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My self-summary
I haven't got a word for what I am. The more I learn about gender the more I realize that we don't have a decent vocabulary for everything yet.

Flirting is fun, but sex is not a priority right now. In the future? Who can say. I probably fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum. While we're on the subject, let's clear up a few things: just because I'm not interested in having sex right now NOT mean that I think sex is evil/wrong/bad, nor am I uncomfortable around people who have sex and talk about it. I'll be making jokes right there with you.

I love good conversation and witty banter, I consider it essential for any real relationship; Intellectual and emotional connections need to come first.

I much prefer come to a consensus or agree to disagree than keep hammering at something that isn't going to budge. I am protective of and loyal to my friends to the ends of the earth. I believe in the chosen family, and I take my obligations seriously. I have a watch-dog's memory for people who have been kind to me, and while I am more bark than bite, I will use my teeth when I need to. I'm also very respectful of personal space, and I tend not to go where I haven't been invited.

I deeply miss my days of tabletop roleplaying.

I'll make odd comments if it means that I can get other people to laugh, or sometimes just to surprise them. I will invent random stories to fill a few minutes, but luckily I'm also the most honest liar you'll ever meet, so all it takes is someone asking "Really?" for me to admit that I've been pulling your leg.

Oh, and I'm an INFP, points for you if you know what that is.

I am literary, truthful, and a closet romantic.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, my application to be the Oracle of Delphi didn't work out so I'm job-hunting again.

I still don't know what I want to he when I grow up. In my daydreams I write a small, obscure cult classic that makes massive amounts of sense and inspires long intense conversations. Either that, or become the next Joseph Campbell--yeah, that would work.

I love patterns, archetypes, and mythology, and I'd spend more time studying them if I could find a decent academic program where I wouldn't be the only one under the age of 50. Eventually, even I get tired of being the odd one out.

I do exercise about 30-45 minutes every other day but it's mostly out of vanity, and the vague apprehension that one day I'll be sorry if I don't. I try to incorporate yoga and tai chi into my routines, as well, just for balance.
I’m really good at
Following tangents, I had years of training under a professor in college who always managed to bring stories about her daughter and the Beatles into psychology lectures.

Asking questions, although it's not so much something I'm good at but something I'm compelled to do.

I have a good ear for music, a surprisingly sweet voice for ballads, and a talent for mimicking accents.
The first things people usually notice about me
I hold an unofficial Master's Degree in Deadpan Humor from the University of Nowhere in Particular, and it tends to out itself.

I'm told I can look sweet, adorable, and sharp all at the same time, sort of like Little Red Riding Hood with a shotgun.

I'll probably try to make you laugh. My sense of humor has been largely influenced by Monty Python, Tom Lehrer, and the Muppets. I use my sense of humor as a barometer to find out who I'm compatible with, and I can both very sarcastic and very silly.

I'm usually carrying a spiral notebook with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have a deep and abiding love of anything metafiction. (a) If I had to choose favorite authors of prose, though, I could narrow it down to: Francesca Lia Block, Herman Hesse, Patricia McKillip, Charles de Lint, Neil Gaiman, Catherynne Valente, Italo Calvino, Borges and Paul Cuehlo.(b) At the moment, Peter Jackson's "Lord of the Rings" Trilogy, "Peter Pan", "Farewell my Concubine", "The Matrix", ,"Were the World Mine", "My Own Private Idaho", "Pan's Laybrinth", anything by Jim Henson. I like psychological dramas, horror movies with bad acting and great special effects, intelligent comedies, anime with PLOT, and fantasy/sci-fi. Favorite TV shows include West Wing, Heroes, House, ER, Battlestar Galactica, Dr. Who, Sherlock, Pitbulls and Parolees, and Criminal Minds(c)Loreena McKennit, Dar Williams, Sarah McLachlan, Bruce Springsteen, Tori Amos, REM, U2, Bon Jovi, movie soundtracks, and whatever happens to be on the radio (Yay WXPN!) or my Pandora stations. (d)Italian, Indian, Middle-Eastern, Chinese. I'm not crazy about red meat, but it doesn't bother me if other people eat it.
The six things I could never do without
1)New ideas, I'm constantly looking for someone else's perspective on things. 2) Periods of privacy. I grew up in a small family in a small town, went to a small school etc. Too much noise and too many people for long periods of time tire me out, and I need time to decompress. 3)Music. I'll sing it, I'll listen to it, I'll even try to write it, but it must exist in my universe. Humans don't communicate well to begin with, but music is something everyone can understand if we just stop thinking about it. 4)A few close friends (you know who you are) with whom I don't need to censor myself, and who will support me when I need it. 5) A measure of hope for myself, my family, the world. A hope that I'll make some sense or find some peace in the events that occur in my life. 6)The possibility of something that science cannot measure or explain. Religion, the occult, psychic phenomena, whatever, I need something personal and unexplained that keeps me reaching instead of just allowing things to be explained for me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How people fit together as friends, as family, as lovers, as societies. How do we know what our place is, how much of that is under our control, and how do we find it once we know what we want?

Frustrating human problems like how to stop hating each other when it's practically tradition.

Gender, gender identity, what love and beauty mean, and the millions of ways they manifest themselves.

Mythology, folktales, fairytales, and the underlying themes in the stories we tell ourselves and each other.

How much I believe in the things I think I believe in. How being able to believe makes me happy, and worrying whether it makes me stronger or more vulnerable.
On a typical Friday night I am
Thinking. Okay, that's not just Friday, that's everyday, all day, my entire life. It's a condition, I can't help it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I want to lie in bed with someone and take turns reading poetry and plays to each other.

I will admit to reading fanfiction.

I have met my animus, and am completely comfortable with the male part of my brain.

Those with either a guitar, a dog, or both are likely to attract my attention.

I am a pacifist, but I hate weakness.

I can't love people I don't trust, and I don't sleep with people I don't love.

I believe that relationships require compromise.

I think Adam Lambert is hot like a hot thing.
You should message me if
You're a hippie, a geek, a pagan: someone intellectually sharp, emotionally sensitive, and spiritually curious.

You think we have some overlapping interests.

You've read my profile, and you're willing to take time to get to know someone.

You think that being friends should always come first, or be part of the equation.

You know some tricks that would allow me to pass as a particularly pretty boy.

You can teach me how to make costumes.