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QED1915

59 M Tualatin, OR

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 48–68
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:11pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Retired once, Working on the next career...maybe I should say working on finding one and figuring out who I am a bit better. Coming to a greater understanding of procrastinating just enough to allow life to unfold before me. Don't want to take up so much time with the career and working part that I leave my loved ones behind. The things I have improved on greatly is being Present, Touching and Loving the one I am with.
I'm challenging my close held beliefs and assumptions about life. A good close look at the activities of elementary particles and atoms slash clean to the bone my common sense ideas about how life and the universe works. There is no such thing as common sense in the quantum world. It is refreshing to begin to understand this and open up my mind to the strange possibilities of the universe as well as some of the strange possibilities in life. My thinking becomes clearer and stronger in the process. I understand that holding on to my belief systems and preconceived ideas block my ability to explore life, myself and others in the fullest possible way.
Some of the passions that I'm working on are:
1) Humor- Looking at life and the universe in new and different ways to challenge my thinking in very funny ways. Nothing like a good, silly look at life.
2) Physics- Figuring out how things work. Visualizing the action and the interaction in the universe. The interaction of matter and energy. The interaction of massive objects and space-time. The action of nuclear fusion or nucleosynthesis at the core of stars where all of the matter, that we experience in all of its different forms, comes from. Do entangled particles use the "energy" of consciousness to communicate their changes in state instantaneously?
3) Building things and figuring out how to build things to make them operate properly. Such as building a motorcycle with enough power and stability to go as fast as a jet airliner flies.

I used to be a strong believer in having a strong commitment within a monogamous relationship. By challenging my thinking on this, I have seen some of my errors in my understanding on how I and others around me live. The question, "Why do I have many friends that fill many of my desires and needs collectively and only have one lover that is suppose to fill most if not all of my desires and needs?", never entered into my thinking. Another way that I looked at this was,"If monogamy worked so well for me during my entire life, would I not only have one friend and one lover in the same person?"
I can not meet all of my friends needs and desires and they can not individually meet all of my needs and desires. So why do I depend on one lover to meet most if not all of my needs and desires and why does she depend on me to meet most if not all of her needs and desires? Monogamy has not worked for me and the longer I held on to it the less it worked for me. I can not allow anyone or myself to restrict anyone's interests or desires in any way in order to be with them.
Some of the things that I did not get very good at in a monogamous relationship were good/great communication skills, good negotiation skills, being able to allow my lover(s) to do what they want to do and have the relationships that they desire as well as allowing myself the same. I'm not saying that some of these things can not be obtained in a monogamous relationship. I am saying that I did not have to do these things very well for the relationship to stumble along. Being very skilled in these things makes relationships and life so much more alive.
Now, I am Polyamorous or Nonmonogamous. There are different structures within these two ideas but I do not put any emphasis on the differences. I will allow all of my friends and lovers to be who they are at all times and to do what they want to do at all times. My interest is in their happiness and my happiness no matter how they or I want to explore life or this universe. There is another thing about wanting everyone around me to be happy. This can and does over come any hard feelings that come up within me over someone's perceived actions who is close to me. These feelings come up from with me, I own them, they are not caused by anyone but me. Any feelings for someone else's happiness will over come any hurt feelings that I perceive to be caused by them.
What I’m doing with my life
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Examing my life, nothing is sacred. Looking at how to live a better higher quality life. Being who I am and I want those around me to be who they are. No games, No drama, Be Yourself. Working the brain hard, both sides. Being very good at great communication and developing trust and strong friendships that can weather the storms of life. Getting much better with humor and word play to keep the laughter going strong. Looking at things differently so that more options in life open up. Not doing the same things and expecting different results. Getting outside more...on the bike, on a hike, in the mountains or to the ocean. Getting out on the water: I like solid water a bit more than the liquid variety. Adventure comes in many forms!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a good listener, Sharing in a good, deep conversation. Being on the same page with the person I'm talking with and having the patience to get there if I'm not on the same page.
Figuring out how things work.
Figuring out why things don't work.
Looking at the funny side of life.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile. Soon after I get a bit comfortable humor really comes out. I can hide in plain sight!! Most important, my kindness, compassion, respect and trust.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books on how the universe really works...at least to our best understanding, how shame and guilt cripple human lives and how compassion and empathy are the cures for shame. If I could figure out how to watch some movies with my eyes closed, I would watch more of them...don't really watch too many. No TV. Rock and roll music through the years, it soothes the dinosaur in me. Food: Yes, nearly everything...East Asian, Central American and Mediterranean may have a bit of an edge on others. The occaisional very black beer or wonderful single malt scotch. The morning infusion of Coffee.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Looking at the lighter side or far side of life,
Laughter, Love, Humor,
Kindness, Respect, Good Conversation,
Compassion, Trust, an Open Heart,
Being seen by others, Seeing others as who they are,
Coffee, Compassionate Friends, Wonderful Lovers,
A Good Word Puzzle,
The Gentle Touch, Honesty,
Humor and more Laughter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How mass warps space-time, How matter and energy interact(i.e. electrons and photons).
Is the information between entangled particles (quantum non-locality) communicated by consciousness in the universe?
Is consciousness in the universe expanding much like dark energy is expanding the universe at an accelerated rate?
How to be more understanding of and compassionate toward others around me.
How to set aside my fears and take the proper risk to accomplish what I want to do.
How funny life really is!!!
How many read the details of a profile.
Is it the crunch or the taste of plain tortilla chips that make them so addictive?
Will the box of silly stories ever be depleted?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working... About as exciting as being in the tank with the Land Sharks during the feeding frenzy!!! My "weekends" are four days long which I like much better than two days off.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Trying to get lost in the outback and never quite getting there. May have to go to some place like the Badlands or a very large area of sand dunes.
When something goes over my head, I may give a great "deer in the headlights" look.
I don't know whether I'm a direct descendent of a T-Rex, a Velociraptor or a Meglodon.
You should message me if
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If something here sets you on fire or you are curious about anything, drop me a line...I'll be listening. I don't bite hard like a land shark hiding in plain sight!
If you are interested in discussing anything. I'm not interested in convincing you of anything but am happy to discuss anything with you.
One more thing, if you rate me, I will never know if you did so. I'm not on the A-list and have no way of knowing who rated me. I would rather talk with you and find out what interesting things we have to say. If talking, by the way of this website, is as far as we get, then we will be richer in the understanding of each other.