18 years after leaving home I'm finally back. Truth be told I still can't believe I moved to a small town, after spending my entire adult life in cities. Either what I want has shifted or I've lost my mind...it's time to dig up some old roots and put down some new ones. My path has been a winding one, but I wouldn't change a thing.
I have the curiosity and delight of a child, the self awareness of an old woman, the politics of a hippy and the values of a southern girl. At least that's what I like to think.
I'm passionate, excitable and opinionated but I'm also open and always changing. I've got zero need to be RIGHT. I'd much rather be learning. I've also got zero need to be in charge or demanding, as I notice many women do. Being responsible and making decisions for myself is plenty-I've got no interest in bossing anyone else around.
Things I do: Just moved back so it's a little TBD...I'm working at the best restaurant in Healdsburg. I volunteer with non-profit dog rescues (I co-founded one that's still thriving in Seattle). In Seattle I made my living as a stage actress and I miss having art in my life. I drive a stick shift, think too much, make lists and then lose or forget them, smile at people on the street even if I'm in a snarky mood, appreciate the finer things as well as the simpler ones (quality isn't determined by cost), break rules when they don't make sense...
Things I am: sensitive, intense, compassionate, curious, honest, energetic, silly, goofy, bright, crude, smart, smart ass, passionate, loving, loving, really loving...I wish I were better at solo adventure, but alas...maybe that's where you come in?
Things I love: true friends, being generous of spirit, wine, thrift stores, live music outdoors, dawdling, smart movies (preferably ones made with little money and lots of heart), my family, lazy mornings, coffee, carbs, red meat, unexpected connections, animals, figuring out how to fix stuff, my pup, dirt roads, a great jukebox, classic country music, laughing so hard I snort, people who ask questions, people who really listen, feeling comfortable and confident being myself, seasons, live sports, going to the gym, gardening, BBQ, road trips (love riding, hate driving), riding on the back of a motorcycle, Trader Joe's...the Dos XX/most interesting man in the world commercials. I think they're genius.
Things I'm not so fond of: pretension, f**ked up distribution of wealth, fundamentalists of any kind, greed, make up, malls/department stores/shopping in general unless it's for groceries, people who pass you on the right even when they know the lane is ending, techno music, technology problems that can't be fixed by unplugging and plugging back in, oysters/olives/pepperoni/melted cheese (I know, deal breaker for some people), driving, people who talk and don't listen, "lol" because chances are you're not! You're probably just smiling, best case scenario giggling silently on the inside, so it should be "JS" or "GSOTI"...this site has also made me very un-fond of the phrases "down to earth" and "partner in crime"-get creative kids!, when hipsters take over things I've always liked like thrift stores and Converse...If I admitted that I thought both "The Hangover" and "Wedding Crashers" were over-rated I'd probably never get another email again...
I grew up in a small town (Boonville, CA, pop 714) and it shows. I care more about who I'm with than what we're doing. I've never been motivated by money or status. If you're turned on by a woman with a title and a desk, I'm not your girl. If you're excited by someone whose biggest priority has always been connecting with and taking care of others, you might think I'm swell. I want to be half of a healthy partnership and hopefully have a family (not immediately-don't worry I won't demand that you spooey in a cup on our first date). Sometimes I'm surprised at how conventional I've turned out..
I could list all the usual cliche "wants" in a partner, but the reality is it all comes down to chemistry. I think we're all a little crazy. The trick is finding the crazy that works with your crazy (think Rib Eye and Syrah, or jeans and Chuck Taylors). And then having some crazy sexual attraction to round things out. I'm a sucker for salt and pepper hair, a well trimmed beard and a man in cowboy boots...or a suit...could those work together? Shit, that would be George W! I want to create a life with someone, not just live parallel lives. I think lovers/partners should inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves and be our biggest fans. I want butterflies. Here's to the adventure!