton of television shows. I love Archer, although recently Moonbeam City aired and it is absolutely beautiful.

I am open to most types of music, and have not found a genre that doesn't have something I like. Recently 'm very into In This Moment, The Birthday Massacre, Lindsey Stirling and Halestorm.

I absolutely adore Japanese food, enough that i have learned to cook most traditional styles of Japanese food from scratch so i can make it all at home on a whim. I also really like honeydew melons.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Fire. After picking up fire dance, this became my special place. Being on fire, touching it, smelling it, hearing it roar around me. Nothing is more relaxing.
-Music to keep me focused. I have a tendency to get off track without it.
-A new goal/challenge to work towards every few months. I like to think complete goals quickly, and have found myself to be lost when I have nothing to work towards.
-Open communication with people around me. I need mental engagement, and especially need it to not be one-sided.
-A creative release. This can be reading or drawing, practicing poi, doing my makeup, randomly cutting my hair, whatever.
-something new to learn about. I like learning things, no matter how useless they may be, but especially learning new things to do.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I can cook but can't understand baking at all.
For awhile I wondered what Scotch Eggs tasted like, but then I just cooked them recently for the first time and they were glory incarnate.

I think a lot about would-bes and could-bes. I wonder what my life will be like in ten years, and wonder what things would be different now if I had made certain decisions differently.

I also think a lot about people. The ways people look, or act, things they do. I find myself especially drawn towards thinking about people when they are happily doing things they enjoy, and hope that I can get to a point where my surroundings don't prevent me from doing that as much as they do now.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The last few weekends I have spent my Fridays drawing new images or coming up with storyline for a dungeons and dragons campaign.

I really enjoy going out to industrial clubs or wandering around in the middle of the night with people. Coffee, chatting about random things, and enjoying the air.

I have a job where I can finally get real weekends so I have been much more apt to really take them and do things that relax me or make my heart pound with excitement.

My ideal Friday night would probably be meeting someone new who I really clicked with (platonically, romantically, whichever) and learning about each other while we literally just dick around. I had a lot of nights like that in high school and I kind of miss them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am immensely vain.
I will sing every part of every song that I hear and know obnoxiously loud, and I don't care what people think about it.

"Private" is relative to the person;

I have no secrets.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I want to get to know someone who is excited for life, who enjoys themselves and who enjoys other people who enjoy themselves.
I want to connect with someone who wants to do things, or learn things. To go to a dive bar they haven't been to, to go to a club and dance around people they don't know, to sing at the top of their lungs in karaoke no matter how bad they think they are at it.

Message me if you want to say hi to me as a person and not as a message behind a screen.

I am an incredibly open person, and accept people of all types. I would love to connect to people as friends and see what it becomes from there, but for romance I am really looking for the passion for life.