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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Today – 3:47pm
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Used up
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently), Italian (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an opera singer
I stand on painted tape
It tells me where I'm going
And where to throw my cape

By day, I'm a school administrator and music teacher. By night, I'm an opera singer and violinist. Yes, professionally. Like, people pay me to do what I love. Idiots.

I have this theory that what you drink says a lot about you. I'll take a cuppa Philz, Blue Bottle, or Sightglass to get me through the day. I take it black or with a drop of cream- no sugar. I'm a whiskey lass. I take it neat. Caol Ila, if you have it. I love a beer by Russian River, and a tasty Malbec or Cab.

The people I love always come first in my life, and if I know anything about myself it is that I'm a damn good friend. I'm loyal to a fault.

I dream big, live passionately, and am chronically curious. I have a strong-somewhat dominant-personality. I value my capacity for empathy and unconditional love, as well as my inability to take myself too seriously above all my other traits.

ENFJ and a 3-2 on the enneagram scale. I know that's important to some, so I'll throw it out there. It's fun to think about.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Kicking ass, taking names, and other shenanigans.

Really, this question is either entirely too existential, or errs on the side of sounding like a nagging mother....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Telling crazy-but-true stories. I'm a story teller.

I have a knack for parallel parking in absurdly tight spots.

Making fire engine siren sounds. I work with small children. I've developed sound effect skills.

Lifting really heavy things. I recently discovered a natural gift for this. It's quite fun to find a hidden talent in your late 20's. It's a pretty funny juxtaposition to the rest of me. I'd tell you how much I can dead lift, but you wouldn't believe me, so I won't brag. ;) But feel free to ask, if you're curious.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After taking a brief poll, the top consistent answers were: Smile, Voice/laugh, and Eyes. Standard.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Taste in art and food is kinda critical, so:

Books (Authors): Steinbeck, Huxley, Hesse, Bellow, Dante Alighieri, Shakespeare, Austen, Sedaris, Téa Obreht, Gregory David Roberts, Allende, Eugenides, Shel Silverstein, Federico García Lorca;

TV: I Netflix and chill.

I miss Mad Men, The Daily Show with J Stew, Colbert Report, and True Detectice Season One. These days I'll watch Orange is the New Black, The Killing, anything with Anthony Bourdaine, and yes- Downton Abbey. I've been told I should try Master of None. So that's next on the list.

Music: Shostakovich, Beethoven, Mahler, Verdi, Puccini, Stravinsky, Debussy, Ravel, Ives, Brahms, Satie, Schubert, Schumann, Strauss, Wagner; Miles Davis, Dave Brubeck Quartet, Benny Goodman, Fats Waller, Ella Fitzgerald, Sarah Vaughan, Rosemary Cloney, Billie Holiday, Thelonious Monk, Horace Silver; Amália Rodrigues; Victor Wooten, Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, The Beatles, Led Zeppelin so so so much more....whew, it was hard to pare down that list!

Food: Is it spicy? Can I make it spicy? How spicy can I make it? Does it involve pork, please? Ethnically speaking: (authentic!) Italian, Greek, Thai, Indian, Japanese, Vietnamese, Korean, and Mexican are my absolute favorites. Yes. Love food. Love trying new foods and weird foods. I love a Great Drink! I worked in the alcohol industry briefly, and am a bit of a wine and beer geek. Not a snob. Just a geek.

Movies: Whatever Happened to Baby Jane, La Dolce Vita, Casablanca, Rebel Without a Cause, Broken Embraces, Capote, Reds, Doubt, Motorcycle Diaries, Bad Education, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Wall-E, Blow, Mel Brooks: specifically Blazing Saddles, and History of the World Part I; Lincoln, Argo, "No", ZeroDarkThirty, Interstellar. Is that list broad enough?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The People I love
The Music I love
Great Food and Drink
My sense of humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
•Things that were misnamed: hemeroids should be called assteroids (with two s's instead of one). Pregnant women should be called body builders. Bedrooms should be called restrooms. A group of squid should be called a squad.
•How to afford international travel. Where should my next adventure be?
•How can I be a better teacher, musician, friend, family member, human being?
•How can I better my school? How can I make my teachers happy?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the gym, followed by beer with friends. Life is about balance, right?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Nothing is too private with me, so I'll just tell you something funny: I was pittle- my- pants- petrified of E.T. until I was about 13 years old. No shame.
You should message me if
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•You're a renaissance man. I have a weakness for those.

•You speak Japanese! I need to have decent conversational skills with a year and a half.

•You're a liberal. Clearly on the left. Not a libertarian. Definitely not undecided or apathetic or "anarchistic" (Jesus, don't get me started on THAT bullshit!) A liberal. You must be a voting, conscientious liberal. Otherwise it just ain't gunna work out, trust me.

•You enjoy a great cuppa coffee, a really great beer, a day at the museum, and a night at the symphony or opera.

•You know that dogs trump cats, baseball trumps football, and Andrea Bocelli and "the phantom of the opera" have about as much to do with opera as "Christian Science" has to do with Einstein and Hawking.