A kinda-sorta lone wolf (and to clarify, that's what the 'L' branded on my forehead means ;) And to clarify further, the aforesaid 'L' word could be approximately expounded as an "Extroverted Introvert" or something, I dunno. Feel free to figure that out for yourself.

I am actually quite outgoing, only when I choose to be. I do like to keep my identity in a crowd (pretty easy, 'round these parts :), even as I love being around people. I am mostly a stay-in guy 5-6 evenings a week. And when I go out, I am mostly satisfied by just heading to a small dive and getting a drink or two, enough to head home and get a good night's sleep (usually that's all I need, I am VERY easy to please/satisfy).

As for what I'm looking for, I would like to meet up with an intelligent, attractive female for companionship, intelligent/idiosyncratic conversation, intimacy, and to be partners-in-rhyme towards pursuit of activities of mutual interest.

(P.S.:- In real life, I am far less starchy than what I come across in writing :-) When I write, I tend to shoot out fancy words sometimes, but hell, hang with me here... I'm a-workin' on it)

I just turned 37 (mid-March), divorced 4 1/2 years back, no kids in- or out-of-wedlock... but definitely someday. Have a roof over my head (that I have to pay in time for), a car, a Masters Degree, recent lay-offee (no financial worries anytime soon... mama didn't raise THAT much of a fool ;). Nowadays, an admittedly happy life (or, like I once, defined to a friend, I'm in a "Rut of Contentment" :).... but I've always been pretty even-tempered to begin with. Now is that a good thing? Especially in these zany times..... I wonder.....

Initiating and Sustaining a conversation, verbal sparring, keepin' up a literally non-stop flow of humorous two-cents, Music Trivia, coming up with mighty dastardly fillers in Mad Libs, Recycling (ask me how little I end up throwing into the garbage), being an Attention whore when the mood strikes (especially at karaoke).
Talent wise, I am pretty good at singing. I tend to shock strangers not already familiar with my skillz (especially if we had a conversation beforehand... they're like, "Dude, you don't sound anything like you talk!!!"). I am pretty well-known in the KC karaoke circuit. Besides this, I tend to do above-average-okay in sketching/doodling, writing, debating. I Barely get by on strumming a guitar, some drums, and a few other things I forgot.

For the general populace, it would be my Easy smile and put-you-at-ease demeanor (unless they're feeling especially patriotistical and are giving me the wary once-over). As far as eligible women are concerned, it would be the oversized "Friend" tattoo on my forehead.

(a) I no longer read novels/ books since I hardly have the time (nor the attention span). However, I am a voracious reader of Liberal blogs and consider myself an independent thinker mostly (means, I am open to any idea, just give me a rational explanation for your actions, belief, and thought processes, rather than try to thump me upside the head with something that some supposedly-holy old book says).

(b) I watch movies, almost always on DVD, more often than not a few years (or decades) after release. That sad state is evidenced in my tardiness is discovering some of my current favorites... The Big Lebowski, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Big Fish, Blues Brothers, Shaun Of The Dead, Groundhog Day, Love Actually (all in the past couple of years). I generally like musicals, reality/fantasy mash-ups, buddy action flicks, Animated fantasies, Coen Brothers, Kevin Smith... heck, even the Farrelleys can be tolerated over beer. I do hold an affection for exuberant black Gospel (try 'The Fighting Temptations', 'The Ladykillers', and of course, 'The Blues Brothers'). Not that keen on creepy Horror or loony Artsy flicks that seem to drag on for half the day within their 80 minute runtime... sorry, not willing to try THAT hard to seem nerdy-smart :)

However, all said and done, I can sit thru pretty much anything, in the right company. And that includes, drumroll please.... Chick Flicks. Yaaayyyy ! There, I said it !!!

(c) Whoa. The proverbial can o' worms just got opened, eh? Well, before I overload the okcupid server, let me refrain myself with some generalizations while name-checking some core constituents. First of all, I listen to most kinds of music. I could even stand Country and Gangsta, for about 10 minutes straight. As for preferences, I veer towards Classic Rock (think Aerosmith, Grand Funk, Hendrix, Doobie Bros.), The Beatles (The Beatles, duhh:), Monsters of Rock (Zeppelin/Sabbath/Purple), the 80's (Don't. even. get. me. started.), Classic British Heavy metal (Iron Maiden, Judas Priest), the Blues (Keb' Mo', Gatemouth Brown, Kenny Wayne Shepherd, BB King, SRV, Cream, Yardbirds), Singer/Songwriters (Joni Mitchell, Brice Springsteen, Alanis Morissette, Carly Simon, Neil Young), Classic Motown (Aretha Franklin, Supremes, Temptations, Stevie Wonder), Funk: Black & White (Sly & The Family Stone, Parliament/Funkadelic, 311, Red Hot Chili Peppers), Grunge (Alice In Chains, Soundgarden), Celts/Irish Rockers (Loreena McKennitt, Enya, Hothouse Flowers, U2), Weirdos (Gwar, Primus, Hayseed Dixie, Mojo & Skid, Mr. Yankovic, The Bloodhound Gang).

(d) I have always been the most non-fussy eater, my dear mom got pretty lucky in that dept when I was growing up. When I eat out, I can pretty much do it all, except one place, whose food did gross me out bad (they are no longer in business, go figure.). I do cook (and clean up after myself), and I am fairly decent at it. A major jones for Indian Food remains the last major bastion of my Indian-ness. But I'll be happy to quaff anything from Thai to Mac N'Cheese, to culinary "experiments".

Music (seriously, I can't do without it), (Any) type of reading / info / knowledge enhancing material, The Internet, sleep, Air+Water+Food (well, duuuh..), Love & affection (if you've ever been in love, you know what you lose once it's gone)

A LOT of time? On nothing, I guess. For a little time? A LOT of things.

If not out hanging at a karaoke bar or visiting with friends, or checking out live bands, I'll be home, working on stuff, doing chores, listening to music, learning to sing a new song, or watching a DVD, and sleeping off a stressful work-week.

Despite any outward impression I give with regards to my Confidence level and extroversion, I can't make a decent "First Move" to save my damn life.
Now, as far as responding to a First move from you? Let's just say that I'd probably be one of the easiest guys to approach, talk to and get acquainted with.

You like what you read, and would like to know more. Or you just can't wait to tell me what a great dude and/or dipshit I am.