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55 Fairfax, VA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 47–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
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5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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Essay in contradictions: Mrs. Cleaver meets Bette Midler, with I Love Lucy tendencies. You may not know what the day holds, but it will always be interesting... Wears heels with dresses, dances barefoot in the grass. Quotes Shakespeare and knows all the words to the Big Mac song. Who can say when that might come in handy?

A quote to ponder:

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Kierkegarde

Favorite quote of the day from Auntie Mame (shamelessly nabbed from an interesting profile): "Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death."

Warning: this profile does not follow the standard operating procedure for profile writing- short, cute,simple. (I've been accused of being the first two- never the last.) Read on if you wish. It's long...

I can tell you many things- about my twisted humor, my wit, how I'll dazzle you with my beauty (in dim lighting). You can read a paragraph or two about things I choose to ramble on about, and maybe you'll click on just the right sentence. Voila! Inspiration strikes, communication begins.

We answer all these questions, we put up pictures, click on matches, and think how easy it used to be to meet people, and how difficult it is now that we're all grown up with bumps, bruises, and baggage. What do we look for here? "What to leave in , what to leave out?" (What song is that from?) Then, at times, wish we could just cut to the chase and understand each other on fast forward.

I'd like to tell you enough so you'll get a sense of whether you'd like to know me, but it's a fine balance between revealing the serious, thoughtful side, and being funny and clever. Able to put others at ease, get the party started, make you laugh til you cry, throw together a dinner for eight with an hour's notice, meet a new friend almost anyplace, and be happy almost anywhere. Never thought I'd be single at this stage in my life. Figured we'd get all old and creaky and grumpy together.... but instead, we start over. And wish for the faded in comfort of what we had, minus the hurts and sadness.

That said, what I'm looking for is a happy and energetic, nice, smart person who sees the good in people and in life, hasn't stopped seeking new adventures, knows how to be a good friend and partner and wants to share that with another happy person. Along with all of the great richness that having a relationship brings.

Please be local to northern Virginia if you're serious about a relationship. I travel with my job, so if I pop up as a match, I may be in your neighborhood. If we're in the same area, happy to meet if we are a good match. (Not if you're married, under the age of forty or don't have pictures posted. )

FYI I'm a Myers Briggs ENTP (closely tied on the T/F measure)

Here's a story about a poem:

My mom, who is now in her 80's, is in a nursing home and has not really been doing well. She fell a little while ago and has not walked since, and often does not know who we are when my sisters and brother visit her. She has improved recently, and I went to visit her recently, taking along a book of poems by Shel Silverstein titled "Every Thing On It". He is one of her favorite authors. It was a new book and I had not read any of the poems, and opened the book at random to a poem called "The Clock Man" and began to read before I realized what the poem was about....

The Clock Man, by Shel Silverstein

"How much will you pay for an extra day?"
The clock man asked the child.
"Not one penny," the answer came,
"For my days are as many as smiles."

"How much will you pay for an extra day?"
He asked when the child was grown.
"Maybe a dollar, or maybe less,
For I've plenty of days of my own."

"How much will you pay for an extra day?"
He asked when the time came to die.
"All of the pearls in all of the seas,
And all of the stars in the sky."

Then, while I cried as I read the last four lines, I looked at her, and she knew who I was. Sometimes, things happen that you could never plan, and never appreciate, until afterwards, and you'll hold that moment in your heart forever.

So - How much would you pay for an extra day?

We don't get extra days sometimes, so laugh hard, love harder, and make sure the ones you love know it! Don't take one day for granted.


My beauty dazzles even the most jaded, (if the lights are very dim and I shine the flashlight in the guy's eyes) my wit is incomparable. Like all other women I'm a fabulous cook. Really. See recent culinary accomplishments below. Can carry on intellectual conversations, give career advice, tell jokes, and entertain. Delicate, demure and able to chop wood if stuck in the wilderness. (It is true... I have pictures)

New Developments and Accomplishments: Got a great new job- supporting our troops and giving back to those who fight for our freedom. I will be traveling regularly. Exciting times !

Recent Adventures and General Misbehavior: (G-Rated)

Arts: Just back from a week in Chicago. Made it to a Cubs game, took an architecture tour, had a drink at the Hancock, listened to some blues music, and had great deep dish pizza.

Books: Sci-fi. Re-read some old ones, have a few new ones on the list.

Movies: None this month! I love old movies- classics.

Culinary: Had a slice of deep dish Chicago pizza. And a great hot dog at the Cubs game. Have discovered food trucks at lunch in Arlington. Who knew?

Music: Blues in Chicago!!!

Dancing: Swing dance . Blues dancing, a little salsa. Looking to broaden my repertoire.

Parenting: Three children- one girl, two boys, all over 18 and doing well. Naturally, they are brilliant humans.

