Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I moved to Michigan in 2009 to enroll in a PhD program in
psychology. I'm in Seattle for a post-doc position for the new
couple of years. My work and education has played a large role in
how I've chosen to live my life. I do research on figuring out how
different forms of therapy work; to do this I look at their impact
on helping people build deep meaningful relationships.
I'm a very analytically adept person who is also very in touch with
my emotions. There's an old Christine Lavin song called "Sensitive
New Age Guys", I often use that as a descriptor for who I am.
I have a strong interest in making the world a better place. To me
this means a voting tendency toward the left, going out of my way
to recycling, eating ethically when I can afford it, and generally
being mindful of how my actions impact other people and the
I've served a term in Americorps, completed degrees in philosophy
and psychology, written resolutions presented to the U.N., biked
100 miles in one go, and watched more movies than I should
My core values revolve around the people I care about in my life.
I'm very close to my mom, and am fiercely loyal to my friends. In
the recent past I've found that it's very important to me to feel
like I'm trusted and heard in my relationships with others. It's
very important to me to not offend people, and sometimes that means
I won't take risks that I should. So if I come across as shy or
passive, I might need a prompt as I'm probably just trying to not
rub you the wrong way.
Overall, I'm an open book and love to get to know people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Doing research at UW. When I'm not working, I'm trying to enjoy
life as much as possible by reading, being outdoors, enjoying good
food, and exploring a new city.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knowing useless things (and using complex; precise words). I'm an
avid reader, and try to soak up as much knowledge as possible.
Consequently I know a lot of things that I view as pretty useless.
I'm also very skilled at living cheap and not bad at bar trivia.
I'm also very in touch with my feelings and enjoy having meaningful
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height, it's hard to not stick out a little bit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love to read, though I'm usually focusing on non-fiction in the
field now a days. Some of my favorite reads are The Sparrow by Mary
Doria Russel, Catfish and Mandala by Andrew Pham, and A Fairwell to
Arms by Hemmingway.
I'm a cinephile, so naming a list of favorite movies would take
awhile. The Princess Bride is attached with all sorts of pleasant
memories. I tend to be drawn to thought provoking/depressing movies
like Hotel Rwanda, but I also love over the top action movies
(Shoot em Up) and comedies with a lot of non sequitur (Death to
I've recently been drawn into television more. I think the quality
of tv has increased exponentially. Among my favorites are Breaking
Bad, The Newsroom, Game of Thrones, and Californication.
Music is another area where my taste is eclectic. I've been
listening to a lot of contemporary folk music (indie-ish), I like
blues, folk, "alternative", thoughtful hip-hop, punk, metal, and
pretty much everything that isn't pop music.
Food is something I'm very passionate about. My favorite dish is a
Vietnamese dish called bun thit nuong chi thong. I love to cook, I
love trying new dishes and new ethnic foods, but I can eat pretty
much anything. Oddly enough I hate tomatoes and pickles.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My car (brings me in touch with the people I care about.)
My couch (I'm a home body and have possibly the worlds most
My computer (work, music, movies, staying in touch with
A sense of my direction in life (I'm very opinionated and driven by
my values and goals)
My bike (I love being out on the Kal Haven Trail)
A way of communicating with my family (I'm very close with my
Honestly, I can't think of a 6th thing that isn't abstract and a
stretch. As long as I'm able to contact the people who're important
to me, I'm pretty happy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Behavior, existentialism, what I "should" be doing, food, and
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending time with friends, or cooking for myself and having a
relaxing night alone.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I had an old account from a long time ago. I accidentally clicked
on one of my clients profiles not realizing it was someone I had
professional contact with. In response, I deleted my profile and am
just now creating a new one. Which is up to date, so that's
Also I worry a lot about my students/clients finding this, but
whatever; professionals are humans too.
You should message me if
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You can recognize I put way too much thought into this and I'm more
laid back in person.
You identify as counter culture, but not deviant.
You're willing to overlook the fact that my grammar and spelling is
at times reflective of the fact that I was educated at a Milwaukee
You don't mind the fact that I'm over educated and study psychology
for a living.
You like conversations about the meaningful things in life and are
ok with being truly present with who you are.
Who are you looking for?
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