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Redhdwithspirit

44 Washington, DC Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 31–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Jul 5, 2011
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Politics / Government
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm articulate, a little quirky, passionate in soul, sometimes reserved but never shy. I am heavily into spirituality, irony, decadent food, and laughing (with, not at). I am not at all in your face, but often have opinions about current events and can get kinda fired up about them.

My faith is very important to me, but not in a way that makes me into judging others, or that prevents me from cussing if the occasion really calls for it. God and I have a kind of messy relationship sometimes, but we’re both in it for the long haul.

I am would love to meet a guy who shares my interest in spirituality, my conviction that God/the spirit can powerfully speak to our lives, and my observation that in many situations God's power is not real apparent to the naked eye. In related news, I am definitely *not* someone who believes I know God's plan for your life.

Further random information: My personal goals include living each day to its fullest, painting a giant copy of Hokusai's "The Great Wave" on the wall of my bathroom, and learning to make really good naan (right now I can only make non-naan). I have worn my copy of Washingtonian Magazine’s Cheap Eats edition to rags, and have a little bit of crush on Chairman Kaga. I'm not saying I have a geeky side, but I did once spontaneously design and sew a Klein bottle hat for a friend. I came by my interest in bluegrass music honestly - not from O Brother Where Art Thou, but from falling in entirely unrequited love with a boy from Tennessee.

Really, really random information: I have learned from unexpected experience that, when you find yourself in a medium-sized room with Michelle Shocked and a few dozen people, and she instructs you to sing "Kum Ba Yah," then you darn well _sing_ Kum Ba Yah, and it _changes your freakin' life_.

I am articulate, crafty, and a peace-lovin' Xtian
What I’m doing with my life
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By day, I work for a Christian social-justice advocacy nonprofit. I really love it - at our best, we speak truth to power.

By night - ok, evening - I like to relax with friends (as opposed to all those people who, um, prefer to be anxious with their friends). Also enjoy cooking, reading, and sledding downhill yelling like a berserker.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Enthusiasm for changing the world in ridiculously small or large ways. Silliness. Strategic thinking about messaging, with the goal of changing the world, etc. Cooking a medium-sized repertoire of really good food (my pain de campagne has been certified, by official DSM-IV criteria, to be insanely delicious). Wasting time. Not wasting time.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A friend says "your dry wit," which is exactly what I hoped she'd say.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Kris Delmhorst. John Case. Dar Williams. Bessie Smith. Over the Rhine. Michelle Shocked. Any carbon-based life form wielding an acoustic guitar.

Books: I have a lifelong love of science fiction, low and high: John Barnes (Giraut series); Ursula! le! Guin!; Heinlein juvies (but I only like libertarianism in his world, not ours). I sometimes dip into the nineteenth century (Charlotte, not Emily; Gaskell, not Eliot). A sprinkling of poetry. Also like reading Jasper Fforde; the Washington Post; and (always!) the Onion.

Don't get to the movies all that often, but enjoy it when I do. Also like pre-1950 flicks (Katherine Hepburn over Audrey).

Food? Home-grown tomatoes. Edamame. Homemade dal. Peking duck. Freshly baked bread. Walnut brownies. Tofu skins with fried ginger. Bacon. Hummus. You name it - if I am not allergic to it, I will try it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends. Prayin'. Farmer's market. NPR. Chocolate. Ursula! le! Guin!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Four years ago, I survived lymphoma. This left me with huge enthusiasm for life (yay!) The treatments beat up my spinal cord a little, though. Although I stay fit at the gym, I limp a bit and, on the sidewalk, use a cane to avoid tripping. So, basically, I am just like House, with the lightning-fast wit! Only, not a sociopathic, religion-hating drug addict.
You should message me if
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You’re a thoughtful, spiritually-oriented, articulate guy who's passionate about God, life, and/or maybe changing the world (or just a little bit of it). You might be a bit overeducated, geeky, or quirky. Probably you have at least one pocket of expertise which you enjoy talking about - banjo playing, chemical engineering, politics, nonviolent civil disobedience, physics… message me and tell me all about it! You enjoy both strategizing and silliness. I like to take romance a little slow at first, so if you are a love-at-first-sight type, that might be a little awkward.

I've been in town for eight years now, which it turns out is long enough to have made a middling-high number of friends. This is why, despite the impressively high quality of interesting people using this site to look for platonic friends, I'm pretty much here to look for friends I could potentially smooch: i.e, who live in driving distance of DC, and - this is not a judging-others thing, just a things-in-common thing - have some kind of ongoing, probably Jesus-related, spiritual practice involving a community - church, prayer, recidivist hanging out at the Catholic Worker, etc. Or, Quaker meeting - I have huge respect for people with the guts to sit still and listen to what the Spirit is telling them.

OkCupid does not have a "describe your politics" category, so I'll just say that I am prayerfully considering engaging in nonviolent civil disobedience in the next year or two to protest U.S. intransigence on fighting global warming. (I will only do this if the protest is well-planned in advance to communicate as thoughtfully as possible). If this makes you think, "That woman is nuts," then we are probably not compatible.

P.S. I'm fairly often attracted to guys who are a couple years younger than me. If, on the other hand, you are in your 50s (or 20s), I can admire and respect you as a person, but we are not meant to be as a couple.