Fortune: I still buy an occasional lottery ticket. Don't hold your breath if you are after me for my fictitious millions.

Other: I'm a recruiter in the DC area... love my job, and am very good at it. Also a career and job search coach. I'd rather do than watch, so am not a big TV person.

Love to do projects where I can see the tangible result of my effort. Just repaired bar stools- impressed myself.


I like like LIVE sports- not couch potato sports, believe good pizza is a gift from God, and do not think hot dogs should be outlawed. I avoid mean and negative people. Although I like a nice glass of wine now and then, or a margarita when it's hot, I'm not much of a drinker- really, I'm a light weight. The gym is a regular part of my life - a good thing, since I like to cook and to eat, but I'll never be a stick thin gym diva. It's important to be healthy and in shape, to live a healthy lifestyle. (But a slice of pizza is still ok.)

I cannot sing. Even in the shower... it is painful.

Dating Policy: Please just be normal, single and available. I know it may seem old fashioned, but I am not interested in dating cross dressers, swingers, trans sexuals, bisexuals, undecided will jump anyone sexuals, married men, "separated" married men who still live with spouses, or people who are in "open relationships". If you are separated, that's ok as long as you actually live separately.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being here for my kids- who are making a good start at adulthood! Working, building a career coaching business, thinking about balance- what is that again?

Having fun, being happy, trying new things, playing. Making it a point to be happy, live in the moment, and not take anything for granted.

Planning fun weekends after busy weeks.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing long profiles. Twisted humor, making friends, seeing things from a different perspective, helping others, writing, dancing, cooking, abducting aliens, word play. Not fitting the mold. Not minding at all.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I really look better in person. Then my sense of humor and positive outlook. I choose to be happy, make fun where I am, enjoy people and new places. And the fact that I don't look or act my age. Believe in happy endings.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Five Love Languages (read it with your eyes wide open- you'll learn something.) How Full is Your Bucket? Recommend it. Science Fiction, lots of psychology books. Malcolm Gladwell. Choice Theory. Poetry... and a good trashy book now and again.

Magazines: Popular Science, Wired, Fortune, Washingtonian, Popular Mechanics, Prevention

Movies: No good ones recently. Want to go with me? Saw The Big Wedding- very funny. Love old Classics, Marx Brothers, Sleepless in Seattle (the hand holding scene), Good Will Hunting, A Brilliant Mind, The King's Speech, The Bourne Identity, Second Hand Lions, Camelot, Blazing Saddles, Monty Python, the old Thin Man movies, clever comedies.

Shows: TedTalk convert- great stuff. I don't watch much TV, but when I do, it's Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report, The Mentalist, House, NCIS, Missing, Criminal Minds- Satire, disease, and crime- a wonderful combo!

Music: Bonnie Raitt (Angel from Montgomery), Little Feat (Old Folks Boogie), Alabama, Don Henley (Dirty Laundry), Van Morrison (Crazy Love, Tupelo Honey), Dave Matthews (Crash Into Me), Bette Midler (In These Shoes?), Rod Stewart (classic American songs), Natalie Cole (Wild Women Do), Aretha (Respect), Ray Charles, Louis Armstrong (A kiss to build a dream on), Jimmy Buffett, Sinatra, Joni Mitchell, James Taylor, ZZ Top (Sharp Dressed Man), Michael Franks (Monkey See, Monkey Do) , Janeva Magness (Use What you Got), Bluesville on XM radio, Tedeschi Trucks, Trace Adkins, Anita Baker- lots more- pretty much anything but rap.

Food: Eclectic tastes, will try anything, love to cook, and throw interesting meals together with whatever is on hand.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, love and affection, laughter, friendship, great conversation, nature. A longer list of things I can't live without...

Six things I can definitely do without:

Narrow minded, mean people
People who rubber neck and slow traffic
Beets (they are a nasty vegetable)
Black Friday (I never go shopping the day after Thanksgiving)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Days/nights are never typical. May be dancing or going out with friends. (Dance Swing/Lindy Hop and Blues, working on Salsa) Listening to music, meeting for happy hour, or maybe out on a date with a fascinating man... you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm thinking that's on a need to know basis. OK, I have way too many shoes for someone who likes being barefoot?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have a sense of humor,
you are smart and like hanging out with smart people,
you are also a smart a**,
you like to go do things - and take intiative to plan,
you enjoy the outdoors,
you are not a TV addict,
you are generally happy and positive,
you like to laugh,
you are affectionate and appreciate affection,
you enjoy dancing (not all the time, but you actually like it),
you are reasonably well-behaved and know how and when to be a gentleman, and when not to,
you are the kind of guy who walks a girl to her car at night- because parking garages are spooky, and it's the right thing to do,
you are healthy, and in pretty good shape,
you try to lead a healthy lifestyle but understand that God made great burgers and pizza so we could enjoy them from time to time.