The values that matter to me most are affection, intimacy, personal connection, empathy, gentleness, friendship and love. Loving my community of friends and my family is a central part of who I am. I tend to maintain friendships for a very long time. I am still good friends with my two former partners, and they are very much a part of my family. A sense of play is also very important to me as well. I have a very active mind, a playful verbal and gentle sense of humor.
I am looking for a relationship with a man who shares these values. A man who is interested in building a life together, keeping a relationship alive with love, sex, and a sense of play, and who shares my commitment to a community of friends and family.
I'm a big believer in starting with low stakes dates, and not diving into a relationship too quickly. That means coffee, a walk, and talking to start. I love sex a lot (really, a lot), but I'd rather start with getting to know one another a bit first. Benjy Feen wrote a great piece on low stakes dates that I got from the OkCupid profile of a friend: http://benjyfeen.com/2008/11/12/low-stakes-first-dates/
Other Stuff: I've got a little bit of an obsession with 17th and 18th century keyboard music. I also love to read, and adore good writing. There is something intoxicating about language when it is used well. As for my work, I'm a statistician who has had a long career in mathematics and computing. When I was younger I did social work, I've taught mathematics at the university level, worked as a software engineer, a research scientist and as a statistician. These days I work for a game company.
Health and exercise are also very important to me and it would be great to find a partner who can also be a workout buddy, who is interested in exploring hiking and healthy living in general. I love to cook and share meals with friends and family.
O', and my username, "Random" is a playful reference to my profession.
Mathematics - I have an excessive number of degrees in math and statistics, it goes well with music ;-)
As for whether or not I'm really good at these things, take this as an aspirational list. I do my best.
The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell
In the Suicide Mountains by John Gardener
The Baron in the Trees by Italo Calvino
Dialogue Concerning the Two Chief World Systems by Galileo Galilei
Candide: Or, The Optimist by Voltaire
The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger
Inferno by Dante Alighieri
Birds of America by Mary McCarthy
Songs of Innocence and Experience by William Blake
Nights in Aruba by Andrew Holleran
Walden by Henry David Thoreau
The Hunting of the Snark by Lewis Carroll
Letters from the Earth by Mark Twain
The Quiet American by Graham Greene
Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus by Ludwig Wittgenstein
And I think that I already mentioned an obsessive fondness for 17th and 18th century music, particularly keyboard music.
Television shows. I don't actually watch a lot of TV, but I am inordinately fond of Dr. Who.