I am probably going to be one of the most romantic guys you'll ever meet, when I am in a relationship. But, let's face it, would you rather a guy tell you how beautiful you are every 5 minutes, or someone who tickles your intellect with playful sarcasm and shows you how much he cares about you through action? And, when I do look you straight in the eye and tell you that you look beautiful, you'll know if comes from my heart ( and not my pants ).
That being said, here are some things that you may find to be attractive qualities about me:

* I will never tell you to leave me alone because the game is on, or ask you to get me a beer while you're up (because I don't watch sport nor drink)
* I give gifts that have meaning behind them
* I think physical affection outside the bedroom is critical (holding hands, kissing, etc)
* I have no problem waiting for you to get ready, because I know you'll look hot
* I think men should open doors and carry the bags (minus the handbag)
* I don't mind shopping with you (as long as I get to check you out in every outfit)
* I believe it is critical for sex to be mutually satisfying
* I can cook (but reserve the right to frisk you at will, when you do)
* I love to dance (and been told I'm not too bad it)
* I've never smoke, drank, or done a single drug in my life.
* I have never slept with a 'professional'

All that being said, the pragmatic in me says online dating isn't the only way to find that special someone, so let's narrow things a bit:
* I love to kiss, and smoking is a very big turn off
* you are not just here to chat
* in your profile where it says where you live, it actually _is_ where you live.
* Assuming I make the same effort to come see you, you are in no way shy about being in manhattan regularly.
* you think the following are pretty silly: The phrase, if you don't drink, how do you have fun? when someone says they don't smoke or do drugs, but they smoke pot sometimes
* your main reason for writing or not writing is not because of the month/day we were born respectively
* sex will happen when the time is right, but, when it does, you have no hang ups or shyness about it. And, in a relationship you see it happening every time you see each other, and yes that means daily (if not more) if that is how often you see each other.
* if you ask yourself, am I happy person? the answer is emphatically yes.
* if you ask yourself, what's the most romantic / thoughtful thing I have done for a guy, you don't draw a blank.

The serious stuff:
* I think lying and cheating are absolutely unacceptable. The truth may sting in the short term, but it saves a great deal of grief for everyone in the end.
* I believe all people should be respected, regardless of race, religion, or creed (scientologists.... well...)
* I believe you should act with the same morals and values that you would expect from someone you may bring into this world.
* I believe beyond all the material things you could ever have, the only thing left is to give back. Whether it's teaching or helping a child (including your own), or helping someone less fortunate, ultimately it's worth much more than all that stuff you can't take with you.

I am pragmatic, romantic, and sarcastic

Computer Consultant

My Smile (although it doesn' seem to come out for pictures). And my sense of humor.

Not a big book reader, but I've got a slew of technical books (now ebooks) on my shelf, along with foreign travel, and a bunch of spirituality (buddhism, hinduism, etc).

I'm a big movie buff and usually prefer foreign or indie films, but sometimes I just feel like a blockbuster without subtitles.

I'm a huge fan of music, but tend to stick to the digital format (ie non-live). I listen to everything from cesaria evora to dj tiesto to TI to capoeira to balinese gamelon music. For dancing I usually stick to hip-hop. And, for whatever reason, my hands down favorite chillout music is anything by Sade.

And I'm a big food fan too and I do cook as well. I tend to research everything. For instance, I like my tea red, my rice dark to black, my chocolate dark, my apples honeycrisp, etc. I love red meat, but I've more recently I've started eating a more vegan like diet with fish with a strong emphasis on local and organic foods. After watching 'a beautiful truth' and a number of subsequent healing through food movies on netflix, I figured if I am in great health now, it couldn't hurt to kick up the health factor a notch. The result has been considerably more energy and I've gotten in better shape with the same exercise level. Although if the opportunity for authentic food (say on travel) comes up, all bets are off. I also reserve one day a week to eat whatever I feel like, but I don't always take it because I find myself craving healthier foods anyway.

Let's face it, fundamentally you can do without a lot of things in life, but here are six that enhance mine.
1) food! I live to eat, rather than eat to live. The more authentic the better. I'd much prefer to eat where the locals eat, rather than the all inclusive 5 star resort food. Since I've been eating healthier, my sweet tooth has been behaving a lot more often. But the last time I had tres leches on my way back from Costa Rica through Miami planted a huge smile on my face for days.
2) music, rhythm, and the way it universally moves and brings together people from every walk of life.
3) passion, in everything you do, and in appreciating how it comes though in what others do. There's a major difference between the mechanics of doing something, and truly doing it with passion, including the bedroom ;-)
4) beaches, I love water and I love sunshine, throw in some authentic food, and I am in heaven.
5) iphone + google maps + compass (usually helps with #1),
I smile every time I need to find something or get directions, but I definitely prefer to walk it the majority of the time
6) Anything unmotorized that can enhance the speed at which my body moves, like a bicycle, inline skates, a surfboard, etc.

How to take my knowledge of X and Y and make something infinitely cooler than any entire alphabet in any language.

Whether the universe is truly filled with contradiction, or simply has two principles of balance and change, or maybe it's both.

Sweating my butt off in bikram class, passing by wholefoods to pick up some basic foods for the week, then getting a nice sweet full night's sleep before Saturday morning's crossfit workout (and hopefully sunshine).

Things that will impress me:
* Your pure unadulterated feminine energy. I've realized this is what really differentiated how I felt in all of my past relationships. I really don't need 'one of the guys', but someone who loves being female.
* Anything from above that may apply
* You're a planner. When I need to be in charge, I am a good planner, but I love taking a back seat and going for the ride. When my lady makes a plan, it doesn't matter what or where. All that matters is that I am with her.
* Dedication of your time or resources to 'giving back'
* Any piercings / tattoos you may have

I know the essential 'chemistry' is the most important part. And, I know that things like the way you carry yourself, your voice, your scent, and your energy can really only be felt face to face. If I were entirely a romantic, I wouldn't be on here, but the pragmatist in me says, let's figure out a plan for helping fate along:
1) Chat a bit. Whether it be IM, text, or a phone call (although I'm not a big phone person to be honest), to make sure we are on the same page with a few things
2) Meet up for something short and sweet first. It may be a walk somewhere, some hot cocoa on a winter's day, or red mango on a hot one, but you'll have the chemistry question answered in about 5 minutes, if there's a click, we'll have plenty of time, because we so smartly spent less time with the people we didn't click with.

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