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30 F Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:04pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it matters a lot
Dropped out of law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I wanna go lay in a pool in Vegas and slam pina coladas, then go sing karaoke at that one place by the outdoor ticket sellers, then go flirt with strangers at Bond until 5 AM, go to sleep, wake up at 8, and do it all over again.

I think I'm fabulous. You must agree.


1983: Born - Santa Ana, Ca
1985: Raised - Hayward, CA
2000: Boarding school - Montezuma, NM (The most formative years of my life took place at
2002: University - Notre Dame, IN
2007: Law School - Notre Dame, IN
2008: First child, Dodger, is adopted
2009: Re-evaluation of my Life
2010: Career exploration
2012: Happily a Tech Recruiter, living in Oakland, working in San Francisco.
2014: I've gone independent, adding career coaching as an official service.

Prefer local adventures over globe trotting.
What I’m doing with my life
Dancing through it! JAMMIN!

Loving the SHIT out of my dog. Seriously. I don't think he even likes me anymore... No, it's not that. He just needs... space. Men have commented they feel they will never be able to compete with Dodger. That would be correct. (Unless you are super amazing and loving and cuddly. In which case, you should hit me up!)
I’m really good at
Happy Dances! I've come up with really good ones that are easy enough for everyone to join in. C'mon, get happy!

Chili - Turkey, Vegan, I mix it up.

Writing. My mom says she's staying alive JUST long enough to see my memoirs published.
The first things people usually notice about me
The afterglow.

I think I'm pretty invisible until I start laughing (incredibly loud) or spontaneously doing a Happy Dance.

Hmm... maybe I should start enjoying life more!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
TV- no cable, but lets be honest, with the internet, that doesn't matter. This is how I spend a lot of my alone time.

Movies - a lot.

Books - not enough. Currently - Poisonwood Bible and Skinnydipping.

Music - it all sounds good for the most part. Trying to be supportive of indie and female artists. Super dug Haim until they became sound of Target.

Food - I could stand to take a step back with this relationship. But it makes me happy. So I won't.
The six things I could never do without
JOKES. Six of them. At least.

No. Just 5. And...

The Artful Dodger!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How long before OkCupid does away with "casual sex" and adds "Friend with Benefits" and "One Night Stand".

We're all career focused and whatnot. I think most people are afraid of the burdens of a relationship, the stress, but want to enjoy the fun parts. I get it. I don't want to meet your family, or remember your birthday, or waste money on Vday either. Why is a fun, hot, smart guy, with a magic penis so hard to find?
On a typical Friday night I am
Dodging everyone in my life to lay on the couch and decompress for the weekend ahead.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have boobs. Small, unimposing, but definitely there.

Open Book.

I have to add this: I have a feeling when people are all "Oooh, awe, so amazing, I'm in love" over San Francisco. Maybe because I grew up in the Bay so SF just isn't very magical. Or, because I have a car, and have seen all the areas around that are way more awe-inspiring. I'm not really sure what the feeling is, but let's just say I get a little side-eyed when people get all wide-eyed over an overpopulated, overpriced, poop smeared city. I mean SF is legit, but it's no Heaven on Earth.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 23–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Is there some show you've been dying to binge watch on the internet? Call me.

Sleep reigns over all. I'm in an old and tired phase of life. Need someone to nap with me, and Dodger. Maybe you're good at warming up soup? Anyway, according to the latest OKC study, Black women don't get messaged or replied to, so I'm pretty much also in a whateverrrrrrrrrrrrr phase of life.