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28 Walnut Creek, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:26pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Used up
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an opera singer and classical violinist, but jazz and the theater were my first great loves. I am a full-time teacher and performer.

I have an old soul, and old taste- "classic", as I like to say.

I have this theory that what you drink says a lot about you. I'm a whiskey lass. I take it neat. Caol Ila, if you have it. Also a little bit of a beer geek. I prefer coffee before noon. I'll take a cuppa Philz, Blue Bottle, or Sightglass. I take it black or with a drop of cream- no sugar.

I'm a Bay Area native, and have lived here most of my life except for my years of college in Boston and Kansas City, Missouri. I loved Boston and miss it dearly. Missouri was quite the culture shock, and quite the learning experience, and quite the comedy of errors.

The people I love always come first in my life; and if I know anything about myself it is that I'm a damn good friend. If shit goes down with someone I love I won't hesitate to put my life on hold to be there for them.

I dream big, live passionately, am chronically curious, and have a strong-somewhat dominant-personality. I value my capacity for empathy and love, as well as my self-deprecating humor above all my other traits.

I plan to travel through and live in as many places on earth as possible. Really, I feel it is a crime against creation to live on this earth and not at least try to explore as much of it as you can (yes, I realize I say this from a place of great privilege). I've covered Europe and The States for the most part. Central and South America are next on my list. My most recent trip abroad was to a tiny town in the mountains of Honduras. I went with a group of my violin students and their families and helped launch a music education program, as well as did general volunteer work. It was wonderful. I plan to have a long-term relationship with this program, its teachers, and the village, and look forward to returning soon.

I'm an ENFP (or J depending on the test- which I guess means I'm equal parts judgy and perceptive) and a 3/2 on the enneagram scale- if that all means anything to anyone. I understand it's very important to some. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Kicking ass, taking names, and other shenanigans.

Really, this question is either entirely too existential, or errs on the side of sounding like your nagging mother....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Telling crazy-but-true stories- usually collected from my life. I'm mostly a story-teller.

I have a knack for parallel parking in absurdly tight spots.


Clucking like a chicken and other random noise-making.

I recently got into weight-lifting and have discovered a natural talent for it. Who the fuck would have guessed?! Not this lady, I tell ya. But it's fun. What I'm saying is, I bet I could take you. ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After taking a brief poll, the top consistent answers were: Eyes, Smile, Voice/laugh. "Boobs" was unanimous amongst my male friends. Pretty standard, boring answers if you ask me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oy! This is pretty important stuff to me- so here's a taste of what I'm into:

Books (Authors): Steinbeck, Huxley, Hesse, Bellow, Dante Alighieri, Shakespeare, Austen, Sedaris, Téa Obreht, Gregory David Roberts, Allende, Eugenides, Shel Silverstein, Federico García Lorca;

TV: I dont watch TV often but when I do I love most things on PBS, especially Charlie Rose and Downton Abbey. Dig Mad Men, and Louis CK. Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert are the two sexiest men on television. Anthony Bourdain is a close third. I also have a not-so-closeted love of great detective shows. Beck and other foreign greats are examples-and True Detective was awesome. I await season two with bated breath.

Music: Shostakovich, Beethoven, Mahler, Verdi, Puccini, Stravinsky, Debussy, Ravel, Ives, Brahms, Satie, Schubert, Schumann, Strauss, Wagner, Miles Davis, Dave Brubeck Quartet, Benny Goodman, Fats Waller, Ella Fitzgerald, Sarah Vaughan, Rosemary Cloney, Billie Holiday, Thelonious Monk, Horace Silver, Amália Rodrigues, Victor Wooten, Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, The Beatles, Led Zeppelin; Fleet Foxes, Amy Winehouse, and Rufus Wainwright are examples of more current musicians I dig. I've recently gotten into an SF band called Be Calm Honcho. Check 'em out! Go local!

Food: Is it spicy? Can I make it spicy? How spicy can I make it? Does it involve pork, please? Ethnically speaking: (authentic!) Italian, Greek, Thai, Indian, Japanese, Vietnamese, Korean, and Mexican are my absolute favorites. Ha. Yes. Love food. Love trying new foods. No fear! Really, try me. I love a Great Drink! I worked in the alcohol industry briefly and am a bit of a wine and beer geek.

Movies: Whatever Happened to Baby Jane, La Dolce Vita, Rebel Without a Cause, Woody Allen in general, Broken Embraces, Capote, Reds, Doubt, Motorcycle Diaries, Bad Education, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Wall-E, The Pianist, Blow, Mel Brooks specifically: Blazing Saddles and History of the World Part I, Lincoln, Argo, "No", ZeroDarkThirty
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The People I love
The Music I love
The Books I love
Great Food and Drink
My sense of humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
•What are dog nightmares about?
•How can I afford my next big trip or adventure?
•How can I be a better teacher, opera singer, friend, family member, human being?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drinking great beer with greater friends. Or sometimes just having an NPR podcast binge.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Nothing is too private with me, so I'll just tell you something funny: I was pittle- my- pants- petrified of E.T. until I was about 13 years old. I still shudder a little bit to think of
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
•You actually read through this entire rediculously verbose profile, because chances are you were captivated by something.

•You can come up with a clever opening line. Please-no more crappy pick-up lines. I can't believe these work for any of you....shame on the women who dignify them with a response! Shame!

•You're a renaissance man-I have a weakness for those.

•You're a liberal. Clearly on the left. Not a libertarian. Definitely not undecided or apathetic or "anarchistic" (Jesus, don't get me started on THAT bullshit!) A liberal. You must be a voting, conscientious liberal. Otherwise it just ain't gunna work out, trust me.

•You enjoy a great cuppa coffee, a really great beer, a day at the museum, and a night at the symphony or opera.

•You know that dogs trump cats, baseball trumps football, and Andrea Bocelli and "the phantom of the opera" have about as much to do with opera as "Christian Science" has to do with Einstein and Hawking.