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22 Amherst, MA Genderfluid, Man

Genderfluid, Man

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:10pm
Bisexual, Queer, Pansexual, Homoflexible
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Swedish, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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~Mostly between WestMass & New York currently~
~Might be traveling around the west coast this summer??~

Theatre-queer, writer, nervous extrovert, bard without a band, aspiring elf prince. Into good coffee, bad puns, and free food. Shakespeare is my dead boyfriend. Constantly in motion/easily distracted.
What I’m doing with my life
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What are you doing with YOUR life, OkCupid??

Assorted stuff I'm doing:
Finishing school.
Attempting to make art that doesn't suck.
Trying to find a balance between self-care & being there for people I care about.
Living & breathing theatre. (see above.)
Trying to find a job and figuring out how to be an adultperson. Or something like that.
Volunteering at a super rad queer/feminist bookstore.
Spending too much time on the internet.
Buying more books than I can read or actually afford.
Figuring out the optimal milk/tea/honey ratio.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making soup & warm beverages.
Collecting stories.
Back rubs.
Befriending strangers.
Procrastinating by befriending strangers & making them warm beverages.
&Overusing ampersands.
Finding homoerotic subtext in everything.
Putting strange outfits together.
Eating breakfast at 2pm.
I've been told I write and sing decently.
The first things people usually notice about me
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"Firm hand shake."
"Fae Fatale."
"Tenth Doctor."
"Ellen Degeneres's nephew."
"Why are you wearing a star on your cheek?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Angels In America, Invisible Man, Waiting for Godot, Falsettos, The Gentrification of the Mind, The Ghost Map, Neverwhere, The Road, Midsummer Night's Dream, As You Like It, The Reluctant Fundamentalist, The Great Gatsby, Coraline, Gender Outlaw, Harry Potter, Farenheit 451, Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy....

Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Y Tu Mama Tambien, The Scarlet Pimpernel, Pan's Labyrinth, Spirited Away, Rocky Horror, Victor/Victoria, Guardians of the Galaxy, Cabaret, Scott Pilgrim, Sweeney Todd, Dr. Horrible, The Hours, The Birdcage, De-Lovely, REPO: The Genetic Opera, The Producers, The Illusionist, LOTR Trilogy, The King's Speech, Midnight In Paris, Edward Scissorhands, Donny Darko, Black Swan, the list goes on...

Monty Python's Flying Circus, Blackadder, DeathNote, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Doctor Who, Arrested Development, Will & Grace, the L Word, Face Off, Adventure Time

My Brightest Diamond, Regina Spektor, the Olivia Tremor Control, Of Montreal, Laura Marling, the Violent Femmes, Lauryn Hill, Polka Dot Dot Dot, Toshi Reagon, Laurie Anderson, Queen, Richard Thompson, the Indigo Girls, the Dresden Dolls, Professor Elemental, Bob Dylan, Joanna Newsom, the Decemberists, Gaelic Storm, the Beatles, They Might Be Giants, Michael Franti, Joni Mitchell, Tom Lehrer, All the Broadway soundtracks (I warned you I was a theatre kid,) more...

The edible kind!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Long conversations
-The color green
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

-Immersive and site-specific theatre
-Feminism & systems of oppression
-Hypothetical stories of people sitting across from me in restaurants or on public transportation
-Religion and spirituality (which has always been hella complicated for me)
-Language and phonetics
-Gender & sexuality & bodies & sex (oh my!)
-Stories I want to write
-Embracing messiness
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
*shrugs* Whatever there is to do on a Friday night.

Let's get stoned and watch Adventure Time.

And/or go on an actual adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once wrote erotica about an alternate universe in which Oscar Wilde and Ernest Hemmingway were contemporaries, called "The Importance of Banging Ernest."
You should message me if
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you feel like befriending another human, or something like that. I hear people like to do that sometimes. Weird.