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Readmartin

49 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 39–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:04pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Taurus, and it matters a lot
Education
University
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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ME
A deep, intelligent, loyal, affectionate, tough (and tender) guy--earthy but sophisticated--whose passions are editing quality motion pictures, being an active dad to my 7 yr old son and staying fit and healthy. I am sensual and have a healthy attitude with regards to my sexuality. This doesn't make me a player (I'm monogamous not poly), just a Taurus who skews more European than typical American.

GOOD SUN SIGN MATCHES FOR ME:
Virgo, Capricorn, Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio (or on cusp of same).

ENNEAGRAM NUMBER:
6 "The Loyalist" with a 5-Wing "The Defender"

LIKES:
Children, quality movies/tv, kissing, whole organic food, underdogs, water, real folks, wit, joy, tomboys, curly hair, deep divers, trampoline-ing, iconoclastic thinkers, skipping 'round the lake, affection, those who have one's back, stop-motion animation (Ardman), hikes, mavericks, fine craftsmanship, frozen blueberries, great books, order, bucking at propriety, high culture, plays, big hearts, making love, routine, scatological humor, british tv, minimalism, tapioca, random kindness, women with strong male energy, egalitarian relationships, good Samaritans, women with husky voices, encouragement of self-reliance, old folks who've lived, film noir, unique voices/accents.

DISLIKES:
Harming children, pretension, cravenly commercial films, marketing (aside from that done with a basket), consumption that harms the planet, greed, phonies, poor quality goods, fair weather "friends", legal rackets, plastic bags, travel junkies, shiners-on, food with a million ingredients, comic books/movies, the notion of fashion, identity politics, most churches and groups, party thinking, propriety, green-washing marketing, the increasing leverage of the 1%, encouraging street panhandling by giving change, knives in the back, putting on airs, crocodile smiles, video games, skin color bias, indirect people, urban folks with big dogs, PC "thinkers" and, of course, MORE!

THOSE WHO SHOULD SKIP ME:
Women who live > 10 miles from Lake Merritt; women who ID as Catholic and/or bisexual; the religious, conformists and the conventional; women who set out to have a child without a father; women who have moved away (out of state or country) from their child's father; women who would otherwise minimize a father's role in a child's life; women who would not date someone with Herpes (HSV-2).

REMEMBER:
The Golden Rule.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Editing, playing with my 7 yr old son, preparing and eating healthy food, skipping around Lake Merritt, watching quality motion pictures.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
wit, affection, kissing, massaging, being real, playing with young children, analyzing, having your back
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Guts. Handsome. Then, after they know me, sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
FAVORITE BOOKS, MOVIES, SHOWS, MUSIC, AND FOOD
TV: THE WIRE, FOYLE'S WAR, BLEAK HOUSE (2005), BREAKING BAD, HOUSE OF CARDS, ALPHA HOUSE, POIROT, THE WAY WE LIVE NOW, DOWNTON ABBEY, WALLANDER, TOP OF THE LAKE, LITTLE DORRIT (2008), IN TREATMENT, THE KILLING, THE WALKING DEAD
MOVIES: ALL IS LOST, THE CELEBRATION, CRIMES AND MISDEMEANORS, THE HUNT. Too many others to mention (Film Noir and Westerns are fav genres). Favorite stars: Laurel & Hardy, Mitchum, Stewart, Johanssen, Knotts, Wayne, Davis, Kitchen, Hopkins, Cagney, Watts, Crowe, Peck, Stanwick, J. Crawford, Ladd, Scott, McQueen, Allen, Hoffman, Cluzet, Redgrave, Makkelson, Redford, 3 Stooges.
Authors: Conrad, Chandler, Roth, Bellow, Elliot, Kundera
Food: Blueberries, Black Tahini, Red Bell Peppers, Celery, Buckwheat pancakes
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my son, water, whole food, good shelter, kissing/lovemaking, quality motion pictures
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A multitude of things philosophical, spiritual but, most of all, practical. Motion pictures I'm working on or viewing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I have my son and sometimes I am free for grownup activities.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm very open--ask me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have read my profile, are available, are intrigued, believe in meeting in real life (sooner than later) and actively practice the Golden Rule.