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30 F Ogdensburg, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–42
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 1
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
From my experience this is as far as most guys with this problem read. I will not respond favorably to requests for sexual favors.

I also hope that you're choosing to contact me because you think I'm an interesting person, not just a "pretty girl." "Pretty girl" is flattering and all...but terribly boring and uninspiring for conversation.

Now that that unpleasantness has been addressed, about me:

I like to read, it's my primary form of entertainment. Which I suppose is an occupational hazard of sorts. I enjoy reading fantasy books.
What makes me unique? Well, females who read these days are hardly unique...the fact I disdain the hardcore romance books is semi unique I suppose. I like listening to music or audio books. Hey, sometimes you have do do things that require your eyes and your hands but you still want to know what happens next! You can't leave your character hanging!
I enjoy cooking for other people.
I try to be a good respectable person, but we all have lapses. I'm not going to lie to you and say I'm an angel. You wouldn't believe me anyway...well, I hope not anyway.
I try to be generous and helpful. I take care of my friends and loved ones even if it handicaps me or makes my life harder.

My character flaws:
I can be quick to anger.
If you try hiding things from me or don't communicate well with me I will jump to the worst conclusion.
I talk to myself....which freaks people out sometimes.
I go into book withdraw occasionally which makes me short tempered and moody.
I'm not good with social interactions.
I've been informed that not drinking is a character flaw, but whatever.
I can be clingy.
Not sure if this is a character flaw, but...I am highly invested in my job. I love my job and I like being an hour early there.
I have high standards.
I occasionally have double standards...though I try to beat these down as they aren't fair.
I am snotty as all hell if you are a bigot of any kind. I will mock your ignorance and close-mindedness.

Anyway, you have been warned...

If you're a guy and you read, you should definitely contact me just so I can rejoice in the fact that there are guys who still read. You're a dying breed.

What I'm looking for in a guy is someone who is at least as intelligent as myself. I want to be able to talk to you. If I try having a basic conversation and I get the blank stare of incomprehension or single word answers (unless its a yes or no question) there's a good chance I'm going to be bored. I'm sorry, I'm seeking someone to share my life with, not a trophy boyfriend or a penis with legs.

Beyond that there's the basic requirements (reliability, trustworthiness, good sense of humor), but the ability to talk with you and share things and not have to break them down into single syllable concepts is a big thing.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day. the meaning of life. Get frustrated that it does in fact equal 42.

Bonus points for those who get the reference.
Double bonus points for those who knew it from the book and not the movie.

And a pat on the head as a consolation prize for those who are totally lost.

Move to the next section, if you dare...*dramatic music plays dramatically*
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Geeze, what do I think I'm good at? I'm a fair listener, good at massages, fair writer and I think I'm funny. What you'll think I'm good at is anyone's guess.

See, that one wasn't too're doing great if you've made it this far. Read on!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People rarely notice me in my opinion. I think I'm a meat interface for them to get something relative to me (i.e. - "The computer isn't working." or "I cannot find [title of book or more usual DVD]." *Expectant look means "could you help me find it?"*)

The first thing new people usually comment on is a pretty little turtle necklace I have. I've also been told a couple times that I have a very nice smile.

My favorite thing about me is my eyes. I think they're very pretty. I'm just getting mundane aren't I? Move along. A+ for getting this far!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
It'd be easier to list authors than books. My current favorite authors include: Terry Pratchett, Kat Richardson, Jim Butcher, Deborah Harkness, Christopher Stasheff, Arthur Conan Doyle, Patrick Rothfuss, Scott Lynch, Larry Correia, Sergei Lukyanenko and Ilona Andrews.

I do not own a television that will get any programs, but mostly if it isn't reality TV I'll watch it.

Music is anything with a good beat and/or inspired lyrics. Inspired lyrics are not about how much money the singer had or who he/she did last. Inspired lyrics are things that move you. Inspired songs are ones that even if you don't know the language you have some sense of what they're talking about.

There sure are a lot of words on this page aren't there? Maybe you can add this to your summer reading achievements?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Uh....okay, well, there's the obvious ones.
* Food,
* Water,
* Sleep,
* Shelter,
* Heat/fire,
* Air.

Then there's the, "I'm a spoiled individual from an industrial society."
* Electricity,
* Plumbing,
* Technology,
* Literature,
* Music,
* My Kindle.

This girl keeps harping about reading doesn't she? She's a total NERD! But you must like nerds because you've made it this far on her read on!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Random things. Like the sounds/shapes/sensations words make in my head. What does chartreuse look like? (Not the physical color, the sound.) Does rain really have a smell? Why is licorice black when to me it tastes more brownish purple? Who decided that that red stuff tastes like cherries...did they ever have a cherry? What about the purple stuff? That's no grape I ever tasted.

Okay, that section was trippy....and to think she doesn't even take any non-prescription drugs. Next section...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably reading, or listening to audio books, making dinner, chatting with someone, pretend dancing with a pretend partner to real music...

Hey, don't knock it, I never step on his toes and he never laughs at me for being a klutz, we have a very good relationship as far as that goes.

For those of you now frightened, move along, it was a joke and there's nothing more to see in this section.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In the words of Inigo Montoya, “You keep using that word, I do not think it means what you think it means.”

If it's PRIVATE, by definition, it's not something I would share on a PUBLIC profile.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You feel like it. Especially if you have read the entire profile and still feel like you'd like to get to know me better.

If you want to chat, we can and see if we make a good match.

Don't expect an automatic meeting, I'll want to talk on here for a few days at least. :-) If this is unacceptable to you, I'm not your type.

If you are going to get bent out of shape about that and say, "but that's the whole reason for being on one of these sites." Well, maybe it is for you and that's fine for you. If you want to have a chance with me you'll respect that. If you don't want to have a chance with me then why are you bitching in the first place?