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53 • Silver Spring, MD • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 43–53
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Jan 23
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body type
- Other, and somewhat serious about it
- Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Politics / Government
- Rather not say
- Seeing Someone
- Has dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
I'm a fairly articulate, intelligent, humorous, poly, physically demonstrative, fit, socially liberal, playful, fiscally conservative middle-aged male with a penchant for the fairer sex. I'm a hound, a flirt, a womanizer, a ladies man. Or at least I'd like to be... the reality might not live up to my self-image. I'm the heavy-weight champ of flirting though... you'll tend to either swoon, riposte, laugh or throw something within a few moments of entering into the verbal boxing ring with me.
Oooo, and lest you wonder, I'm divorced, in a serious relationship with eclectia and polyamorous by clear and active choice, not for the "cool points". If you're looking for a single solitary soulmate to spend the elder years together with... I'm not about to accept monogamy ever again and I've found my other half after a quarter century with women who pale in comparison. If you're looking for a loyal friend, a lively debate, long passionate evenings, occasional food fights, laughter, and a view into the world of chaos (without drama) then you're in the right place.
I'm looking for friends, co-conspirators, partners, chewtoys and free spirits. My life is busy and full, but friends are the best thing I have, so who could say "No!" to more quality folks.
Bumper stickers on my car include "Stop Following Me", the fencing quote from Princess Bride, "If you think there's good in everyone then you haven't met everybody", "You can't have my Rights, I'm still using them!", a pentacle, various SCA kingdom badges with "Practice Safe Government - Use Kingdoms" and more.
My personal motto is "Nondumius Tedium" and it does tend to be accurate.
A note for the Gay Fellows out there: I'm bisexual because form matters less than function. I'm actually a Sapiosexual Sensualist, but almost no one understands that concept. There are men who stimulate me in all the right ways. You won't be my first, and you certainly won't be my last, man. Your "unit" is also not a super stick of Gaydonite that will convert me to my "true sexuality" and flip me to being Gay (or monogamous). It. Just. Won't. Happen. Girls are soft, boobies are fun, and they don't drool as much when they kiss. So, run back up to the third paragraph and read about being poly if you've got any questions, then re-read it inserting "bisexual" in opposition to "heterosexual or homosexual". Thanks!
A note for everyone about photos... please consider posting a headshot and a full body photo. It helps on deciding about the "looks" classification. I'm not looking for Twiggy, I'm looking for body language. You can be well past obese and still be sexy if you own your body, wear it with confidence, and believe in yourself. Please, show me that in your photo and I'll be Oh So Happy. Thanks again.
I am hilarious, intelligent, and open-minded
I've started a graduate degree in sustainability. I'm studying the craft brewing industry. Yes, I'll have a Master's Degree in Beer!
Trying to find time to pick the guitar back up after 35 years.
I'm also actively working on being a better feminist. In mid-life I'm working to become very aware of what supports my (mostly female) friends and what destroys them. I don't think I've ever been a force for evil, but I desire to become an active ally.
I've moved into my first "intentional community", a co-housing development in Silver Spring. Its an active and interesting community and I'm both amazed and perplexed by the place. I'm devoting a considerable amount of time trying to get to know the people here, understand their consensus model, and see if this is something that interests me as much as it interests my sweetie. Note that this has nothing to do with being poly... as far as I can tell we're an island in a sea of monogamy here.
Special K (who is eclectia here), air, beer, venison, cheeeeeese
Friends, Magic, Music, Sex, Books, Nature
Drhama Lhamas, guilt, head games, boundaries issues
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