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RayFlower

30 Oslo, Norway Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 19–39
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on university
Job
Unemployed
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Okay), Norwegian (Fluently), Swedish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm not perfect. Yes, I have read enough profiles on this page the last six years to know that you all say that, but I genuinely feel that in no other case is that an accurate assessment, than in my very own case.

What can I say, I'm a shy, introverted and quiet man from Norway, I have a severe social anxiety disorder and borderline PTSD. When It comes to this, I'd like to be abundantly clear that this is something I refuse to be ashamed of, so I hope this will be sufficient to repel the potential bigots out there.

That said, in the spare time I make closet music at home. However, I do spend most of my time at the University in Oslo where I study History, where, if I may say so, I'm doing significantly better than my peers. What I lack in social abilities I surly make up tenfolds in my intellectual capacity.

I regard myself as a bit conservative when it comes to relationships, I don't approve of polygamy or one night stands, or whatever's "in" these days. I am extremely loyal, and I expect the same trust in return. Some say that makes me extremely patronizing, I take that as a compliment if thats what the world has come to these days.

I'm looking for someone that can connect with me, someone who is capable of having a platonic conversation, someone who is kind and patient and thoughtful, someone willing to commit for life. I don't really mind where you are from, I like to think I can get along with everyone, and being different is something I regard as a positive trait.

I can't stand sports, the only thing that I find less interesting and more repulsive than Football is Royal weddings.

***This profile is a mess, I'm usually pretty good with words, I do apologise in advance... almost.***
What I’m doing with my life
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These days I spend most of my time in the faculty of the humanities studying History, and there isn't anything else in the entire world that I would like to do more than what I'm doing right now. I want to become a researcher, or a teacher which is a nice thing to fall back on if I don't make it.
I have a fair interest in music making but this has certainly become a neglected priority due to my studies,

As i mentioned, i like to play guitar and make closet music in my own privacy.
Other than that i do keep a interest in politics, and I'm strongly opposed to discrimination in any from.

I also try to work out 2 hours a day, biking about 30KM so i can one day look normal.

I also spend a LOT of time thinking and interacting with cats, some people find it scary or disturbing, but I can't help it, put a cat in front of me and I'm 8 years old all over again <3
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
You'll be the first to know once I find out...
The first things people usually notice about me
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*Very nervous and shy, except when people think I'm confident, which says a good deal about how flawed human perception is.

*my hair, my appearance, my weak high pitched voice.

*I hate conflict, aggression and arguments, intimidation does not render your points any less void of validity. However I really appreciate a constructive and fair debate or a discussion.The goal as far as I'm concerned is deliberation, where every side of the issue needs to be illuminated and scrutinised if necessary.

*And I have a dead nerve in my left eye which results in me looking a bit disturbed when i try to look to the left and only my right eye moves!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies:
Passion of the christ, The Deer Hunter, Taxi Driver, Patton, All the Presidents men, the Omen, One flew over the Cuckoo's nest, Serpico, Dog Days Afternoon, Ben Hur, Blood Diamond, Casino, Columbus circle, 12 angry men, The American, Zodiac, Once upon a time in the west, ATM, The Samaritan, Tall Man, Changing Lanes, House of cards, Emperor, Deadfall, Reservoir dogs, Doctor Who, A gang story, Jackie Brown, Good Will Hunting.

As you can probably tell, I'm a big fan of Dramas and Thrillers from the 1970s, it was then that the art of narration in screenplays was perfected, everything created since is a mere footnote to their groundbreaking achievements. I could say the same about music.

I'm not really a movie expert, but if you actually have taste, and don't like the gore porn of contemporary movies and you'd like to have someone to the theatres with and reflect upon it over a cup of tea, or whatever beverage you'd prefer, I'd be glad to accompany you.

Also, I really liked American Horror Show season two: Asylum

Music:
The Mars Volta,Genesis,Opeth,The Mars Volta,Dream Theater,Radiohead,Hiromi Uehara,The sound of animals fighting,Miles Davis,Pain Of salvation,Pink Floyd,Neil Morse,Porcupine Tree,Red Hot CHilli Peppers,Led Zeppelin,The Doors,Tool,The Fall Of troy,Jeff Beck,Deer Hunter,Rage against the Machine, The Beetles,Spock's Beard,Guthrie Govan,King Crimson,Peal Jam,RadioHead,Between the Buried and Me,CosmoSquad.

