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41 M Minneapolis, MN

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Black, Native American, White, Other
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Sales / Marketing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Who doesn't see all of the people who've gotten together and broke up because of lack of feeling control. One minute they're making a decision like "till death," the next, an idiot does something to change that decision, or even worse, "the feeling just isn't there anymore." Divorce? Not a part of my beliefs, and, those women who have too many kids, and didn't listen to your momma and daddy, got pregnant at 16, 18, and 21... then, didn't keep the baby's daddies, especially those that aren't willing to accept a daddy/father/husband/friend in your life, See Your Way Out! Ladies for games, sorry I've had my fill of them. Also, those who are rude, insensitive, suffer from a lack of understanding, and those who are unable to communicate starting with a conversation (including those of you who are too busy, or can't take the time to sell "hold on", or "I've gotta go") need not be here.

Sorry to start off negative, but this is the internet. I need to have some kind of filter in place to reach my goal for a love.

I went to college for business, and my career is in the Entertainment Business. No profits yet, but I take care of myself. Understand where I think, "Get Rich or die trying." Rich = Time, Family, Friends, and Money! I am a business first, play later type of person. I am into conversation and being outside in the nice weather. My hobbies are literary fiction and non fiction writing, writing and producing music, playing tennis, playing racquet ball, and computers. My main goal is to start and run an Entertainment Marketing Corporation.

I’m looking for the answer to a question that has been on my mind for years. One that comes about daily as I grow in this world trying to accomplish my goals. An equation that needs to be answered but hasn't for reasons beyond my control. I reach for something in life that if you don't believe, isn't easy. Not only does that include my business, but, life long friendship. I know to most it sounds sappy, corny, or impossible.

Man has but one opposite put here on earth by God to move forward within life, (Woman). My assumption, there is one woman here for me. At this age of maturity, I can see the images of mistakes I’ve made by not choosing. Then, there are those who have unfortunately come into my life and distracted the one and only love for me from coming into my life and making it worth living. Of course, I allow people into my life. Love is chance and a decision before it is a feeling. But, before my selection is correct, how many prospects must I offer opportunity without rejection. I ask myself, where is my love. And, with each conclusion I have failed to find "The One". Oh yeah! LOVE In life… When in love, the relationship won’t start positive and end negative. Two people take the time to know each other forever. And, no matter what prompts the attraction, personality will triumph. The only objective is to provide pleasure sought by one with an idea. Just a theory. Now, tell me what to do to create your happiness. Just use hints. If I am the one for you, you will see me trying to transform these desires into your reality. If I were psychic I would try to give you everything you really wanted deep inside your subconscious mind. And you, you would do the same. Can I really love you? Why do you love me? These questions are no longer answered by words because motions by each individual are seen. And, when all motions agree, the statement, I love you, now means nothing less than, "I love you,"! I want to love you, and, I want you to love me, too.

There are several things that I want in a woman, but mostly, I want someone that is beautiful inside, has control of her feelings and is able to communicate them. I want a woman who is nurturing aaaand, I don't want any woman that thinks she's too good to be poor. I want one who is willing to accept me for me... Less Materials! No matter what position she is currently in, I want someone who has extreme potential. I need a woman that accepts me and my goals!

I'm not a chaser, so don't expect that. I look past a lot of girls for a lot of reasons, as I'm sure many do me. But, I hope that someone really nice doesn't make the mistake of passing me by. If you put your profile up because your man isn't giving you enough attention, KEEP GOING!

I believe that the purpose for relationships is not only to have fun, but to figure things out together. I'm protective, analytical, conversational, humorous, however, I have a very serious side. My match is something special. Although everyone has their flaws, she is one of a kind. I'm very interested in a business mind; someone who is energetic. She loves to try new things, and has a handle on moral aspects of life. Her beauty is matched by her personality. To her, a relationship is to be had with one and only one individual, her and her man, there are no outside distractions in our relationship. I'm hoping to find her soon for she is one of a kind. It seems that trying to find a match is impossible. When does one find what he is seeking and match what is sought?

More than anything I'm loyal, and I can accept nothing less. I have plenty of time to get to know my best friend for life. If you have time to get to know someone, exclusively, for who they are...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm taking the time to find a good woman. At the same time, I just found and excellent job, and I'm building my own company.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Marketing, Communicating... Writing; literary works, music composition, lead lyrics... Computers... figuring things out!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Besides my size, people are different, so I really couldn't answer whether or not anything really stands out at first.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't really have any favorite books. And, movies and shows are presented so often that my favorites might change any day. But, I like the movies Friday, Seventh Sign, Law Abiding Citizen... Music... I'm really getting into Swag, but I love Hip Hop, R and B, Soul, Jazz, 80s Rock, Pop... Shows... I like Family Guy, Punk'd, Real Husbands of Hollywood, and most of the pawn broker, auction, and repo shows. My favorite food is the potato.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
About this, I'm going to be as serious as possible.

1. Primary Needs: Air, Food, Water, Shelter, Warmth, Sleep, Sex...
2. Family, Senses, Protection, Security, Stability, Employment...
3. Entertainment (Music, Comedy...)
4. Focus, Memory, Motivation, Knowledge, Practice, Time...
5. Love, Trust, Honesty, Understanding, Communication...
6. Money, Intellectual Property...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time soul searching. I think about things that matter on a larger scale. Life... what I want to accomplish while I'm on earth and, the type of woman that I'd like to accomplish my goals with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like Friday nights. However, I usually work everyday that I can.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really need someone to change my health with. I'm addicted to sex.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 28–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'm good for someone who is into entertainment or who understands business and is starting one as well. Even more than that, someone who is supportive, and understanding of goals and is willing to motivate such progression positively. If you have a strong heart, love to laugh, have some good conversation, are a one man woman, and ready to start a family that includes a daddy, say hello.

