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33 F Portland, OR

I’m looking for

  • Women who like women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Sep 22
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and very serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm polyamorous and Pagan. I also identify as a princess. A pink princess from Portland, at that. But I am anything but prissy.

Woah! That was only partly purposeful!

Anyway, I will forever describe myself as a “skirts and motorcycles” kind of girl. I lean towards the feminine side of the spectrum, but I have some tomboy tendencies. And climbing trees does happen from time to time. I hear people call this "hard femme," which kind of makes me sad, because I'm not trying to gain a label. I just like climbing trees. And wearing a skirt while riding my girlfriend's motorcycle, if I can get away with it.

I make wishes on triple-digit clocks, the moon, loose eyelashes, and specific locations. I believe that finding pennies on the ground is lucky, and fresh herbs are magical and powerful. I tend to use sage, lavender, and rosemary a lot. Purple seems to be a power colour for me. I collect Tarot cards, and there are two or three decks that I use regularly.
But in all honesty, these things work for me, because I believe in them. Who we are and what we believe needs to come from within. Sure, it’s good to listen to other people, but letting others decide your identity and what you believe is not so good.

I've been told that I can be pretty snarky. Some find it pretty damn hilarious, and usually in those cases, they will just give it right back to me. (I call it clever wit.) However, there are others who are highly unamused. I suppose it's a preference. Like, some people think that toilet humour is so goddamn hilarious, but generally, I'm pretty disgusted and unamused by toilet humour.

I also like puns and wordplay. Maybe that was implied at the start of this section, but that wasn't puns, that was aliterative. Puns are funnier to me.

It says on my profile that I'm "gay," and I believe that I am, even if I'm attracted to the opposite gender sometimes. I have taken the word "gay" and made it my own. My sexuality is very fluid, and I try not to use "lesbian" or "bisexual." Those words seem too black-and-white to me. However, if you self-identify as either of those two words, It's not my place to tell you that you're wrong. Like, my shoe size is a size 8, and you may be a size 6. (That's usually the case. My friends often have smaller feet than me, and I can't borrow their awesome shoes.) Anyway, the size 6 probably fits you perfectly, even if I can't squeeze my size-8 feet into them. But it would be silly and kind of oppressive for me to tell you that you can't wear your shoes that fit you so well just because I won't be able to borrow them. In much the same way, it's not my place to tell you what words you use to describe or self-identify just because I don't use the same ones.
Actually, I'm just coming to terms with my bisexuality, but I don't want to delete what I said about shoes.

Now, some of you, I'm about to call you out. But feel free to move onto the next profile if you are a person who disagrees with me.
I don't see it as often as I once did, but it most definitely exists in some "lesbian" gatherings I've been to. This apparent dislike of women who identify as "bisexual," or women who are feminine, and some of you have your negative views on transwomen as well.
First of all, if you're transphobic, we will not get along. End of story. I don't think I even need to supply a reason. Just don't even deliver that shit to me, ok?
Secondly, biphobia is as bad as homophobia, in my opinion. Whether it's just a dirty look you give, or cold curt responses, or something worse, you're judging someone based upon their personal preference. That's as bad as a homophobe, don't you think? Not cool. So not cool.
And finally, I express myself the way I like. I like my pink and my sparkly things, and have also been known to sport Disney Princess apparel. And my hair has been long more often than it's been short. Because, guess what! Those are things I like! Nobody told me to! I make my own choices.

There are certain styles, kinds of people, etc. that I tend to be attracted to, such as those who are gender-nonconforming, but if there's anything I actually look for in a person, it's intelligence. If you can have intelligent conversation, and can give answers that sound like you actually gave them some critical thought, rather than pulling them from a textbook, we should get along.

