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26 Placentia, CA Androgynous, Genderfluid

Androgynous, Genderfluid

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:39pm
Bisexual, Heteroflexible, Pansexual, Sapiosexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Dropped out of Two-year college
Doesn’t want kids
English, French (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you see me repeatedly looking at your profile and then running away without sending a message, it is because while I find you awesome I don't know what to say. I know no one just likes generic "Hi" messages. I try being as cordial as I can, but sometimes the words aren't there for me to actually start a conversation. If I have come to your profile a lot, I think you're cool and would love to chat. I probably even have you on my favorites. If you get tired of waiting for me to figure out what to say, I'm always open to getting a message as well!

I am an ambivert, though recently I find myself more and more desiring of staying home and having quiet nights, and yet I also miss being really social and surrounded by my friends.

I identify as pansexual and hetero-romantic, but I'm not not necessarily attracted to ONLY biological women. I am open to sex and love with anyone I feel attraction towards.

I am usually polyamorous, but since I opened up to that concept I have found that the level to which I desire multiple partners tends to be a sliding scale. Right now it's on the lower end, and I feel like my energy is better used on myself at the moment. As such I'm putting myself into working, saving money, and relaxing.

I enjoy playing with fire and electricity, and getting lost playing with toys.

I used to read constantly; I can be found to do so a little more lately, but despite my love for books, I am so visual that I tend to prefer movies and video games these days, for my media entertainment.

Credit to my friend Antithestasia for this lovely excerpt:
[A note on polyamory: I am poly identified, not just currently but always, and am repulsed by the idea that my relationship with one person would limit my relationship with another. In that vein, my partners and I practice polyamory independently of each other, and strive for a non-hierarchical approach to relationships.]

I have a primary partner, but due to her wish for privacy online, I will not name her here. I adore her.
VampireSerenade is also a partner of mine, and I adore her as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work a M-F job, and make enough to support myself.
I also do freelance work as a graphic designer and a professional performer.

After a bout of working to do something almost impossible with no foundation, I am working on stabilizing myself before attempting to try again. I am a clown, jester, object manipulator, and fire performer. Once stable, I will be once again working on building a small local circus troupe.

6 years ago, I dropped out of school because on top of calculating that I was going to be incurring way more dept than I could foresee myself being able to pay off from it, I did not want a degree in any of the fields any of my local schools offered. I instead decided to live life and learn things I found interesting on my own.

Outside of work, I enjoy sitting around the house procrastinating, picking up the poi and spinning, learning juggling, reading, playing Legend of Zelda or Diablo III, and watching various movies.

I can be found at my local theater constantly, I go out for coffee a lot, and I enjoy hosting friends, and/or listening to music for the sound of it.

As of 9/20/15 I have been renting a room in a house for almost 6 months, with a full time day job and completely independent for the first time in 6 years. I am incredibly happy. I am working towards buying either an electric or gas scooter, and have hopes to start saving for the Tesla Model 3, so I can get one soon after it comes out.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
More than anything, I feel like I am fantastic at losing myself in what I am doing, and solving problems. I can spend hours drilling repetitive complicated motions in poi or other physical things and come out happier than I started, which is something I feel a lot of people (who don’t delve in the philosophy of Flow Art) can’t say. It's also something that I was VERY bad at as a kid.

Here’s a fire performance piece I did for Independence Day:

I enjoy cooking, as well, and have been teaching myself a variety of culinary styles for almost the last 20 years.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I’ve been told that it’s my eyes, but I am pretty sure that those people were lying and that it is my ear-piercing joker-esque laugh. Though I guess that depends on whether they met me in a situation that I was having fun or excited during.

You tell me?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is really worth an in-person chat. Most people, if they are like me, gloss over this most of the time anyways. Instead of making a wall of text, I'll offer my top 5 in each, plus a few others... Which really still just turns it into a wall of text, but a little easier to read through!

Currently Reading:
-C.S. Friedman - The Coldfire Trilogy

-Anne McCafferey: The Dragonriders of Pern
-Frank Herbert: Dune
-C.S. Friedman: The Coldfire Trilogy
-J.R.R. Tolkein: The Lord of the Rings and The
-Stephen King: The Gunslinger series.

-The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey and Desolation of Smaug
-Man on Wire
-Guardians of the Galaxy
-Casshern the Robot Hunter
-Scott Pilgrim Vs. the World

-Venture Bros
-Avatar: The Last Airbender/Legend of Korra
-How I Met Your Mother
-Blue Submarine no.6

-Infected Mushroom
-In This Moment
-Daishi Dance
- The Dragonriders of Pern albums (I just recently found the second. It made me happy)

-Gyoza and Pork Ramen from Daikokuya Ramen
-Melon flavored cream pops from Japanese markets
-Dreyer's Peppermint ice cream
-Ume/sour Plum rice balls

-Duchesse De Bourgogne, Sour Ale
-Coffee. All of it (dark, light, Americano, cappuccino, black, with cream, espresso, mocha, starbucks, coffee bean, home brew, whatever. I love coffee).
-Lightly sweetened Oolong Tea with milk
-Melon creamy Soda
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-A set of Poi in hand or something physical to do
-Someone to spend time with
-Music to keep me focused
-A new goal/challenge to work towards every few months
-Some form of intellectual or humorous conversation (read: Friends, who are friends and do friends things while I friend at them).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The fact that facebook and most other internet things get in the way of me actually doing things I WANT to do, and that I can’t bring myself to do too much about it.

What mistakes did I make in my past and how best do I learn from them, and grow from here?

How can a woman actively fight against feminists? And how is it that men can't understand what feminists are fighting for?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
This seriously depends on the week.
Sometimes at a goth/industrial club spinning poi.
Sometimes performing for children’s parties as a clown.
Sometimes hanging with friends at home, or going out to movies.
Sometimes hiding sequestered in my room where the universe can’t bother me.
Lately, I’ve also been spending time learning the art of Anti-Humor. Which I find far funnier than I should.

I would really like to start up acrobatics and free-running classes soon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am immensely vain.
I will sing every part of every song that I hear and know obnoxiously loud, and I don't care what people think about it.

"Private" is relative to the person;

I have no secrets.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
The prospect of getting out of your house and meeting someone for coffee, going to a movie, learning a flow art in the park, or suggesting an activity to do appeals to you.
Also, if throughout this, you noticed something that you liked or saw as a shared interest and want to explore it with me.

If you are a clown, I IMPLORE you to message me. I would love to have a group of clowning friends.

I also enjoy biking, rollerblading, drawing (If I like you I may draw you and even write poetry at you), dabbling in yoga, and a plethora of other things. Pick your poison, or give me a new one.

I don't really like spending much time online these days, I'd rather be out experiencing.