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49 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 39–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Taurus, and it matters a lot
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a deep, intelligent, loyal, affectionate, tough (and tender) guy--earthy but sophisticated--whose passions are editing quality motion pictures and being an active dad to my 8 yr old son. I am fit and sensual and have a healthy attitude with regards to my sexuality. This doesn't, however make me a player (I'm monogamous not poly.)

Children, quality movies/tv, kissing, whole organic food, baseball, underdogs, Charlie Hebdo, water, directness, wit, joy, tomboys, curly hair, deep divers, trampoline-ing, iconoclastic thinkers, affection, those who have one's back, clay-mation (vs. computer animation), mavericks, fine craftsmanship, great books, order, bucking at propriety, high culture, routine, plays, big hearts, making love, scatological humor, minimalism, random kindness, women with strong male energy, egalitarian relationships, good Samaritans, women with husky voices, self-reliance, old folks who've lived, unique voices/accents, and MORE!

Harming children, pretension, cravenly commercial films, marketing (except with a basket), religion, consumption that harms the planet, greed, phonies, poor quality goods, rackets (legal and illegal), plastic bags, travel junkies, food with a million ingredients, comic book movies, the notion of fashion, identity politics, party thinking, propriety, green-washing marketing, the increasing leverage of the 1%, encouraging panhandling by giving change, knives in the back, pretension, video games (save Minecraft), skin color bias, indirectness, urban folks with huge dogs, PC "thinkers", the term "people of color" and--I promise, not too many--MORE!

The religious, conformists and the mainstream-conventional. Those who live > 10 miles from Lake Merritt (I'm a bike traveler.) Those who would minimize a father's role in a child's life.

(Yes, I proudly use this ancient tool of natural science.)
In--or on the cusp of (or with significant planets in)
Virgo, Pisces, Scorpio, Cancer, Aries, Capricorn

6 "The Loyalist" with a 5-Wing "The Defender"

Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Motion picture/sound editing, coaching/playing ball with my 8 yr old son, preparing and eating healthy food, doing the Cascade stairs @ Lake Merritt, watching quality motion pictures.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Affection, wit, kissing, massaging, being real, playing with children, analyzing, having your back
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Down-to-earth attractiveness/fitness. Then--after they spend some time with me--warmth and sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
TV: The Wire, The Bridge (Scandi), Bleak House (05), Duchess of Duke Street, The Walking Dead, Breaking Bad, House of Cards, Top of the Lake, The Way We Live Now, Wallander (Scandi more but Brit too), Alpha House, Poirot, The Killing, In Treatment, To Serve Them All My Days and MORE!
MOVIES: All is Lost, The Celebration, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Tootsie, The Hunt and too many classics to mention (Film Noir and Westerns are fav genres). Favorite stars: Laurel & Hardy, Mitchum, Stewart, Johanssen, Knotts, Wayne, Davis, Kitchen, Hopkins, Cagney, Watts, Crowe, Peck, Stanwick, J. Crawford, Ladd, Scott, McQueen, Allen, Hoffman, Cluzet, Redgrave, Makkelson, Redford, 3 Stooges.
AUTHORS: Conrad, Chandler, Roth, Bellow, Elliot, Kundera
MUSIC: Stones, Springsteen, Bee-Gees, Van Morrison, Marvin Gaye, Parton, George Jones, Willie Nelson, Counting Crows, Rufus Wainwright, Kristofferson, Mountain Music, Show Tunes
FOOD: Ketogenic, Gluten-free, Dairy-free, Grain-free, Apples, Blueberries, Chicken, Black Sesame Seeds, Celery, Arugula, Macademia nut pancakes
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my son, water, whole food, good shelter, physical play, quality motion pictures
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A multitude of things philosophical, spiritual but, most of all, practical. Motion pictures I'm working on or viewing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I have my son and sometimes I am free for grownup activities.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm very open--ask me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have read my profile, are available, are intrigued, believe in meeting in real life right away, act like an adult and actively practice the Golden Rule.