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51 M Centereach, NY

My Details

Last Online
Jan 13, 2007
Asian, Pacific Islander
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
A little extra
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Indonesian (Poorly), Ilongo (Poorly), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm an international news editor by occupation, and a writer and photographer by avocation.

I'm proud of my ethnic (Indonesian and Filipino) and regional (born and bred New Yorker) heritage and hope you are proud of yours.

A probable dealbreaker/maker -- I am polyamorous. To borrow a quote (and changing genders appropriately), "Those of you looking to cheat on your husband, partner, etc, polyamory is not synonymous with dishonesty. Don't bother."

I'm up for trying new things but sometimes it takes me a long time to get around to them. In 2004, I took a striptease class; in 2005, I took a workshop in Javanese dancing; in 2006, I finally got up the nerve to let a friend take nude photos of me.

I am bawdy, orally-fixated, and a great listener
What I’m doing with my life
I'm making a serious effort to combat a weight problem by going to the gym on a regular basis. My goal is to lose 60 lbs. by June of 2008.

I'm also working on some personal and financial obstacles.
The first things people usually notice about me
A very skeptical look, dark eyes, salt-and-pepper hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: James Simon Kunen, The Strawberry Statement: Notes of a College Revolutionary; Joe Haldeman, The Forever War; Li-Young Lee, The City In Which I Love You; Pramoedya Ananta Toer, The Buru Tetralogy; Jennifer Dunning, Alvin Ailey: A Life in Dance. MOVIES: Casablanca, Dazed and Confused, Fahrenheit 9/11, Metropolis, My Man Godfrey (1936 original), The Third Man, War Photographer, The War Room, Leonard Cohen: I'm Your Man, Shortbus. MUSIC: Classic rock (Eric Clapton, Bob Seger, Styx, Journey); jazz and jazz-fusion (Art Tatum, George Benson, Stanley Clarke); classical (Debussy, Villa-Lobos, Rodrigo, Chopin) FOODS: Indonesian (rendang, ayam panggang, sate), Filipino (black rice paella, lumpia), Thai (pad khing), American bistro (an Elephantburger -- a medium rare hamburger with curried sour cream, beefsteak tomato slice, scallions and cheddar -- from Elephant and Castle), Irish (shepherd's pie, Guinness), New York regional (bialy with Nova lox, cream cheese and a slice of Bermuda onion)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I need to work on to make my life better; dreams and what they mean; how to maintain my integrity and survive; the ethics of my choices; how to survive the future
On a typical Friday night I am
Heading home from an hour to an hour and a half at the gym; making dinner for myself; reading mail; catching up on personal paperwork (budget, journal, etc.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–88
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
a) You want an equal partner who will challenge and will want to be challenged BY you; and b) you like having your g-spot worshipped.

I like smart, bawdy, voluptuous women. Sue me ;)