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  • Ages 25-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 25
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Ok. I've been hanging about here for months now, and I've decided to finally put some effort into it.

I'm a professional chef, currently working on opening my own place. I also work with the local arm of a national non-profit that promotes local, sustainable food systems. I'm a big believer in the power of community to affect positive change in the world.

I tend to think of myself as living a pretty balanced life- but it's a balance of extremes. I've always been equally comfortable reading a book at home (or in a dive bar) as going out to see a loud music show. I tend to strike people I don't know as fairly introverted, but open up a lot when I'm around people I actually know and like. On the flip side, for work I'm often called a classic 'alpha'- people naturally listen to me and follow my orders. It's a bit odd. But anyway, I've never taken a personality test, so you'll just have to accept my self-diagnosis, hah.

I'm also a big geek. I read entirely too much, and a measurable portion of my free time is spent gaming with friends. Tabletop board and card games, ranging from the ultra-geeky with plastic miniatures and funky dice, to interesting, elegant, brain-burning economics games and everything in between. There's some RPG love in there, too, but I haven't done DnD or anything like it in twenty+ years- I tend to be interested more in weird, social, collaborative storytelling games. Any form of interactive, collaborative fiction interests me greatly.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, learning, applying, creating, playing. All of these jumbled up together, at the same time usually. I'm pretty fortunate that I have a job that pretty much forces me to be in a constant creative mode, as that's where I like to be. If I have to do the same thing, day in and day out, I get bored quickly.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking. I don't pretend to know everything there is to know, but
I know lots.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to dress... eccentrically by the standards of most people. Big Boots, suspenders, waistcoats, french cuffs are pretty much the norm. My 'look' alternately gets described as a bit Gangs of New York/Depression Era/WWI Aviator/Steampunk- with an emphasis on the punk, not the steam- I'll admit the general ostentatious-ness of that subculture annoys me most of the time.

On that last note, I mostly only wear the goggles when I'm on my motorcycle, or at the industrial club. Mostly.

Somehow though, through all that, the word 'dapper' is most commonly used to describe me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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What I can see at a glance at my bookshelf from the couch: Italo Calvino, Jorge Luis Borges, Raymond Chandler, Dashiel Hammett, Richard K. Morgan, Scott Lynch, Gene Wolfe, H.P. Lovecraft, Homer, Jeff Noon, Salman Rushdie, etc. I read lots, and I have a very low tolerance for bad writing. I'm currently re-reading Catherynne M. Valente's Palimpsest. I loved her 'The Orphan's Tales' books lots, but this left me cold the first time I tried it. Much better this time. "Things which are gone in the morning: sleep, darkness, grief, the moon. Women. Dreams.". Yeah. Sounds about right.

Movies and TV? Mostly sci-fi, horror (*not* crappy torture-porn), etc.- genre stuff. I do think I'm reasonably discriminating, though. While I do watch my fair share of schlock (usually *because* it's schlock, heh), I do try to look for the more interesting end of the spectrum. Oh, sure, I watch dramas and documentaries, indie flicks, and mostly stay away from the really big hollywood blockbusters (Marvel Comics movies excepted, of course).

Music: I grew up in the Goth/Industrial/Punk scene, so music has always been a big part of my vision of myself. Mostly I've moved away from all that, though- I made a decision years ago that I didn't want to be one of those people that listened to the music of their youth their whole life. Nowadays I tend toward bands like The National, Beirut, The Decemberists, The Walkmen, etc. I like music with a sense of style- accordians, strings, horns, and well-written lyrics get me going. Locally, I'm a big fan of bands like The Bad Things and Bakelite 78- kind of neo-folk-punk-hobo music.

Let's just skip the food. Drink-wise, I drink bourbon (and other whiskies) and gin, and I'll admit to being enough of a snob that vodka mildly annoys me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good food and a kitchen to cook it in.
Good books.
Good boardgames.
Good friends to share it all with.

What, that's not six? Ok, fine, one more. A motorcycle. I've pretty much lived my whole life on them, and I can't imagine ever stopping. Doesn't have to be anything special or fancy, but yeah.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Creativity. Well-written prose (or poetry). Well-balanced flavors. Well-tuned game mechanics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
During the summer, hopefully camping- being somewhere away from the things of man. If not that, then probably playing a boardgame or three with friends either at my house or Cafe Mox. Maybe something simple like a few hands of Tichu, or something complex and brain-burning like A Study In Emerald.
You should message me if
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You're a creative/artsy type, and you like intelligent, geeky dudes. And really, you should just go ahead and do it. I have no problem with women making the first move, and if you leave me to do it, you might be waiting a while- I message (or even 'like') terribly few people on here. I'm in no rush, and I do things at my own pace when left up to my own devices. Just sayin'.