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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–32
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Today – 4:11am
Indian, White
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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I moved to Michigan in 2009 to enroll in a PhD program in psychology. I'm in Seattle for a post-doc position for the next couple of years. My work and education has played a large role in how I've chosen to live my life. I do research on figuring out how different forms of therapy work; to do this I look at their impact on helping people build deep meaningful relationships.

I'm a very analytically adept person who is also very in touch with my emotions. There's an old Christine Lavin song called "Sensitive New Age Guys", I often use that as a descriptor for who I am.

I have a strong interest in making the world a better place. To me this means a voting tendency toward the left, going out of my way to recycling, eating ethically when I can afford it, and generally being mindful of how my actions impact other people and the world.

I've served a term in Americorps, completed degrees in philosophy and psychology, written resolutions presented to the U.N., biked 100 miles in one go, and watched more movies than I should have.

My core values revolve around the people I care about in my life. I'm very close to my mom, and am fiercely loyal to my friends. In the recent past I've found that it's very important to me to feel like I'm trusted and heard in my relationships with others. It's very important to me to not offend people, and sometimes that means I won't take risks that I should. So if I come across as shy or passive, I might need a prompt as I'm probably just trying to not rub you the wrong way.

Overall, I'm an open book and love to get to know people.
What I’m doing with my life
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Doing research at UW. When I'm not working, I'm trying to enjoy life as much as possible by reading, being outdoors, enjoying good food, and exploring a new city.
I’m really good at
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Knowing useless things (and using complex; precise words). I'm an avid reader, and try to soak up as much knowledge as possible. Consequently I know a lot of things that I view as pretty useless. I'm also very skilled at living cheap and not bad at bar trivia. I'm also very in touch with my feelings and enjoy having meaningful conversations.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height, it's hard to not stick out a little bit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read, though I'm usually focusing on non-fiction in the field now a days. Some of my favorite reads are The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russel, Catfish and Mandala by Andrew Pham, and A Fairwell to Arms by Hemmingway.

I'm a cinephile, so naming a list of favorite movies would take awhile. The Princess Bride is attached with all sorts of pleasant memories. I tend to be drawn to thought provoking/depressing movies like Hotel Rwanda, but I also love over the top action movies (Shoot em Up) and comedies with a lot of non sequitur (Death to Smoochie).

I've recently been drawn into television more. I think the quality of tv has increased exponentially. Among my favorites are Breaking Bad, The Newsroom, Game of Thrones, and Californication.

Music is another area where my taste is eclectic. I've been listening to a lot of contemporary folk music (indie-ish), I like blues, folk, "alternative", thoughtful hip-hop, punk, metal, and pretty much everything that isn't pop music.

Food is something I'm very passionate about. My favorite dish is a Vietnamese dish called bun thit nuong chi thong. I love to cook, I love trying new dishes and new ethnic foods, but I can eat pretty much anything. Oddly enough I hate tomatoes and pickles.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My car (brings me in touch with the people I care about.)
My couch (I'm a home body and have possibly the worlds most comfortable couch)
My computer (work, music, movies, staying in touch with people)
A sense of my direction in life (I'm very opinionated and driven by my values and goals)
My bike (I love being out on the Kal Haven Trail)
A way of communicating with my family (I'm very close with my mom)

Honestly, I can't think of a 6th thing that isn't abstract and a stretch. As long as I'm able to contact the people who're important to me, I'm pretty happy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Behavior, existentialism, what I "should" be doing, food, and entertainment.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending time with friends, or cooking for myself and having a relaxing night alone.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I had an old account from a long time ago. I accidentally clicked on one of my clients profiles not realizing it was someone I had professional contact with. In response, I deleted my profile and am just now creating a new one. Which is up to date, so that's nice.

Also I worry a lot about my students/clients finding this, but whatever; professionals are humans too.
You should message me if
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You can recognize I put way too much thought into this and I'm more laid back in person.

You identify as counter culture, but not deviant.

You're willing to overlook the fact that my grammar and spelling is at times reflective of the fact that I was educated at a Milwaukee public school.

You don't mind the fact that I'm over educated and study psychology for a living.

You like conversations about the meaningful things in life and are ok with being truly present with who you are.