The first thing I noticed about Tom was that he was unlike anyone I'd ever met. He is truly unusual in really good ways. He's deeply kind, a careful and compassionate listener, and can hold space in a way that is powerful and transformative. He's a natural intuitive and sexual healer of body mind and spirit.
Tom has both wisdom and intellect, and is keenly observant of the world around him. Though his education has been non-traditional, he has a better big picture grasp of history and world events, and thereby how currents run in the world, than many folks I know, as well as a broad understanding of practical skills. He sees and holds compassion for people in their truth, and also sees through bs quite easily.
Physically, well, yum. :) Tall and broad shouldered, and strong, so strong. I recently listed some of my favorite attributes of his as neck, ribcage, and thighs. The warmth of his heart pervades his whole body, and there is nowhere warmer or safer or more comfortable, more deeply held, than in his arms. His hands are strong and oh. so. sensitive... He doesn't let his hair down often, but it is seriously sexy, and his eyes are piercing and blue, sometimes a little sad, sometimes laughing, and kind. In the throes of early childhood parenting, we are both a little round in some parts, but generally, from decades of athleticism, a powerful and healthy physique.
Tom is an incredible and devoted father to our 4 y.o. son, and has been and incredible and devoted step papa to my 17 y.o. daughter. You wouldn't be meeting them anytime soon, but please understand that kids come first, and you must be kid friendly.
Tom is definitely a trickster/ sacred clown- you must have a sense of humor! Sly, wry, and deeply loving. He's equally happy snuggling in front of a movie at home, hanging out in a thunderstorm at the beach, or adventuring a little bit... have fun!