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39 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:33pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Ok. I've been hanging about here for months now, and I've decided to finally put some effort into it.

I'm a professional chef, though at this point I've kind of left the restaurant world behind for a bit and am working for an internet startup (still as a chef, though- I'm kind of their 'product'. It's complicated). Please don't hate me for this.

I tend to think of myself as living a pretty balanced life- but it's a balance of extremes. I've always been equally comfortable reading a book at home (or in a dive bar) as going out to see a loud music show. I tend to strike people I don't know as fairly introverted, but open up a lot when I'm around people I actually know and like. I've never taken a personality test, so you'll just have to accept my self-diagnosis, hah.

I'm also a big geek. I read entirely too much, and a measurable portion of my free time is spent gaming with friends. Tabletop board and card games, ranging from the ultra-geeky with plastic miniatures and funky dice, to interesting, elegant, brain-burning economics games and everything in between. There's some RPG love in there, too, but I haven't done DnD or anything like it in twenty+ years- I tend to be interested more in weird, social, collaborative storytelling games.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, learning, applying, creating, playing. All of these jumbled up together, at the same time usually. I'm pretty fortunate that I have a job that pretty much forces me to be in a constant creative mode, as that's where I like to be. If I have to do the same thing, day in and day out, I get bored quickly.
I’m really good at
Cooking. I don't pretend to know everything there is to know, but
I know lots.
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to dress... eccentrically by the standards of most people. Big Boots, suspenders, waistcoats, french cuffs are pretty much the norm. My 'look' alternately gets described as a bit Gangs of New York/Depression Era/WWI Aviator/Steampunk- with an emphasis on the punk, not the steam.

On that last note, I mostly only wear the goggles when I'm on my motorcycle, or at the industrial club. Mostly.

Somehow, through all that, the word 'dapper' is commonly used to describe me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
What I can see at a glance at my bookshelf from the couch: Italo Calvino, Jorge Luis Borges, Raymond Chandler, Dashiel Hammett, Richard K. Morgan, Scott Lynch, Gene Wolfe, H.P. Lovecraft, Homer, Jeff Noon, Salman Rushdie, etc. I read lots, and I have a very low tolerance for bad writing. I'm currently re-reading Catherynne M. Valente's Palimpsest. I loved her 'The Orphan's Tales' books lots, but this left me cold the first time I tried it. Much better this time. "Things which are gone in the morning: sleep, darkness, grief, the moon. Women. Dreams.". Yeah. Sounds about right.

Movies and TV? Mostly sci-fi, horror (*not* crappy torture-porn), etc.- genre stuff. I do think I'm reasonably discriminating, though. While I do watch my fair share of schlock (usually *because* it's schlock, heh), I do try to look for the more interesting end of the spectrum. Oh, sure, I watch dramas and documentaries, and mostly stay away from the really big hollywood blockbusters (Marvel Comics movies excepted, of course).

Music: I grew up in the Goth/Industrial/Punk scene, so music has always been a big part of my vision of myself. Mostly I've moved away from all that, though- I made a decision years ago that I didn't want to be one of those people that listened to the music of their youth their whole life. Nowadays I tend toward bands like The National, Beirut, The Decemberists, The Walkmen, etc. I like music with a sense of style- accordians, strings, horns, and well-written lyrics get me going. Locally, I'm a big fan of bands like The Bad Things and Bakelite 78- kind of neo-folk-punk-hobo music.

Let's just skip the food. Drink-wise, I drink bourbon (and other whiskies) and gin, and I'll admit to being enough of a snob that vodka mildly annoys me.
The six things I could never do without
Good food and a kitchen to cook it in.
Good books.
Good boardgames.
Good friends to share it all with.

What, that's not six? Ok, fine, one more. A motorcycle. I've pretty much lived my whole life on them, and I can't imagine ever stopping. Doesn't have to be anything special or fancy, but yeah.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Creativity. Well-written prose (or poetry). Well-balanced flavors. Well-tuned game mechanics.
On a typical Friday night I am
This time of year, hopefully camping. Somewhere away from the things of man. If not that, then probably playing a boardgame or three with friends either at my house or Cafe Mox. Maybe something simple like a few hands of Tichu, or something complex and brain-burning like A Study In Emerald.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're a creative/artsy type, and you like intelligent, geeky dudes.

Your idea of a fine first date might just be playing a game of Emily Boss' "Breaking the Ice"- or really, if you even have an idea what that is (I'll admit the meta-ness of this is mostly what's appealing, hah).