Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I moved to Michigan in 2009 to enroll in a PhD program in
psychology. I'm in Seattle for a post-doc position for the next
couple of years. My work and education has played a large role in
how I've chosen to live my life. I do research on figuring out how
different forms of therapy work; to do this I look at their impact
on helping people build deep meaningful relationships.
I'm a very analytically adept person who is also very in touch with
my emotions. There's an old Christine Lavin song called "Sensitive
New Age Guys", I often use that as a descriptor for who I am.
I have a strong interest in making the world a better place. To me
this means a voting tendency toward the left, going out of my way
to recycling, eating ethically when I can afford it, and generally
being mindful of how my actions impact other people and the
I've served a term in Americorps, completed degrees in philosophy
and psychology, written resolutions presented to the U.N., biked
100 miles in one go, and watched more movies than I should
My core values revolve around the people I care about in my life.
I'm very close to my mom, and am fiercely loyal to my friends. In
the recent past I've found that it's very important to me to feel
like I'm trusted and heard in my relationships with others. It's
very important to me to not offend people, and sometimes that means
I won't take risks that I should. So if I come across as shy or
passive, I might need a prompt as I'm probably just trying to not
rub you the wrong way.
Overall, I'm an open book and love to get to know people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Research post-doc at UW, pursuing the dream of being a professor.
Consequently, a lot of reading and writing. In my free time I'm
finding new sports to try, reading, cooking, or biking.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm remarkably skilled at finding new ways to accidentally injure
myself. Long term ankle injury from dancing? Check! Damaged
ligament from dodgeball? You betcha.
I'm also really good at taking things apart. Most of the time I'm
able to put them back together, that's not always the case though.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm at that perfect place where I'm tall enough to usually be the
tallest in the room, but not so tall as to garner unwanted
attention. I also make eye contact with strangers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some of my favorite reads are The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russel,
Catfish and Mandala by Andrew Pham, and A Fairwell to Arms by
Love movies! The Princess Bride is attached with all sorts of
pleasant memories. I tend to be drawn to thought
provoking/depressing movies like Hotel Rwanda, but I also love over
the top action movies (Shoot em Up) and comedies with a lot of non
sequitur (Death to Smoochie).
I watch all the cliche good dramas on TV right now, just like
I listen to most everything, not the biggest fan of top 40 or
country. Lots of acoustic guitar/folk and lots of punk right
I love Indian and Vietnamese food. Dislike tomatoes (enjoy tomato
products) and think pickles are cucumbers soaked in evil.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Artificial fruit candy, new things to try, a sense of direction, a
good set of knives, a couch that makes me feel normal sized.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
That one thing that I can't quite remember. Who I haven't spoken to
in awhile. How the hell 8 year olds at restaurants can draw better
pandas than I can. Why are there so many ladies in the Seattle area
that have dinosaur related names on OKC?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking a meal and then either having a quiet evening watching
movies alone, or finding a new activity to try with friends (who
wants to teach me to snow board? Please note, you must be able to
help me when I inevitably hurt myself)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really enjoy the strange looks I get while singing and dancing in
my car at stop lights.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are willing and able to have a serious conversation on top of
Have favorite things in Seattle you're dying to share with someone
new. Bonus points if it's food related.
You know of a themed indie dance club.
You have a great story to break the ice. Mine is about wearing a
purple silk suit.
You want to document a day in the life of the invisible man with
me. Or act out full plays for security cameras in public places.
I'm pretty flexible.
Also worth noting are pet peeves:
Playing on your phone while in a social situation (unless trying to
Not being on time especially if you don't communicate that you're
running late in advance.
Edit: New pet peeve after a few recent experiences. If you're not
over an ex, you probably shouldn't be dating. Just throwing it out
there. This has now happened multiple times.
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