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22 New York, NY Genderfluid, Man

Genderfluid, Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 25
Bisexual, Queer, Pansexual
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
English, Swedish, French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Like everyone else, I'm a work in progress.
Basically: Art freak, recent Hampshire grad, poly queerdo, writer, lifelong theatre kid, aspiring elf prince, introverted extrovert, bundle of contradictions. Insatiably curious about the world. Constantly in motion/easily distracted. Real talk: Slightly terrified of this website; probably more fun in person.
What I’m doing with my life
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What are you doing with Your life, OkCupid??

What do you doooo with a BA in Theatre? It's a mystery, but we're getting there. Just moved back to the city & am not digging how lonely it gets here, especially as winter sets in. Looking for potential artistic collaborators and co-conspirators in addition to platonic friends and/or dates/potential partners/whatever else/labels are weird. Currently trying to find a balance between sorting my own shit out and being there for people I care about.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Soup & Tea.
Back rubs.
Reading several books at once.
Befriending strangers.
Procrastinating by befriending strangers.
&Overusing ampersands.
Finding homoerotic subtext in everything.
Putting playlists & costumes together.
Walking very long distances by accident.
I've been told I write and sing decently.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
depending on the day, my aesthetic can range anywhere from "nice jewish boy" to "wicked witch of the west"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Angels In America, City of Saints & Madmen, Invisible Man, Waiting for Godot, Citizen: An American Lyric, Falsettos, The Gentrification of the Mind, The Ghost Map, Neverwhere, The Road, As You Like It, The Reluctant Fundamentalist, The Great Gatsby, Coraline, Gender Outlaw, Harry Potter, Farenheit 451, Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Claudia Rankine, Shakespeare, Tony Kushner, Audre Lorde, bell hooks, Oscar Wilde, Alice Hoffman, Inga Muscio, Sarah Schulman, Ralph Ellison, Paulo Coelho, Ionesco

Y Tu Mama Tambien, The Scarlet Pimpernel, Pan's Labyrinth, Spirited Away, Rocky Horror, everything Monty Python, Victor/Victoria, Guardians of the Galaxy, Cabaret, Scott Pilgrim, Sweeney Todd, Dr. Horrible, The Hours, The Birdcage, De-Lovely, The Producers, The Illusionist, LOTR Trilogy, Midnight In Paris, Edward Scissorhands, Donny Darko, Black Swan, the list goes on...

Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Blackadder, DeathNote, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Doctor Who, Arrested Development, Will & Grace, the L Word, Face Off

My Brightest Diamond, Regina Spektor, Olivia Tremor Control, Of Montreal, Kate Bush, Richard Thompson, Peter Gabriel, Laura Marling, Dog-Faced Hermans, Ray Charles, pwr bttm, Violent Femmes, Lauryn Hill, Polka Dot Dot Dot, Toshi Reagon, Laurie Anderson, Queen, the Indigo Girls, the Dresden Dolls, Sara Bareilles, Golem, Lake Street Dive, Joanna Newsom, the Decemberists, Gaelic Storm, They Might Be Giants, Michael Franti, Sondheim, Tom Lehrer

The edible kind!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-arts (esp theatre & music)
-long conversations
-the color green
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-"You could put on a play here."
-The subversive potential of comedy
-Colonialism, oppression, how fucked up the world is, and potential ways to make the world less fucked up
-How incredible water bears are (
-Hypothetical stories of people sitting across from me in restaurants or on public transportation
-Language and phonetics
-Gender & sexuality & bodies & sex (oh my!)
-What the hell OkCupid means by "short term dating"
-Stories I want to write
-A bunch of other things?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Entirely depends on the Friday night.

Let's go to a museum

and/or read and sing to each other like nerds

and/or turn on the speakers, turn off all the lights, and feel music reverberate in our bones

and/or glitterbomb the patriarchy.

and/or... Idunno, I'm flexible.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once wrote erotica about an alternate universe in which Oscar Wilde and Ernest Hemmingway were contemporaries, called "The Importance of Banging Ernest."

Spoiler: Ernest Hemingway was clearly a power-bottom.
You should message me if
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yr a hot nerd

or just a nerd.

Update: OkCupid still has not told me what it wants to do with its life. Rude.