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My details

Last online
Nov 26
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 4" (1.93m)
Body Type
Used up
Special Diet
Atheism but it’s not important
Working on University
Might want kids
English (Somewhat), Norwegian (Fluently), Swedish (Somewhat), Latin (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Verdens snilleste gutt, fører en asketisk livsførsel søker derfor en likesinnet filosofisk anlagt kvinne, kommer best overens med kvinner som følger deontologisk retning, kan til nød komme overens med stoikere. Vennligst ingen eksistensialister.

I'm a shy and introverted man from Norway, I have a severe social anxiety disorder and PTSD. When It comes to this, I'd like to be abundantly clear that this is something I refuse to be ashamed of, so I hope this will be sufficient to repel the potential bigots out there.

I am in no sense a push over though, I demand respect and I give it back in great abundance. Reciprocity is a principle i practice in absolute terms, I would under no circumstances assert dominance over someone or submit to a position of inferiority. Moreover I am incredibly polite, relatively unbiased sources have characterised me as sympathetic and fair. I take pride in my integrity and I have a well articulated sense of what is right and what is wrong.

Due to my severe wasp and bee allergies, I loathe the summers, but I love the winters and autumn.

That said, in the spare time I make closet music at home. None of my musician friends are particularly fund of collaborating musically in any worthwhile extent, so while it is in no way a prerequisite, finding a partner that is skilled at playing an instrument would be a bonus as that is a very rewarding intellectual pursuit.

However, I do spend most of my time at the University in Oslo where I study History, as a minor I take The history of ideas which moderately satisfies my philosophical interest.

I regard myself as a bit conservative when it comes to relationships, I don't approve of polygamy or one night stands. It's not that I think any less of people who tend to be liberal in that regard, I don't, It's just that we wont be compatible. I am extremely loyal, and I expect the same trust in return. Some say that makes me extremely patronising, an accusation I remain indifferent towards.

I'm looking for someone that can connect with me, someone who is capable of having a platonic conversation, someone who is kind and patient and thoughtful, someone willing to commit for life. I don't really mind where you are from, I like to think I can get along with everyone, and being different is something I regard as a positive trait. I am first and foremost attracted to your personality, your achievements or lack of, while certainly important in their own regard, does not influence my romantic estimation of a person, besides it is a poor indicator of a persons integrity or dignity. Intelligence is a non-romantic prerequisite for a relationship as far as I'm concerned, vulgar bigotry, wilful ignorance and vanity are characterises whom I am severely allergic towards.

Politically I swing left, but not all the way. You may interpret this how you wish, or even better, ask me;) But certain keywords would help: equality of sexes and equality of opportunity. Which roughly translates to distributive justice and feminism.

I've lived all my life in Norway, but when it comes to communication my mastery of the English language is far better than Norwegian as it is the language I think and dream in. How this happened, I am not certain, but I regard it as a strength, albeit an oddity.
What I’m doing with my life
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These days I spend most of my time in the faculty of the humanities studying History, and there isn't anything else in the entire world that I would like to do more than what I'm doing right now. I want to become a researcher, or a teacher which is a nice thing to fall back on if I don't make it.
I have a fair interest in music making but this has certainly become a neglected priority due to my studies,

As i mentioned, i like to play guitar and make closet music in my own privacy.
Other than that i do keep a interest in politics, and I'm strongly opposed to discrimination in any from.

I'm somewhat of an workoutaholic nowadays, I prefer to bike in the night or in the early morning. I tend to ride 70-230km a week. I am quite obesse, in such a way that does not show on a selfie. If would be nice to spend the rest of eternity with a woman that also enjoys working out regularly. If you'd like someone to accompany you on a bike ride, count me in.

That I'm a freak of nature, my mind was made for this kind of society, apt at contemplation and deep mediation on the most esoteric of subjects whilst my body was made for another, the modern life is the ultimate neglect for this kind of body. It is an impossible balance to keep.