Communication is very important to me. How can anybody expect to get what they want if they don’t communicate their wants and their needs? Guessing games are for game night, not for communication, and I don't respond to acts of passive aggression too well. If you want or don't want something, use your words, and I mean in a direct way. I'm not a mind reader.
What I’m doing with my life
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Finished my undergraduate work at PSU. I majored in Japanese and even spent my last term studying in Japan. I recently got back into dragonboating, and am currently self-employed, though I'm looking for a job with income that's a bit more stable. Been exploring my love of gardening, participating in classes offered by Portland Nursery, and working on starting my own vegetable garden. Currently, I have several plants started in my room, which receives awesome natural light, and I'd really love to have a plot at a community garden. I've applied, but I heard there are wait lists at some of the locations. But at least I can get a few things started in pots for the time being. Also volunteering at Oregon Food Bank while I'm unemployed, as poverty alleviation is important to me, and I have decided I want to be a part of the solution. I don't see the point to being at the top when there are people starving down below.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
language, writing, getting along with people who are called or call themselves nerds. I've also been told that I'm good at giving massages.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably that I like pink.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books/Movies/Music/TV: I have deleted the lists from these categories, because in my experience, those things are superficial in comparison to the things that have helped me to form strong connections with people. Like, I've known plenty of people who like Harry Potter, Mean Girls, Friends, or Buffy the Vampire Slayer, but that doesn't mean I'm a good match with every single one of them.
But, I will say that I dislike Twilight, and I love music--all kinds of music. Though I'm not too excited about HipHop or country. Oh! I love listening to songs in Japanese, because it's the language that I studied in college, and I like to see how much I can understand.

I am also a Disney fan. I love Disney Princesses, and have a large collection of Disney movies. I do like some films better than others, am not at all into Mickey Mouse, and don't get me started on Pocahontas. But I was pretty impressed with Tangled and Frozen. And I like Snow White for the story, and as a look at movies from that time, but I think her voice is kind of annoying and her prince had no depth. But I also think she might have turned out pretty badass if Disney made her movie during this time. I mean, look at all the other Snow White incarnates from other production companies that adapted the story more recently!
Yes, I love geeking out to movies and TV. I also love myths and folklore.

Food: I love it. I'm obsessed with it. I especially like when people can cook it. I know how to cook, too, but I like to try other people's cuisine as well.
I'm not a vegetarian, but I like vegetarian food, and I like vegan food as well. However, I don't particularly like being told what to eat. But in a situation where someone doesn't want to be in the vacinity of meat-eating, the best thing is to recommend something that is vegan or vegetarian. Positive reinforcement. It's a powerful thing.

Games: Apples to Apples--but it seems everybody likes that one. I also love word games such as Scattergories or Scravel. Trivia games are fun, too. And I like Chess. My interest in Chess actually started when I read "Through The Looking-Glass and What Alice Found There.
I'm a sucker for classic Nintendo games.

Activities: Walking, hiking, climbing things, studying Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm going to ignore that number, since this isn't a final exam, and I'm just going to answer that however I want.

So, I am finding out that I could never ever do without people who have my back when I need them. Whether that's friends, family, or the people I'm dating, the best thing they can do for me is be there when it counts. I do value my independence, but there are times when we need support from others.

I also apparently can't do without friendly banter, whether it's being entertained by people around me, or getting in on the action.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
gender, food, sex, why simple communication can be so hard sometimes, the future, the dreams I had from the night before. Also social justice, how to make a positive impact, personal goals, sex, patterns and corelations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What is this "typical" you speak of? And why does it have to be Friday? Sure, Friday is the assumed end of the work week, but I know many people whose Fridays happen on a Monday or a Sunday. I'm going to have to refuse to answer this question on the grounds that it isn't all-inclusive.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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It's not exactly "private, but I am visually impaired. I've kept this fact off my profile for years, because I want people to get to know me, rather than focusing on something that's only a part of me. However, I never exactly benefitted from trying to hide it, and it's not exactly something I can hide too well when I meet people. That being said, this isn't an invitation to message me for the sole purpose of finding out about my "blindness," or how I can do any of the things that I do. However, it is something I'm ok with talking about once I'm comfortable enough around a person. There are many topics that one might not want to discuss with someone they've only just met. That's one of mine.
You should message me if
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-You are non-monogamous
-You can have intelligent conversations about feminism, gender, etc.
-You read my profile and you liked it.
-You know how to, or are willing to pronounce "Hikaru," because that's what my friends call me back home. Though I think I'm going to start accepting Sparkle (a translation for "hikaru," or Amethyst (my karaoke name.)
-You can hang out while we both have our laptops, looking at tumblr or youtube, occasionally sharing things we like talking about together or find amusing.
-Walking around Portland while engaged in conversation--maybe after dinner, a movie, or a few drinks, or all of the above--is your idea of a good time.
-You can show me around your favourite part of town. I have my favourite hotspots, I'd love to see yours and hear about them from your viewpoint.
-You know what a horkrux is. (I'm reading the thing that anybody who's read it would know what it is. That's why I wrote that.)
-You believe in faeries.
-You're not a total flake.