The values that matter to me most are affection, intimacy, personal connection, empathy, gentleness, friendship and love. Loving my community of friends and my family is a central part of who I am. I tend to maintain friendships for a very long time. I am still good friends with my two former partners, and they are very much a part of my family. A sense of play is also very important to me as well. I have a very active mind, a playful verbal and gentle sense of humor.
I am looking for a relationship with a man who shares these values. A man who is interested in building a life together, keeping a relationship alive with love, sex, and a sense of play, and who shares my commitment to a community of friends and family.
I'm a big believer in starting with low stakes dates, and not diving into a relationship too quickly. That means coffee, a walk, and talking to start. I love sex a lot (really, a lot), but I'd rather start with getting to know one another a bit first. Benjy Feen wrote a great piece on low stakes dates that I got from the OkCupid profile of a friend: http://benjyfeen.com/2008/11/12/low-stakes-first-dates/
Other Stuff: I've got a little bit of an obsession with 17th and 18th century keyboard music. I also love to read, and adore good writing. There is something intoxicating about language when it is used well. As for my work, I'm a statistician who has had a long career in mathematics and computing. When I was younger I did social work, I've taught mathematics at the university level, worked as a software engineer, a research scientist and as a statistician. These days I work for a game company.
Health and exercise are also very important to me and it would be great to find a partner who can also be a workout buddy, who is interested in exploring hiking and healthy living in general. I love to cook and share meals with friends and family.
O', and my username, "Random" is a playful reference to my profession.