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Red-white-n-blu

44 Clayton, NC Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 34–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 10:59am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.58m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Dislikes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am looking for someone I click with but can be friends first. Someone I can talk to about meaningful and meaningless things. Someone I can spend time with and who I know thinks about me everyday because he lets me know he does and someone who can be playful. I love intellect and brains but I work with a lot of people in that category and I want my down time spent with someone who knows how to laugh, play and enjoy things in life other than their main profession.
I have come to understand that successful relationships are lasting when people have mutual goals about how to impact the world so I would love to talk about and hear about the legacy you want to leave and the mark you want to make and how you want to leave the world a better place.
I love the beach and the mountains - both are majestic and awe-inspiring. Surf shops love me because I pay well above retail for the sunscreen that I undoubtedly forgot to pack and if I refuse I will burn to a crisp!
I'm happily employed in the field that I studied in school and hold a professional license in an unrelated field. I enjoy my home and North Carolina a whole lot. Cooking together is really enjoyable. As much as I enjoy the cooking part, I'll own up to the fact that I hate the clean up part. Oh and cooking means whole foods and real ingredients...not warming up something from a box or a can.
I am not into TV or sports or drinking so would love to meet someone who enjoys other things. I'm up to trying something new to learn about one of your interests if you are willing to do the same.
I love live music and love to sing...all the time, anywhere...solo, in groups, in the shower or in the car. I play piano and recently started playing acoustic guitar.
I'm not a huge outdoors person but went kayaking this fall out in the coast and loved it. If you are up for that I'd be game.
Fall and Winter in Raleigh bring lots of opportunities for concerts and plays but finding things to do outdoors once the weather cools off is more challenging. I stay busy but made a decision about 8 years ago to work reasonable hours and spend more time with friends and family...good choice...I am looking for someone who does the same!
I am a happy Mom of two kids of whom I share joint custody, so I have a week with them and a week without them. Eventually I would love to meet someone who could be part of all of our lives, but to start I have every other week free to get to know someone and am in no hurry to introduce anyone to my kids.
I am also Christian and Republican. Sharing my faith is a need to have...sharing my political beliefs is a nice to have, but both are pretty important to me. My political views are mostly grounded in economics...not a big fan of government involvement in our lives or of handouts. Give a man a fish kind if thing...I have friends of every race and faith and sexual orientation so ask before you assume I am something I probably am not. I'm open to passionate debates. Even if you disagree with me, have an opinion! I can respect people with opposing views as long as they are passionate about them rather than apathetic.
I also read something quoted from Mother Teresa with which I really resonated,
"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the work the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway." * side note...I met someone here who actually ordered that quote as a poster and gave it to me on our first date! That was by far one of the best gifts I have ever received.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working and planning! I am raising two kids and planning for our future. I'm seeking ways to improve myself physically, mentally, spiritually and intellectually. I usually prefer to stay in the States but I have been thinking about a trip to Italy. If you've been, let me know what you loved or where I should visit. I've also had several recommendations for France so would love to hear about recommendations for that as well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Juggling a lot of schedules. Remembering details. Writing when I am passionate about a subject. Singing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I LOVE MUSIC. I attend live events as often as possible. If you play, I will already have a weakness for you! I can't help it...musicians are hot! I prefer small venues over the Creek. I love just about everything...classic rock, 80's, 90's, hip-hop, blue grass, country, classical and jazz.
I don't watch TV...when the world went digital I did not! I'm finding more and more people who have done the same, we called it the "unplugged" movement and I really don't miss it.
That said I love movies...too many to list but I prefer comedies and dramas. I don't do horror at all and only rarely do sci-fi.
My favorite author is Neal Stephenson...Cryptonomicon is by far the best book ever written. But I am just as happy with Harry Potter which was really a very clever series. Never read 50 Shades and have no intention of ever reading it or seeing the movie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee and friends
Music
My car
My job...love what I do and income is sort of one of those necessities.
Love and affection
God, freedom and the USA.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the perfect relationship...a perfect combination of strong physical attraction and emotional connection results in trust, lots of laughter and happiness...what my kids will be when they grow up?..how I can pay off my house early so that retirement is comfortable?
More recently I have been thinking about differences in people and cultures and why Americans seem to settle for mediocrity rather than striving for excellence and why so many people are just not at all willing to go out of their comfort zone to learn something new.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Well, every other Friday it's nacho movie night with the kids. On "my" Friday night, I haven't had typical in quite a while. During the summer though I like to eat outdoors, attend just about anything with live music and go to the outdoor movies at the museum in Raleigh.
You should message me if
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-you are nearby and resonate with something in my profile...I'd love to get to know people I actually have a chance of meeting.
-you are single (in my world this should really go without saying) but please be single, not married, separated, engaged or "seeing someone". I am on board if you date casually in the process of getting to know someone, but once you find your match (and this sometimes really takes a lot of time and soul-searching), don't screw it up by continuing to look in hopes of finding something better!
- You are legally and emotionally available! (not too recently widowed or divorced.) If you haven't taken at least a year to grieve/adjust to being single again I would prefer not to be the transition girl. I get attached to people I like and it is hard when the other person isn't actually emotionally available. I am also all grown up and ready to move on. I would ask that you be also.
-You are interested in friendship as well as a long term relationship! And if you think that two independent people can make a really dynamic couple!
-if you can manage to put away your smart phone now and then...it's nice to have dinner with someone who isn't constantly checking their phone :)
- if you don't have to have the house set at 65 degrees in order to be comfortable!
- if your interests and ability to converse extend beyond sports and TV sitcoms