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32 F Lehighton, PA

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My Details

Last Online
Sep 13
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly kosher
Judaism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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They taught us in psych class that you can learn alot about a person by the way they complete the phrase 'I am . . . ' You can use a descriptor - lonely, beautiful, smart, funny, insane; a relationship - mother, student, citizen; a hobby or practice - birdwatcher, couch potato, writer, dreamer. So to repeat an old exercise, let's see how well I can sum myself up with 6 'I am's

I am: myself. Not sure why this feels so profoundly different from the 'me' that used to be my first answer to this. But it is some how. Cue much meditation and pondering. Regardless, I have a firm grasp of who I am and it ain't changing anytime soon.

I am: striving. Live has not been easy the past few years. I've made some major strides in turning things around this summer, but there is a lot still to do. I am slowly finding my place as an activist, building an audience as an author, learning to balance being a caregiver for my disabled partner with my own sanity and wellbeing, and a great deal more. God only knows if I'll eve reach a point where I feel like I know what I am doing and how to do it, but until then I will keep striving.

I am: ... you know, I don't get a word here, just a concept. A concept that melds together being polyamorous, kinky, activist, and a great deal more. Non-traditional comes close, except that I can actually cling very closely to traditions - when they strike me as have a real meaning and purpose, and not just being a repetition for the sake of repetition. I will do things in the way that seems right to me, and anyone who doesn't like it can stay out of my life.

I am: frustrated. See: striving. I've been rolling a bunch of rocks uphill for a while, and the two steps forward three steps back schtick gets damned old. Luckily, I'm stubborn enough that nothing has truly stopped me yet.

I am: geeky. Yes, I am the semi-mythical geek girl. Don't ask me to demonstrate my geek cred. I will make you regret it. If you are running an RPG or would be interested in joining one, let me know. I write sci-fi/fantasy, with an emphasis on fantasy.

I am: a whole lot more. You'll just have to get to know me to find out.

Alright, there's my 6 'I am's. Feel free to tell me what you think ;)

(updated 8/11/2013)
What I’m doing with my life
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Personally my main focus in on my writing. I published my first book (Polyamory and Pregnancy) this past March, I have novel-length fantasy I'm hoping to release as a webserial when I'm done editing, and a friend and I are putting together a TVTropes-inspired webcomic. Other projects ongoing.

I'm also taking care of my partner, who is disabled, raising a two-year old, dealing with custody insanity and struggling with my own mental health (which thankfully has gotten a lot better of late.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, cooking, meditation, understanding people, interpretting dreams, parsing heavy and convoluted philosophical writing . . .
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have no idea, really . . . depends on where they meet me I guess. Very quiet in public, more outgoing and comfortable in small groups or with friends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Moon is a Harsh Mistress, anything by Mercedes Lackey, Almost anything by David Weber, The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, Shakespeare, Song of Songs

Movies: hard to say - unlike books I tend to watch a movie once, enjoy it and move on. Um . . . Well, Princess Bride, History of the World Part 1, Shawshank Redemption, I enjoyed the super hero movies that were coming out a few years ago, less taken with the more recent ones. . . . My Best Friend's Wedding, Ordinary People, Renaissance Man . . .

Music: Joshua Kadison, Doors, Rolling Stones, Queen, Enya, Clannad, Sons of Somerled, Puccini, Beethoven, They Might be GIants, Rush

Food: Japanese, Pizza, my own baking, a well roasted chicken, broccoli smothered in cheddar cheese, wild greens salads

TV: haven't bothered with tv in years, but recently got Netflix, and have been enjoying going through the shows they have on there. Current fave is definitely Bones.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Writing, getting outside, family, my sense of self, imagination, snack food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My current writing projects, my kids, relationships, philosophy, juggling finances . . .
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting my son to bed, writing, trying to decide whether or not to perform the Shabbos rituals.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am an incest abuse survivor. Doesn't affect on my daily life nearly as much as the rest of the shit I'm shoveling, but sometimes messes w/ my sex life.
You should message me if
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you want to. If you message me, please include enough in your message so I can tell you actually read my profile. If you are monogamous and looking for the love of your life, we are NOT COMPATIBLE.

If I'm hanging out on OKC, chat requests are welcome.