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21 M New York, NY

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5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Swedish, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
~OkCupid has a rather limited range of gender and sexuality options from which to choose. More accurately:
-Gender-fluid boy-type person (they/them or he/him works)
-Queer/Pansexual (though bi also gets the general point across)

Now here comes the bit where I need to sum myself up in a small box on the internet. I'll probably be perpetually dissatisfied with this section. Student, aspiring writer/multimedia artist, bard without a band. Fond of good tea and bad puns. Constantly changing, irritatingly complicated, easily distracted. If we bond over music, theatre, or musical theatre, I will probably love you forever. Hopefully I'm less pretentious than this profile makes me out to be.
What I’m doing with my life
Studying Multimedia Storytelling at Hampshire, surrounded happily by trees and hippies, but also thinking about taking time off.
Attempting to make art that doesn't suck.
Writing and attending poetry events. (see: attempting to make art that doesn't suck)
Trying to find a job and figuring out how to be a real person. Or something like that.
Wandering New York.
Occasionally Steampunking.
Reading about epidemiology and infectious diseases, a topic by which I'm weirdly morbidly fascinated.
Trying to become more involved in community organizing.
Spending too much time on the internet.
Buying more books than I can read.
Drinking absurd amounts of tea.
Shipping Oscar Wilde and Ernest Hemingway.
I’m really good at
Befriending strangers.
Procrastinating by befriending strangers.
Finding homoerotic subtext in everything.
Coming up with weird metaphors off the top of my head.
Character voices, sometimes.
Putting costumes together.
Eating breakfast at 2pm.
I've been told I write and sing decently.
The first things people usually notice about me
"Firm hand shake."
"Like if David Tennant stuck his head in a bucket of paint."
"Ellen Degeneres's nephew."
Sometimes I put colors on my face and try to be David Bowie.
My stage voice, which carries into regular conversation. I get a bit enthusiastic sometimes...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Neil Gaiman, Oscar Wilde, Vladimir Nabokov, Douglas Adams, Shakespeare, Andrea Gibson, Judith Butler, Langston Hughes, F Scott Fitzgerald, Lemony Snicket, Alice Hoffman, Audre Lorde, Tony Kushner, Kate Bornstein....

Invisible Man, Angels In America, Waiting for Godot, The Gentrification of the Mind, The Ghost Map, Neverwhere, The Road, Midsummer Night's Dream, As You Like It, The Reluctant Fundamentalist, The Great Gatsby, Coraline, Gender Outlaw, Harry Potter, Farenheit 451, Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy....

Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Y Tu Mama Tambien, The Scarlet Pimpernel, The King's Speech, Spirited Away, Rocky Horror, Victor/Victoria, Cabaret, Scott Pilgrim, Sweeney Todd, Dr. Horrible, The Hours, De-Lovely, REPO: The Genetic Opera, The Producers, The Illusionist, LOTR Trilogy, Midnight In Paris, RENT, Edward Scissorhands, Donny Darko, Black Swan, the list goes on...

Monty Python's Flying Circus, Blackadder, DeathNote, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Doctor Who, Arrested Development, Adventure Time

Regina Spektor, the Olivia Tremor Control, Laura Marling, the Violent Femmes, Laurie Anderson, Queen, Richard Thompson, the Indigo Girls, the Dresden Dolls, Professor Elemental, Bob Dylan, Joanna Newsom, the Decemberists, Gaelic Storm, the Beatles, They Might Be Giants, Michael Franti, Nightwish, Joni Mitchell, Tom Lehrer, Mumford and Sons, All the Broadway soundtracks (I warned you I was a theatre kid,) more...

The edible kind!
The six things I could never do without
-My Friends (d'aawww, but actually though)
-Hot tea
-Music and art
-Conversations that go on for hours and cover like 50 different subjects
I spend a lot of time thinking about

-Elizabethan dad jokes
-Hypothetical stories of people sitting across from me in restaurants or on public transportation
-Language and phonetics
-Feminism and systems of oppression
-Stories I want to write
-Plays I want to direct
-Sex (let's be real here)
-General gender and sexuality angst (I especially think a LOT about bisexual and non-binary erasure)
-Pretty people
-Why the human body is considered so taboo
-Religion and spirituality (which has always been hella complicated for me)
-Also, I'm really, really curious about urban exploration, but not sure if I have the guts to actually do it.
On a typical Friday night I am
*shrugs* Whatever there is to do on a Friday night.

Let's get stoned and watch Adventure Time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a socially anxious extrovert, and as such I'm often afraid people are judging me, which is unfortunate because I really love people despite my occasional misanthropic moments.
I’m looking for
  • Bi guys and girls
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You are Oscar Wilde's long-lost lover.
Or, y'know, you want to talk to me, or something like that.

Also! If you art, I may want to art with you. That is if you are a musician, performer, filmmaker, etc., let's collaborate on a thing. C'mon, it'll be fun.

Note: I'm pretty jazzed about meeting people, but not super jazzed about indefinite internet communication. So, if you'd like to meet for coffee or food or just wander somewhere, that'd be dandy!

I promise I don't bite unless you're into that.