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55 San Jose, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 38-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:06am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), C++ (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I love long walks on the beach with my girlfriend, until the LSD wears off and I realize I'm just dragging a stolen mannequin around a Wendy's parking lot.

*Myers-Briggs Type Indicator = INTJ "The Mastermind" (I've been told by women I shouldn't mention this)
*Enneagram Type Indicator = Four with a Five-Wing: "The Bohemian"
*For a straight guy I have incredible taste
*I can be moved to tears by art and music
*I never wear a watch
*I love fine tequila, English mustard and bittersweet chocolate (but not all together)
*I named my cat after my favorite sushi chef
*I’m a night owl
*I composed and invented the start up sound on your Macintosh...yup, that was me (somewhat) famous I guess...I was featured in a movie they made about it (No, not "Revenge of the Nerds")
*I'm learning how to play golf
* I play the piano (have a grand) and am also a photographer

*A woman who's confident enough to wear a hat is sexy
*It’s important to have your clothes tailored
*Take your own path (unless navigating a minefield)
*The truth is more compelling than fiction
*The best vacations are near warm waters and something ancient. (hopefully not your partner)
*Every culture has wonderful gifts
*Keep your heart and mind open
*Integrity, growth, and being supportive are key elements in any successful relationship
*The ideal date is where we are so engaged in getting to know each another we forget about the time and place

*I love a creative and unique woman with a gentle sense of herself and a kind heart
*A cat person and a night owl would be wonderful
*A woman, like me, who gets excited about learning, because that's how we stay young
*She understands there are many answers to the same question
*She is silly enough to laugh at ourselves and remind us not to take things too seriously
*The world is a big place and she should share my dream of exploring
*She is my "last first date"
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
searching for someone to share life with, maybe for a short while but hopefully much longer
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
eye lashes, mellow, dry sense of humor, brilliant (my dad tells me that all the time - he calls me sun)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh man...a few example from a very long list...

MUSIC: JS Bach; Brand X; Dave Brubeck; Kate Bush; Paula Cole; Conjure One; Dead Can Dance; Delerium; Earth, Wind & Fire; Enigma; Brian Eno; Everything But the Girl; Peter Gabriel; Genesis; Gentle Giant; Philip Glass; Grand Funk; Gypsy Kings; Kaskade; King Crimson; Kosheen; Daniel Lanois; Franz Liszt; Paco de Lucia; Massive Attack; Patrick O'Hearn; Mike Oldfield; Ozric Tentacles; Pink Floyd; Portishead; Steve Roach; Shpongle; David Sylvian; Tangerine Dream; Vangelis; Frank Zappa

FILMS: Fearless; Witness; Chasing Amy; The Professional; Jean de Florette; King of the Hill; Sex, Lies, and Videotape; Wings of Desire; Flesh and Bone; The Piano; Birdy; Crooked Hearts; The Hunger

TV: Jon Stewart, Bill Maher, Iron Chef, Discovery Channel, History Channel, Top Chef, Master Chef, Project Runway, American Pickers

HEROES: Archimedes, Leonardo da Vinci, Albert Einstein, Richard Feynman, Peter Drucker (I've been told this line is intimidating women because they wouldn't know who these people are and that women would be worried about not having something to talk about with me)

BOOKS: mostly non-fiction and mostly for research, sometimes history and art, if I want something for entertainment while on vacation a great sci-fi from the likes of Arthur C. Clarke and Orson Scott Card. Other books of interest have been Blink; Freakonomics; Path of Least Resistance; The Hidden Order of Art; The Way of Zen; The Four Agreements; Predictably Irrational; How to Think like Leonardo da Vinci; That's Not What I Meant; Now, Discover Your Strengths; Stranger in a Strange Land

FOOD: yes, everything! sushi/sashimi, soul food, oysters, P&J, pasta, steak diane, tapas in Barcelona, burger in San Jose, tacos in Mexico, pot roast from my kitchen
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music, vision, art, sex, air, water, honesty (oops, that's seven)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
making the best cocktail ever
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
trying to meet someone on-line has never worked for me, so why do I keep at it?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are looking to build a relationship based on integrity, chemistry, and life-long learning. A witty intellect and a deep sensuality. A sexy IQ/waist ratio. Communicates honestly and openly what you are thinking and feeling. Likes independent films. Loves food. Curious enough to experience new things two or three times. Laughs so hard a beverage may shoot out your nose. Enjoys a comfortable silence. Has a unique sense of style and not part of the cookie cutter standard. That devilish grin that says everything without words.