How it works:
Each section has concrete examples and explanations to help you fill in your profile. Either go in order or skip ahead to whichever section you have the most difficulty in. This tutorial is written from a no-sense point of view with both genders in mind and its advice can apply to many age groups. At the end of this tutorial there are general 'tips' to make Okcu work better for you :)
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Alright, your self summary's purpose is to start out strong and grab people's attention into reading the rest of your profile. You must show your audience who you are in a couple paragraphs. In other words, describe your personality with examples.
People usually write their profile with adjectives like "I'm funny/smart/quirky" etc thinking they've described themselves well. However, after reading a block of text like that what have you learned about them? Not much except how they view themselves and that it all sounds generic because their essence has been watered down to a few adjectives :/ You don't really know how they're funny or what makes them smart. And what does quirky mean to that person? Backup adjectives with examples!
You can do this several ways:
1. Start the section off with an interesting [hopefully true] short story that highlights a personality trait of yours. Writing should take the form of an upside down triangle ▼ You make broad sweeping statements about who you are and slowly build upon it with details. You should have a theme present that ties your summary. You could make your whole summary one story that includes a variety of personalities traits you have..
It wasn't my fault it had started raining an hour into my usual hiking trip, but I didn't care, I was having too much fun making progress on the nature trail. I tossed the map into my backpack and wandered into the dense canopy of branches enjoying the sound of my boots hitting the wet ground. Being the outdoorsy type, I was up for whatever challenge lay before me.
2. A good exercise for showing not telling is to write down a bunch of adjectives you think describe you and next to them come up with things you've done that fit that adjective. For example:
Adventurous= I like going out on 3am drives to nowhere.
Caring= I'll likely text you randomly letting you know you how just thinking of you makes me smile.
Funny= If we're fighting I'll just bundle you in sheets and keep calling you my "angry caterpillar" until you can't help but laugh.
The reason you write your summary with examples is because they act as proof to what you're saying. It also forms a strong image of you in a stranger's mind, like they can picture you through your writing. Spend some time thinking if you need to, open up a word document and type away as things come to you.
When you type a sentence making a statement about yourself Ex: "I am a very passionate person" ask yourself "Is there any way I can show someone how I'm passionate or reword it to make it funny or interesting?" Exaggeration/metaphors/ and imagery do the trick.
"I am a very passionate person" becomes with some creativity "I'm so passionate volcanoes erupt as I run into your arms and tango sweep you off your feet"
3. Inserting a short quote is a great way to say something about yourself. It accomplishes two things: showing a belief you have/ and you now have a catchy profile opener and can jump right into the rest of your summary or maybe even build off it! Kill two birds with one stone.
4. Another style to write your summary is to write "as if you're talking" directly to your visitors. Almost like a message you've left behind on your profile. It makes reading a more personal experience.
Ex: Hey you! Yes you with the face ;) my name's [Bob/Bobafett]. I'm the guy/gal always on run, listening to music late at night with their trigger on the latest movie releases. I enjoy the hell out of hockey would love nothing more than spending a date watching my favorite team [Red Bullets] down at the local arena. Although you may not realize at first, underneath my tough cool exterior lies a sentimental. I long to have someone to slowly waltz with because I'm romantic that way :).....etc etc
Make openings in your text to include 1st and 2nd person talk to make things personal while still describing yourself with examples.
A note about the tone of your writing. Don't EVER say anything like "I'm not good at this/ I hate my job/ sorry that I'm not very outgoing etc..." This type of writing repels because unconsciously you're saying you're not confident. Self deprecating humor is hard to pull off in text so keep things positive! So even if you might have a "negative" personality trait you can always write about it in a positive way.
I like to spend my days relaxing in the comfort of my home, passing my time watching movies or maybe at the beach catching some sunshine. I believe that the world is an uncertain place that can turn ugly at a moment's notice so I like to spend as much time as I can enjoying it.
RED Flags for the summary
► Do Not◄
- Leave this blank!! and saying you're "too complex to be understood in few words" and then writing nothing is a poor excuse and annoying to read. If anything this should be a good chunk of your profile right here or at the very least something sweet and short to get people interested in reading more. See "using a quote" for kick-starting your summary if stuck.
► Do Not◄
-Don't go overboard either and write a 500 page autobiography, leave some mystery for the date. Keep it between 700-1200 words. Getting too wordy happens when you forget the purpose of each section and just go rambling on and on adding everything under the sun. Sometimes you over-elaborate things or just repeat things in other sections.
♥ DO INCLUDE: ♥
- some general background information
- write about your passions
- write about key personality traits of yours
- strong words/metaphors/imagery that convey sensations that make reading interesting.
- a positive informal tone that is still grammatically correct and injected with humor.