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37 F Healdsburg, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 31–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:17pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Strap in kids, it's a long one...

18 years after leaving home I'm finally back. I still can't believe I moved to a small town. It's wonderful for so many things. Dating and art? No so much...seems I might need to do some Southernly driving to find those things. It's time to dig up some old roots and put down some new ones. My path has been a winding one, but I wouldn't change a thing.

I have the curiosity and delight of a child, the self awareness of an old woman, the politics of a hippy and the values of a southern girl. At least that's what I like to think. People tell me I think outside of the box. There's a box?

I'm passionate, excitable and opinionated but I'm also open and always changing. I've got zero need to be RIGHT. I'd much rather be learning. I've also got zero need to be in charge or demanding, as I notice many women do. Being responsible and making decisions for myself is plenty-I've got no interest in bossing anyone else around.

Things I do: Just moved back so it's a little TBD...I'm working at an amazing restaurant. I volunteer with non-profit dog rescues (I co-founded one that's still thriving in Seattle). In Seattle I made my living as a stage actress and I miss having art in my life. I drive a stick shift, think too much, make lists and then lose or forget them, smile at people on the street even if I'm in a snarky mood, appreciate the finer things as well as the simpler ones (quality isn't determined by cost), break rules when they don't make sense...

Things I am: sensitive, intense, compassionate, curious, honest, energetic, silly, goofy, bright, crude, smart, smart ass, passionate, loving, loving, really loving...I wish I were better at solo adventure, but alas...maybe that's where you come in?

Things I love: true friends, being generous of spirit, wine, thrift stores, live music outdoors, dawdling, smart movies (preferably ones made with little money and lots of heart), my family, lazy mornings, coffee, carbs, red meat, unexpected connections, animals, figuring out how to fix stuff, my pup, dirt roads, a great jukebox, classic country music, laughing so hard I snort, people who ask questions, people who really listen, feeling comfortable and confident being myself, seasons, live sports, going to the gym, gardening, BBQ, road trips (love riding, hate driving), riding on the back of a motorcycle, Trader Joe's...the Dos XX/most interesting man in the world commercials. I think they're genius.

Things I'm not so fond of: pretension, f**ked up distribution of wealth, fundamentalists of any kind, greed, make up, malls/department stores/shopping in general unless it's for groceries, people who pass you on the right even when they know the lane is ending, techno music, technology problems that can't be fixed by unplugging and plugging back in, oysters/olives/pepperoni/melted cheese (I know, deal breaker for some people), driving, people who talk and don't listen, "lol" because chances are you're not! You're probably just smiling, best case scenario giggling silently on the inside, so it should be "JS" or "GSOTI"...this site has also made me very un-fond of the phrases "down to earth" and "partner in crime"-get creative kids!, when hipsters take over things I've always liked like thrift stores and Converse...If I admitted that I thought both "The Hangover" and "Wedding Crashers" were over-rated I'd probably never get another email again...

I grew up in a small town (Boonville, CA, pop 714) and it shows. I care more about who I'm with than what we're doing. I've never been motivated by money or status. If you're turned on by a woman with a title and a desk, I'm not your girl. If you're excited by someone whose biggest priority has always been connecting with and taking care of others, you might think I'm swell. I want to be half of a healthy partnership and hopefully have a family (not immediately-don't worry I won't demand that you spooey in a cup on our first date). Sometimes I'm surprised at how conventional I've turned out..