Oh yes, and I despise black metal, I have a hard time seeing anything professional in that genre.

Food:
Sallad,pasta,Foccasia.

Books:
The metamorphosis - Franz Kafka
A peoples history of the united states - Howard Zin
Sult - Knut Hamsun
Naken - Sigbjørn Obstfelder
Where eagles dare - Alistair MacLean
Bygmester Solnes - Henrik Ibsen
Spiraler - Dag Solstad
Pigen på anatomomi kameret - Henrik Wergeland
Smeden og Bageren - Johan Herman Wessel
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Guitars.
My Macbook Pro
My Cat
Social Democracy
Internet
Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I do spend an adequate amount of time thinking about how civilizations arose and fell, which social and environmental factors were involved and what sort of framework their thoughts centered around. Fortunately I am in a good position to explore these questions as I'm studying it.

And the fact that we are not as civilised as we might think we are. While we condemn other cultures where rape is a socially accepted form of punishment and disobedience is rewarded with torture and execution. We indulge ourselves in a violent modern culture that portrays the exact same things, effectively stimulating the lizard brain, and I can not for the life of me, think of a more fitting definition of ‘Perverse’.

That the nature of this dating site is one of self deception, we know we are rated by people who most likely take one look at our profile photo, rendering this whole site a shallow beauty contest. So instead of uploading picture portraying how we really are, we chose pictures, from that one angle that makes us look okay or even pretty. Why I'm playing along with this, I do not know, but it does make me sick when I think about it.

Philosophy, I have a deep fascination of Immanuel Kant deontology, after having read his metaphysics of morals I have started to view just about anything in a new light.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The same thing i do everyday, reading books, studying history, biking 30 kilometers. I am not a party person at all.
I do spend a lot of time "composing" but my skills are not very good, i have a hard time to make anything interesting for more than 1-2 minutes.
I guess it would be easier if i didn't have to be the composer,arranger,producer or whatever, sometimes my creativity falls victim to my self doubt too, i have a lot of projects that are more or less just a few seconds which was a phrase i thought would be a good idea but pretty much dies after that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Im sort of overweight.

I don't know how comfortable i am rating people based on profiles and profile pictures.

I would prefer if you didn't slurp your tea or talk with food in your mouth.

I can't stand pot heads, so sue me.

I also feel that I've chosen the wrong instrument, sometimes we don't get along very well. Maybe I would be better off playing the piano, I love the instrument, I just don't have enough time to develop my skills on two instruments.

I do have a soundcloud, It is entirely dedicated to the art of amputechture: https://soundcloud.com/kattenmaler

I'm extremely loyal, so when someone abuses that trust and plays games I get very disappointed and sad. Which qualifies me as a 'needy person', if you consider that a vice, Read no further please...

Some might say it's foolish to trust your partner 100%, but I disagree I think trust is a sacred virtue that you just don't mess around with. If you've previously been unfaithful don't expect to gain my trust.

I used to say: "I'd rather be disappointed than be cynical."

I consider myself a 'none practicing atheist", meaning, I do not believe in god however I will not try to convince anyone to leave their god, after all thats what secularism is about. Although I reject a deities moral authority as clearly invalid, I am still a moral absolutist, that said; I am still fascinated with the actual ethics in certain religions who's maxims can stand up to even the most intense philosophical scrutiny.
You should message me if
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If we're a match I'd like to take you for a date, but we need to get acquainted first, I'm not the kind of guy that just jumps out in it.

If you think we have something in common to talk about, and don't bother talking to me if you have condescending views on less fortunate groups of people in society: like the poor, socially inept or unemployable people.

After too many years on this site I find many of you insufferably elitist, expecting top grade literature but you only offer a shallow excuse for a conversation in return. So lets break that platonic yardstick once and for all, a simple 'Hi' will do just fine.

Or.. Let's just talk about cats.