Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I have enjoyed a variety of activities during life, including
training working dogs, sports car rallying, community chorus,
earning a black belt and coaching judo, kayaking, river rafting,
dancing and service clubs. I enjoy dating, dining, going personal
growth oriented meetings, movies, theater and opera, antiques
shopping, CS&C and Citadel events, travel, as well as staying
home, entertaining, and watching a TV program or DVD. Favorite
sports teams are the SF 49rs, Cal Bears.
I have been on a wonderful journey since concluding a long-term
relationship as a result of some unresolvable issues. I have met
some truly amazing friends along the way and and have a new sense
of direction. One of those friends steered me towards the Human
Awareness Institue and I'm thrilled to have completed all eight
levels of HAI. I am currently in an alternative primary
relationship, enjoying and embracing a polyamorous lifestyle.
I'm a native of Berkeley, lived in Carmel during part of my youth
and resided in the Bay Area most of my life. I attended local
schools thru junior college and enrolled in continuing education
courses leading to my forte as a gemologist and appraiser. I have
three adult children, none of whom live with me. I owned my own
home for twenty years, am fairly mechanicaly minded and pretty
handy at home maintenance.
Watashi wa Orufu Mori desu. Hosekiten desu, to judo no shidoen
deshita. Dozo yorokshu.
I am easygoing, loving, and a good listener.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've run a family owned a retail business for many years, and
recently transitioned into an appraisal and consulting practice.
I'm into self development and expanding my network of friendships.
I've been involved and participated in a wide variety of pursuits:
choral singing, biodanza, judo, kayaking, HAI workshops and
activities, camping, home repairs, antiquing. I also enjoy BDSM,
did male and couples dominance workshops, have attended several
local classes, munches, and BDSM parties. I've met some wonderful
people at The Citadel, on Alt.Com, at the Center for Sex and
Culture, thru Society of Janus, volunteered at charitable events
and attended various art openings in San Francisco.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Gemology, fixing things, challenging situations, reaearch, helping
others. being thorough, focused, and a dedicated lover.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm told I'm handsome. They like my hair, eyes, trimmed moustache
and beard. This is so narcissistic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I've read Tristan Toarmino's book 'Opening Up' and several books on
feminism, a movement that completely grew up around me. I've read
several books about the Civil War, some books on sexualtiy as well
as some of its deviant aspects (mmm). It usually takes a pretty
good book to hold my attention all the way through, but there are
some I couldn't put down until I finished them.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Parents, although they're both gone now, who braved heroic
hardships to come to this country, make a new life and leave me
with their legacy.
Relationships, both long and short term, which even though
difficult at times have given me so much to look back on.
Family, although spread out at this point there are grandchildren
to adore and a son and daughters to connect with occasionally. My
niece is the closest to me distance-wise.
Friends, who give so much meaning to life.
Country, community and opportunity...living in the Bay Area.
Love, loving and being loved. The grandest of all human emotion.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where I've been. What I've accomplished. If I had it to do over
again, how would I do it differently? Transitions in my life and
how its going to all work out. Will I be successful at having an
intimate and caring relationship with a primary partner who accepts
me for who I am? Will we be successful in opening it up?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You'll have to ask me in person.
You should message me if
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If I seem interesting to you and you think you'd like to get to
know me and my partner.
My 'personality traits' based on answers to OKC Match Questions and
the OKC computerized algorithm indicate I am 'less well mannered'
as compared to the average OkCupid population. My guess is that it
comes from my exposure to feminism and not assuming women need or
want to be helped unless they ask. I respect that women are equally
as intelligent or more so than I am and that they know know their
capabilities. For me to disregard this fact and insist on helping
when not wanted or needed has been interpreted as condescending and
chauvenistic by some of the women I have known. If there is
something about my manners that a date or relationship doesn't
like, I'm always open to discussing it and I would probably go
along with making them feel more comfortable.
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