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  • Ages 45-65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 5:56am
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
My self-summary
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Grew up in Chicago and Oak Park but lived for a number of years in London (Highgate & Muswell Hill areas) when I was younger.

Graduated from Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine with a degree in clinical psychology and have been practicing for nearly 30 (yikes!) years. Enjoy my work with patients a great deal and have learned that people are worth getting to know individually, and deeply, because they are never what they seem like at first - they never are one-dimensional stereotypes. (stepping off of soapbox now)

It strikes me that the external details that characterize a person's life, while important, don't quickly allow someone else to understand what really makes one tick inside. So instead of listing a number of traits here, let me describe an experience I find immensely enjoyable and relaxing - if what I describe appeals to you, then we would probably be compatible.

There is an 18th century cottage that sits high on a cliff overlooking heather moors and the North Sea in Yorkshire, England. About a two mile walk away, along the sea, is a little town named Robin Hood's Bay and it has a few cozy pubs that serve wonderful meals and even better ale. In the pubs, there are always friendly people with whom to chat and even friendlier dogs to pet. The brisk, chilly air (even in summer) always requires the laying of a fire to warm the cottage in the evening. With all lamps extinguished, one can sit hearth-side by the flickering fire in the cottage, late at night, and look out to sea and just make out the lights of passing ships on their way to destinations around the world. BBC radio broadcasts a show called "Book at Bedtime" around midnight. So - the scene that describes much about who I am --- after a morning of hiking moorlands, and an afternoon of walking along the seaside, sitting next to the warmth and orange glow radiating from a 300 year-old fireplace - listening to a voice in a darkened room read an eventide story - a tranquil and contented drowsiness settles into one's mind and body --- if you can imagine yourself being happy in that scene, send me a message.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
learning to give much deference and respect to the law of gravity...there is no allowance for grandiosity or narcissism when flying an airplane
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
taking forever to fill out a dating site essay
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my sense of humor - if you find the following funny, you and I would likely get along great -

By Amina Khan, Los Angeles Times
April 12, 2012

The weapon may not make the man, but it certainly makes him loom larger, according to a new study by a team of UCLA researchers.

Their study, released Wednesday in the journal PLoS ONE, shows that a person holding a gun seems taller and more muscular in the viewer's mind than a person holding a tool or other object.

The paper, funded by the U.S. Air Force Office of Scientific Research, is part of a larger project to understand human decision-making in potentially violent situations.

Countless creatures, humans among them, fight among their own kind for resources, said lead author Daniel Fessler, an evolutionary anthropologist and director of UCLA's Center for Behavior, Evolution and Culture.

"Chickens and lizards and lots of other vertebrates have to face the problem: 'When I encounter another chicken or lizard, do I advance against the opponent, do I retreat or do I try to appease them?' " Fessler said.


Throughout my life I have always overestimated the tallness of a lizard holding a gun and have also consistently backed off whenever a chicken brandishing an AK-47 has approached me. I thought I was crazy and timid but now I can breathe a sigh of relief knowing I'm normal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books (well authors actually): Dennis Lehane; Ian Rankin; Michael Connelly; Thomas Hardy; Samuel Beckett; William Butler Yeats; and those damsels of Victorian noir, Emily and Charlotte Bronte --
movies: Dead Men Don't Wear Plaid; Fargo; The Graduate; Raising Arizona --
television: The Wire (hands down); Breaking Bad; MI-5; Coupling -
music: Tinariwen; Afro Celt Sound System; Bob Marley; Ali Farka Toure; Mark Knopfler; Emmylou Harris; Buddy Guy; Steve Earle; Patti Smith; Marconi Union; Brian Eno (particularly the ambient works)
food: tapas; Vietnamese; Thai; Italian; seafood that is still wondering how it ended up with olive oil and garlic on it
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my student pilot's certificate
malpractice insurance
a London Oyster (Underground transit pass) card
my passport
places where you drive on the left side of the road
Lagavulin single-malt (mmmm...the barley, the peat, the fire, the sea-breeze...all poured into a snifter)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why health insurance companies are a nightmare to deal with (personally and professionally)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wondering why I'm experiencing a typical Friday night - would like some atypical Friday nights now
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You should message me if
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you're interested in possibly meeting and would like to communicate next via okcupid's email system -- eventually we might want to move on to signal flags; a telegraph machine; CB radio; satellite dishes; smoke signals; telepathic powers; carrier pigeons; text messaging; the phone; or an in-person conversation -- for now, however, an okc message would be great!