I could list all the usual cliche "wants" in a partner, but the reality is it all comes down to chemistry. I think we're all a little crazy. The trick is finding the crazy that works with your crazy (think Rib Eye and Syrah, or jeans and Chuck Taylors). And then having some crazy sexual attraction to round things out. I'm a sucker for salt and pepper hair, a well trimmed beard and a man in cowboy boots...or a suit...could those work together? Shit, that would be George W! I want to create a life with someone, not just live parallel lives. I think lovers/partners should inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves and be our biggest fans. I want butterflies. Here's to the adventure!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Don't ask me that! Jeez mom!!!!
Working as little as I have to in order to be financially stable and independent and trying to spend the rest of the time exploring, enjoying and loving!
In December I'm going to be in a play for the first time in 6 years. Here's hoping it's like riding a bike...
Saving dogs.
Being an amazing daughter and friend.
Trying to do the right thing.
Hoping to make a difference in the world, short and long term.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Loving people. Making people laugh. Multi-tasking. Shooting straight/avoiding bull shit. Dawdling. Smiling. Thinking on my feet. Being too hard on myself. Eating more than you. Taking "short cuts" that triple trip time and yet never turning around. Wasting time shopping for boys on this web site. Forgetting the one thing I went to the store for-yesterday I set out for protein powder and came home with new underwear and a frying pan...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my smile. It's huge.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I generally listen to a lot of the music I was raised on: Leonard Cohen (I've seen him twice in the last few years-the man is beyond brilliant), Dylan, Paul Simon, Johnny Cash, classic country, Gillian Welch, Stones, Van Morison, Gypsy Kings, Bowie, Talking Heads, punk get the picture:) Some newer stuff; Cold War Kids, Ghostland Observatory, Kings of Leon, Leslie and the Badgers, Sweet Secrets, Scissor Sisters, Milk Carton Kids, Passion Pit, elephant Revival, Chatham County Line, Mummford...some opera and most classical.

I'm a total book whore and will read anything that someone puts in front of me. Favorites: "Geek Love", Graham Greene, Michael Dorris, Michael Chabon, David Sedaris, T.C. Boyle, Sam Shepherd, Ann Lamott, Italo Calvino...

Movies...too many to even start but I'd have no problem never seeing another blockbuster again as long as I live.

Favorite T.V. shows...Arrested Development, Shameless, Friday Night Lights...

Food...I could live on good bread and meat. I'd be even happier if there were wine involved. I've been called a human garbage disposal more than once. I've no clue where it all goes...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
other people and the chance to get to know them
programable coffee maker
my friends, including my dog Beckett

realistically I should probably also add the gym-which keeps me sane...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
EVERYTHING!!!! All the time. Ugg.
What's next...
Whether I'm doing even a mediocre job at conveying who I am in words...
If my having short hair means everyone assumes I'm a lesbian. I'm not.
How people manage to write short profiles. How I just made mine even longer by writing that.
People who graduated from college and set out on a straight path...and are all settled n' shit. Imagine...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working or playing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a deep booming man voice and a crippling litthhhhpppp...?
My guiltiest pleasure is spray butter. It's butter THAT YOU CAN SPRAY!!!!!!
I suck at remembering to floss my teeth, but I've never had a cavity.
I go to the grocery store 5 times a week because it seems easier than planning ahead.
My prize possession is a canteen made out of a horse leg/hoof. It's the most disgusting thing ever. I got it in Tijuana right before I passed out.
I. LOVE. NEIL. DIAMOND. (if that's not private I don't know what is).
A boyfriend once got upset with me, saying "all you ever want to do is have sex and bar-b-que!!!" Consider yourself warned...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Thanks to guy's profiles, I've learned that girls are apparently obsessed with grammar and Ed Hardy. I don't give a shit if you're dyslexic and wear a tutu every day if you're an intelligent, compassionate, creative person.

Message me if...You're fire man. Or a drummer. If you're both just come over.
My best friend has said that I want a guy who looks like a lumber jack and thinks like an artist...

I'll be way more impressed if you can help me restore a 64 Ranchero than I will be if you drive a brand new sports car. In fact, if you pride yourself on your BMW/Porsche/etc. we probably don't have much in common....

You're willing to drive whatever distance it is to get to me. An email from SF that says "hey you should drive down so we can hang out" makes me assume I'll also be paying for dinner and opening my own door. If I reach out, I'll make the drive. I'm sure we're both worth it.

You have a dog and/or an unconventional schedule.

Most importantly...You find the best in others. You're physically fit. You return your cart at the grocery store. You want to hunt down some blue grass in this wonky city. You're willing to move slowly but are open to something real/serious (but in the super-fun serious way).