Then, there is the obvious... If you:
1. Respectfully communicate with your man.
1a. Offer sex. sex, sex.. sex for men is different. it is his way of physically, emotionally bonding with you. Do not use sex as a tool of manipulation !
2. Know how to let a man know he’s important to you.
3. Purposefully try to understand a man's feelings—even when you disagree with him.
4. Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trust-worthy.
5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
6. Tell him you both love him AND like him.
7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. (D Ramsey)
8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis.
9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings also.
10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust.
12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up relationship problems— instead talk about fun things and try to figure out the relationship positively.
13. Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negatives.
14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.
15. Give him special time with you apart from the children.
16. The first minutes after a he comes home you often set the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make that time a positive experience, and notice when he does the same.
17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be much more enjoyable. (Dave Ramsey)
18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
19. Compliment him often. Accept his compliments as an expression of his love.
20. You are creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.
21. Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team.
22. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.
24. Find ways to show him you need him.
25. Give him time to be alone when he wants to be. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)
26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7).
28. Respect his desire to do well—not his performance.
29. Rub his feet or neck, or scratch his back after a hard day.
30. Take time for the two of you to sit and talk calmly (schedule it when necessary).
31. Initiate going out on romantic outings (when he’s not tired).
32. Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him.
33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy.
34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family.
35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is (giving him specific reasons).
36. Give advice in a loving way — not in a nagging or belittling way.
37. Help him to be the Spiritual head at home (without “holding” it over him).
38. Reserve some energy for him so you’re not so tired when he wants you sexually.
39. Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities.
40. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life.
41. Take special notice for what he has done for you and the family.
42. Brag about him to other people both in front of him and even when he’s not there.
43. Keep conversations brief when he’s tired—so he isn’t “flooded” by too many words.
44. Tell him things you specifically appreciate about him.
45. Honor him in front of the children (differ respectfully in private when necessary).
46. ”Look straight into the eyes when he talks to you or if you’re speaking to him. This will make him feel that you are interested in what he wants to say.” (J. Clain)
47. Sometimes get up with him just to spend that extra time.
48. Be his “help-mate” in whatever ways you sense you can and he needs.
49. Participate in shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him (like watching a movie and such) while enjoying intellectual or quiet time with him. Sometimes men just like to BE with you and not talk.
50. Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it. Allow him to comprehend you in the same way (as a student).
51. When your man is in a bad mood give him time to recover. Don’t crowd him.
52. Help him to finish his goals, hobbies, or education when you see he needs it.
53. Treat him as if God has stamped on his forehead: “Handle With Care.”
54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him. Communicate the habits that annoy you gently, and guide him to be rid of them in the same way.
55. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
56. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
57. When it's extra, thank him for things he’s done around the house. (It means a lot to men).
58. Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord.” And, don't except anything less in return.
59. Make sure he agrees with everything important that you’re planning to do.
60. Do little things for him—let him sleep in, bring him coffee, etc.
61. Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical in your words with him.
62. Initiate sex periodically. And respond more often.
63. Sometimes let him enjoy his day off work without having to “work” at home.
64. Get to the point in your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them.
65. Discover his sexual needs.
66. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.
67. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function.
68. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he mis-speaks.
69. Don’t quarrel over words.
70. Be kind and courteous with him. (Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him.)
71. When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better.
72. As a kindness, don’t say, “I told you so.”
73. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
74. Take him out on dates—pre-planning all of the details ahead of time.
75. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public.
76. Praise his good decisions in action; minimize the bad ones.
77. Tell him you love him more often.
78. Put love notes in his pockets and brief case.
79. Sit with him while he’s watching TV—even if the program doesn’t interest you.
80. Don’t expect him to read your mind. Even more, know he wants to. (despite your thinking he should— extend grace).
81. Periodically, give him time with his family alone.
82. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff, when possible.
83. Put effort in to keep yourself and him in shape.
84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
85. Carefully choose your words. Remember to “speak the truth in LOVE.”
86. Don’t criticize him in front of others—keeping his dignity in tact.
87. Visit his childhood home with him.
88. When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment.
89. Pray for him.
90. Make him homemade soup when he’s sick.
91. Look your best—dress to honor him always, and, make him proud to be seen with you when you’re out together.
92. Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheer leader.
93. Don’t disagree with him in front of the children.
94. Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.
95. Cheer his successes whether in business or in other areas of everyday living.
96. Graciously teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.
97. Give him coupons to redeem—maybe for a back scratch or a shoulder rub.
98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet.
99. Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.
100. Thank him for just being himself.
101. Read about his wants and needs and it excites you...

I'm really laid back and although serious about progression, I'm more carefree and more open-minded than all of this looks. To me this a filter system. I trust that if you're playing a game with another guy, looking for sex, only, not trust worthy, materialistic, flaky, stuck up, or closed minded, all of this will scare you.

I love smart, funny, sexy, thick women, and although color is not an issue to me, if it is in your family, or your mind, you probably shouldn't still be here.

If there is one thing I'm sure of, it's that the girl for me will be the perfect friend from the start... IJS!