I also spend a LOT of time thinking and interacting with cats, some people find it scary or disturbing, but I can't help it, put a cat in front of me and I'm 8 years old all over again <3
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
You'll be the first to know once I find out...

Being consistently poor and occasionally brilliant.
The first things people usually notice about me
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*Very nervous and shy, except when people think I'm confident, which says a good deal about how flawed human perception is.

*my hair, my appearance, my weak high pitched voice.

*I hate conflict, aggression and arguments, intimidation does not render your points any less void of validity. However I really appreciate a constructive and fair debate or a discussion.The goal as far as I'm concerned is deliberation, where every side of the issue needs to be illuminated and scrutinised if necessary.

*And I have a dead nerve in my left eye which results in me looking a bit disturbed when i try to look to the left and only my right eye moves!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Passion of the christ, The Deer Hunter, Taxi Driver, Patton, All the Presidents men, the Omen, One flew over the Cuckoo's nest, Serpico, Dog Days Afternoon, Ben Hur, Blood Diamond, Casino, Columbus circle, 12 angry men, The American, Zodiac, Once upon a time in the west, ATM, The Samaritan, Tall Man, Changing Lanes, House of cards, Emperor, Deadfall, Reservoir dogs, Doctor Who, A gang story, Jackie Brown, Good Will Hunting.

As you can probably tell, I'm a big fan of Dramas and Thrillers from the 1970s, it was then that the art of narration in screenplays was perfected, everything created since is a mere footnote to their groundbreaking achievements. I could say the same about music.

I'm not really a movie expert, but if you actually have taste, and don't like the gore porn of contemporary movies and you'd like to have someone to the theatres with and reflect upon it over a cup of tea, or whatever beverage you'd prefer, I'd be glad to accompany you.

Also, I really liked American Horror Show season two: Asylum

The Mars Volta,Genesis,Opeth,The Mars Volta,Dream Theater,Radiohead,Hiromi Uehara,The sound of animals fighting,Miles Davis,Pain Of salvation,Pink Floyd,Neil Morse,Porcupine Tree,Red Hot CHilli Peppers,Led Zeppelin,The Doors,Tool,The Fall Of troy,Jeff Beck,Deer Hunter,Rage against the Machine, The Beetles,Spock's Beard,Guthrie Govan,King Crimson,Peal Jam,RadioHead,Between the Buried and Me,CosmoSquad.

Oh yes, and I despise black metal, I have a hard time seeing anything professional in that genre.


Jean Jacques Rousseau - The Social Contract
Aristotle - Politics
A peoples history of the united states - Howard Zin
Sult - Knut Hamsun
Naken - Sigbjørn Obstfelder
Pigen på anatomomi kameret - Henrik Wergeland
Smeden og Bageren - Johan Herman Wessel
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A safe environment is imperative for my continued survival, when you have lived with existential problems for most of your life you quickly realise just how trivial everything else is.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I do spend an adequate amount of time thinking about how civilizations arose and fell, which social and environmental factors were involved and what sort of framework their thoughts centered around. Fortunately I am in a good position to explore these questions as I'm studying it.

How the nordic model has decimated the class segregated society and created a monster, an all encompassing middle class, so withdrawn from the reality of the rest of the world that they can not for the life of them recognise huger, destitution and injustice if they had it right in front of them. The spirit of postwar international solidarity died the moment our ability to make a difference in the world became a possibility.

The fact that we are not as civilised as we might think. While we condemn other cultures where rape is a socially accepted form of punishment and disobedience is rewarded with torture and execution. We indulge ourselves in a violent modern culture that portrays the exact same things, effectively stimulating the lizard brain, and I can not for the life of me, think of a more fitting definition of ‘Perverse’.

That the nature of this dating site is one of self deception, we know we are rated by people who most likely take one look at our profile photo, rendering this whole site a shallow beauty contest. So instead of uploading picture portraying how we really are, we chose pictures, from that one angle that makes us look okay or even pretty. Why I'm playing along with this, I do not know, but it does make me sick when I think about it.

