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34 • Denver, CO • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Nov 3, 2014
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Strictly anything
- When drinking
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Leo, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from two-year college
- Less than $20,000
- Open relationship
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)
"Vigorus omnia enim res, et discere cum vive adversitatum" -Self (language Latin)
Words... I can't say how much I love using them and smithing (gotta love autocorrect, tried to change to "Smiting" LOL) them into things to closely as possible resemble how I feel and how I see the world. I'm polyamorous, transsexual, queer, gender-fluid though primarily transfeminine and into seeking committed to semi-committed partnerships. Generally speaking, I don't have sex with people I don't know, don't trust. Essentially, I've spent time exploring my poly side, found poly relationships, and want some partners that are more local. I have one so far. I tend to go for more emotional commitment with my partners, because emotions drive my sexual side. Just how I am.
I am enjoy being around people who defy conventions of sexuality and gender given by our culture, as well as those who redefine those things through their bodies and expressions. I don't like stereotypes. Your gender is what you make of it. I am a philosopher, writer, musician, artist, and a creative soul. My mind is like a furnace constantly making new things. That is the path I'll forge into the world from now on.
The kind of person I am going to be happy with has to know me, the whole real me in order for it to work. I am a walking contradiction, being both emotional and logical, abstract but somehow through it being strangely able to be practical too. I am also a disabled veteran, which I felt it was important for people to know.
I am an artist, a lover, empathic, cat-like, vampire-like, playful, cuddly, and gentle spirit
I am currently working on writing a book. You can also check out my renetascian deviantart profile, or renetaxian wordpress blog.
I am also good at introspection, philosophy, and logically or emotionally dissecting things to understand them. Like when it comes to issues relating to oversimplified or outright false cultural dogmas (gender binary, heteronormativity, cissexism, heterosexism, mononormativity).
That said, I'm always keen for a good debate, political or otherwise. But if you try to proselytize me I'll send you running away with your tail between your legs. And no, that's not a challenge.
I also don't deal well with, or put up with bigotry. Who should have to put up with that?
Movies: The Man From Earth, Seeking Friend for the End of the World, Serenity, What Dreams May Come, The never-ending story (I know, Nerdy), The Sorcerers Apprentice, Armageddon, Super Hero/Heroine Flix, Ah! My Goddess, Howls Moving Castle, and others.
TV Shows: Firefly, Ah! My Goddess, Kiddy Grade, Warehouse 13, Teen Wolf TV(2011), Kyle XY, X-Files, X'amd: The lost memory, Blood+, Star Trek, Reading Rainbow, Bill Nye the Science Guy, tonnes of anime, and many others.
Music: VNV Nation, Assemblage 23, Celldweller, Pearl Jam, Pink Floyd, Queen, Scissor Sisters, The Darkness, Kylee, Utada, Hyde, Linkin Park, Enya, HIM, Fuel, Dream Theater, Nirgilis, 3 Days Grace, Blue Stahli (Voxis), D'espairs Ray, A perfect circle, Boom Boom Satellites, Breaking Benjamin, Chevelle, Chicago (some of the classic love songs), Colony 5, Crowded House, The Cranberries, Dishwalla, Enigma, Erasure, Eve 6, and many hundreds more...
Family and Friends (whether they be by blood or not)
Human touch (either giving or receiving)
Herbs (For cooking)
Drawing Supplies (Things that can be used to create art)
Love (kind goes hand in hand with the above touch)
I think about science and technology a lot, and generally about ways to make the world better. I have a wild imagination, and my dreams are extremely vivid by average standards. I also occasionally have romantic daydreams when I am so inclined. I don't think about sex very often if at all, unless the right person gives me reason too.
Also, I am totally okay with answering questions about my transition but I will not post that in my profile. Ask if I'm willing to answer questions first, and make sure you let me know if some of the questions will be invasive. Most of the time I'm kosher, just don't assume I am. That's kind of within the realm of this because it's upsetting when people don't use tact around that matter, especially since if given respected in that regards I am willing to tell everything. Well, that isn't terribly secret for people who know about trans people and gender dysphoria, but it seems like people have no clue how upsetting it can be when people walk all over that.
I'm not an educator, and I will help people understand when I'm in the mood. Just don't assume I'm in the mood to acquaint you with trans experience right off the bat. If I warm up to you, I'll tell you everything.
...you are an amazingly queer person who is trans friendly.
...you are an awesome non-binary/genderqueer/genderfuck person.
...you treat me as a person. I don't care if you treat me in the socially attributed way people treat women or not. Just treat me like a person and respect my identity.
...you think I am cute and want to date me, or have sex with me (so long as you're looking for a committal friendly relationship, serious or not).
...you want to be a good friend and hang out with me.
...you want to cuddle up with me and be close to me in the hopes of making me your partner.
...you want to give your best wishes.
...you like me and respect my gender as is.
...you'd like to be with a woman who understands herself.
...you don't mind your women being shy, but confident in themselves (and also a little kinky once you get me alone).
...you like liberal independent thinkers, or people who use reason to sort out the nature of the world.
...you like or respect atheists.
...you like science and want to talk about rad sciency shit.
...you want to take over the world with me (Just kidding... sort of... SHHHH, it's a secret. Helping me build the secret base is included in this. Don't tell anyone.)
You should not message me if...
...you are transphobic or homophobic.
...you have an issue with "trans bodies".
...you are racist, sexist, fat-phobic, misogynistic, femmephobic, hateful of polyamory, prolytizingly religious, et cetera. (I don't tolerate prejudice, period. If you are willing to listen, and reevaluate I might give you a parole period to figure it out. I'm not hear to school you about how not to be an asshat, so don't expect me to)
...you are seeking "The best of both worlds", which I am not.
...you want a fling (not that I'm anti- I just want more emotionally committed partners/lovers).
...you want to experiment with me because I am trans.
...your only reason for messaging me is out of having a fetish for transsexuals.
...you want to bash me, insult me, or talk bad about GLBTQ+, poly, or other sexual or gender minority people.
...you are a troll. (Outside of those cute little key chains from the 90s, however it is unlikely one of them would be messaging me.)
...you don't respect my gender as is.
... if it's your intention to convert or change me.
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