Philosophy, I have a deep fascination of Immanuel Kant deontology, after having read his metaphysics of morals I have started to view just about anything in a new light. Nowadays I'm in a Aristotelian mood, as much of his philosophy is obsolete now(except from the communitarian aspects of it), it is still a valuable tool to understand the antique mindset.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The same thing i do everyday, reading books, studying history, biking 30 kilometers. I am not a party person at all.
I do spend a lot of time "composing" but my skills are not very good, i have a hard time to make anything interesting for more than 1-2 minutes.
I guess it would be easier if i didn't have to be the composer,arranger,producer or whatever, sometimes my creativity falls victim to my self doubt too, i have a lot of projects that are more or less just a few seconds which was a phrase i thought would be a good idea but pretty much dies after that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Im sort of overweight.

I don't know how comfortable i am rating people based on profiles and profile pictures.

I would prefer if you didn't slurp your tea or talk with food in your mouth.

I can't stand pot heads, so sue me.

I also feel that I've chosen the wrong instrument, sometimes we don't get along very well. Maybe I would be better off playing the piano, I love the instrument, I just don't have enough time to develop my skills on two instruments.

I'm extremely loyal, so when someone abuses that trust and plays games I get very disappointed and sad. Which qualifies me as a 'needy person', if you consider that a vice, Read no further please... Although I should probably add that I need a lot of space to cultivate my solitary interests.

Some might say it's foolish to trust your partner 100%, but I disagree I think trust is a sacred virtue that you just don't mess around with. If you've previously been unfaithful don't expect to gain my trust.

I used to say: "I'd rather be disappointed than be cynical."

I consider myself a 'none practicing atheist", meaning, I do not believe in god however I will not try to convince anyone to leave their god, after all thats what secularism is about. Although I reject a deities moral authority as clearly invalid, I am still a moral absolutist, that said; I am still fascinated with the actual ethics in certain religions who's maxims can stand up to even the most intense philosophical scrutiny.
You should message me if
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If you're an adulteress, please don't contact me.

I'm primarily looking for a romantic relationship, I'm not fond of being 'friend zoned' so please don't wast my time if you have no intentions of developing a serious relationship.

Men can be shy too, so if you're interested you could consider the possibility of sending me a message me first, after all, a fair lot of you don't even bother replying. To the possibility that you might be interested, I can not read minds.

If you can make an effort to keep to keep the conversation alive. To tell the truth more often than not it feels like I'm talking to a con artist and not a serious person when I converse with people here. It is most disappointing.

In the prospect of meeting up I should stress that It is necessary to spent some times communicating before that can happen. Once the adequate connection is made such a meeting can take place.

Respect that what I want is a strictly monogamous relationship, there is nothing more insulting than someone trying to talk you into an open relationship when you have clearly stated that this is something you do not want.

I prefer to talk with people who have some sort of chronic and debilitating illness, We do in fact live in entierly different worlds.

Binge watching movies and series on netflix is the most depressing activity in the world, it is not how I'd like to spend a weekend with a partner.

If you think categorising people into submissive and dominant is just plain stupid.

I do not do 'small talk' please dont' have the audacity to get offended just because i dont.

The legitimacy of my illness is beyond reproach, I do not have time to explain mental illness to the wilfully ignorant and the mentally inept. Thus I place certain requirements on intelligence and empathy, do no worry though, it will be richly returned.

I do NOT use facebook, I disabled my account one year ago and it is indeed a decision I do not regret.

If you think we have something in common. Don't bother talking to me if you have condescending views on less fortunate groups of people in society: like the poor, socially inept or unemployable people. In that regard, Im on a disability allowance, if you dont like that, take your leave.

After too many years on this site I find many of you insufferably elitist, expecting top grade literature but you only offer a shallow excuse for a conversation in return. So lets break that platonic yardstick once and for all, a simple 'Hi' will do just fine. Let's be realistic, if you haven't bothered to write anything substantial in your profile expecting an essay is just foolish.

Or.. Let's just talk about cats.